My boyfriend lets gay guys hit on him and he's not bothered?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend swears up and down he's straight but he allows gay men to call him sxy.. aren't most straight men totally scared/bothered by this? He has one best friend that is gay and repeatedly his on him saying he wans to suck his d***.. etc. I am getting annoyed/worried that he is not bothered by this. They go out for coffee every weekend. Is this weird? The gay guy isalso twice my boyfriends age and always asks him to go to family functions with him.. I don't think my boyfriends gay but tisis def weird.

[Anonymous]

LMAO I'm sorry hun but your boyfriend is gay as hell. that older "best friend" is probably your bfs sugar daddy, he might be gay for pay and is involved in the gay lifestyle and using you as a beard. the writing's on the wall! I say this as someone with numerous gay friends, family members, I know gay males who mess with "straight" guys on the dl and they have taught me a lot about that lifestyle.im not just talking out of my ass when I tell you this. its not too many heterosexual guys who are very close friends with a gay man in the first place

[Asker]

He's not his sugar daddy hahaha.. he doesn't have a lot of money.. my boyfriend is richer than him.

[Anonymous]

either your boyfriend is gay on the down low or he is bisexual. I find "straight" guys who let gays be friendly with them very cool, but i will never date them ( can't take the risk) , they will forever stay in the friend zone even if they are attractive and attracted to me. I've seen one of my best friends bing turned into a beard by her boyfriend , it's very sad stuff, I will NEVER let it happen to me, never :)

[Echo1334]

Id just be upfront and ask him! Talk to him about it calmly and don't seem confrontational. Some guys are confident enough in their sexuality to not be bothered though. It really depends on the guy.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[SoberIrishman]

I have gay men hit on me enough out at a club I go to, I find nothing wrong with it. I just see is as a girl finding me attractive, but instead the girl has a penis. I'm not gonna be appauled by it simply because they are exercising their freedom of speech. No, I am not gay, I am just highly secure with my sexuality to be okay with it. Most men aren't.

[ketfoen]

I also have friends that found out they were gay later in life, we still talk and hang out and stuff, but they would never get it in their heads to hit on me, I wouldn't like it.

Dunno about the whole, he's comfortable with his sexuality thing, I have no experiences in that.

[l-hedoniste]

So a gay guy thinks I'm hot. And? Why would I be afraid, is there something to fear? Why would I be bothered, did he insult me? What would be the point, exactly, of me getting worked up over this?

[Asker]

you make no sense. at all. go to school.

[Belgie]

It sounds like he's just not homophobic.

This is common enough today, and your paranoia is a sign of your own insecurity.

[Anonymous]

Clearly an appropriate response is to beat that f**'s ass. You're a loser.

[Anonymous]

i mean I am not gay but if I had a girl friend that kept hitting on me I would end the friendship. so that he continues to let it happen shows me he likes the attention. y? maybe his bi because I wouldn't like the attention of a girl like that I would be creeped out

[Anonymous]

Okay not everyone is homophobic and compliments help self esteem. But the best friend thing makes me curious... I think he may be in the closet, even hiding from himself.

[Anonymous]

You're boyfriend is a secure adult and clearly way out of your league. You should definitely break up with him.

[Asker]

How is he out of my league.. hahahaa

[Opinion Owner]

Because you're a judgmental immature insecure homophobe who's hung up on something stupid, and he isn't. He's a much better person than you are on this basis alone.

[Asker]

umm ya no.. I'm not a homophobe, I have a gay friend.. don't really think its stupid to be worried that my boyfriend allows men to call him sexy.. its gross. Plus he has nothing to be hung up on about me so that doesn't make sense. Considering you don't know him that's kind of an ill advised statement to make.

[Opinion Owner]

lol "it's gross" but you're not a homophobe, you have a gay friend. LMAO

[Asker]

Ya just like id be gross if a nasty girl hit on my boyfriend. go get laid, maybe by f** if that's what your so interested in since your so offended by this.

[Opinion Owner]

LMAO now you're calling me a f**, but you're not a homophobe. Seriously, you are an ignorant child.

[Asker]

Nope its called freedom of speech. I'm not ignorant I just care what people think of me and that includes whether or not my boyfriend is making a fool of himself and me. Some people do care about this thing calles a reputation. Not so much as whether or not people think I'm judgy. Its how somepeople get places in life.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, you have the freedom to expose yourself as a bigot, I agree.

[Asker]

hahah whatever your opinion doest matter

[Opinion Owner]

Actually, it's your opinion which does not matter, you're a dying breed.

[Asker]

haha whatever you say.. pretty sure this site isn't the only form of entertainment in my life as it probably is yours.. what are you sitting at home in your moms basement with no gf.. I thought so.

[Opinion Owner]

no hon. I'm supporting myself, unlike you.

[Asker]

Ya OK whatever you want to call it, and its funny that you don't even know me and assume I don't support myself.. I'm in school to be a lawyer and have my own apartment.. don't worry its me who will be paying your welfare checks at the end of the month.

[Opinion Owner]

Um, excuse me but you started down that particular road dear.