My boyfriend licked my butthole while I was sleeping?

The title pretty much speaks for itself... we had sex the prior night before going to sleep. Then in the middle of the night I felt this slimy thing crawling up my buttcrack and immmediatly woke up screaming... I thought it was some sort of insect or something but it turned out to be my boyfriend down there. I freaked out and asked him wtf he was doing and he told me to "relax" that it it was just something he found on the internet. I was so disgusted that I immediately left, now I'm at my bffs house and he's already called several times but I'm just too disturbed too pick up. Should I break up with him?
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  • It's like touching you when you're asleep, not ok. He obviously did it because he thought you found it weird, obviously a big red flag he did it anyway without your promission. But it al depends on your relationship, if you can't handle it, just let him go. Maybe hear him out?

    Ps. Dont pay attantion to the perverted single guys in the comment section dating stuff like: "perfectly normal" "poor guy". He's in the wrong here!

  • it's called being adventurous in bed.. why do girls like you make a big deal out of EVERYTHING... if you didn't like it then just say you didn't.. you had sex.. it's not like you're a kid and he violated you somehow.. just communicate and tell him he caught you off guard and maybe that's why you didn't like it.. simple as that.. he should be the one breaking up with you.. I bet you two have a boring af sex life..

    • lmfao I second this

    • @archiz thanks doll face!

    • :) <3 <3

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  • O the dam internet again. Have your best freind pick up and talk to him. She can tell him that your not ready to talk yet. Don't break up with him but do tell him that , that was not at all appropriate and that he has to clear things with you before he tries them. Compare it to something that you would never do without asking him. Like you would never fuck him with a strap on while he was asleep.

  • Some people are into anus/scat/piss-related sex. That's too fucked-up for me... and I'm pretty fucked-up.

    I swear, if I ever have to go to prison, I am having tattoos of these traffic signs put on my butt:
    1. STOP
    2. DO NOT ENTER
    3. ONE WAY
    4. EXIT ONLY

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  • Perhaps you should make it clear he should ask before doing anything and or make sure it's consensual.. perhaps he thought he'd be doing something sexy when in general it did the opposite.

  • Make it clear that your butthole belongs to you. You can't just start licking someone... anywhere... without their permission or conscious awareness. Not cool.

    • Yes very true I agree nice words

  • That's really not ok... if he wanted to try something new, he had a responsibility to ASK... the fact that he'd just perform a sexual act on you while you were sleeping shows a callous disregard for your bodily integrity.

    In short, yes, break up with him.

  • It definitely deserves a conversation but to be honest I think a level
    Of trust had been broken here

  • Feeling immature right now because this made me laugh XD
    But really maybe you should just talk to him and tell him it made you uncomfortable and not to do it again. If he does it again anyway, then consider breaking up with him because at that point that's him not respecting your boundaries. Obviously at this point it's just a misunderstanding because I guess he thought you would like that or something... but apparently you don't, lol, so.

  • Haha, he was probably just curious and too nervous to ask you to let him try it. If you're gonna break up with him over this I think you guys got other problems though haha

  • he's nasty.

  • Do you know how hard it is to find a guy into rimming? You want to break up with him for trying to experiment with a new way to please you? Pass him over to me. Thank you.

    • well, over here :)

  • I don't blame you for being disgusted...

  • yes. break up. not just because its disgusting, but because he violated you in you're sleep. he can't be trusted.

  • It's called rimming and is much more common than you'd think. I'm into that too. It's a harmless fetish

    • Not when it's performed without the persons permission...

    • @Sara413 I disagree. Besides if you're giving your woman oral and don't include her butthole you're not doing it right anyway

    • @joseyyywhales ah, thank you for the respectful and we'll reasoned debate.

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  • Definitely break up with him. there's no way of knowing what other perversions he may want to perform on your helpless sexy body.

  • If you're even considering breaking up with him over this then yes, you should. He'll be better off.

    • Um... He performed a sexual act on her while she was asleep. Without her permission. How is she the one in the wrong here?

    • It's so not ok to do that while you think she's asleep. Would you touch a girl while she's out?

    • @Sara413 Women do the same to men with oral every morning, but I see your point. Licking an asshole is a lot more unorthodox to say in the least and thus he should have asked her first.

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  • This is only comon if

    A he was raised by dogs or wolves.
    Or
    B he is a rapisist or potential rapists.
    Ither wise he would have asked consent.

  • Calm down... maybe it genuinely turns him on. I guess the way he approached it (while you were asleep) is kinda creepy hahaha.. but you trust him, don't you?

  • Rimming won't hurt you if he doesn't do a cunnilingus after it. He might get an infection from rimming.

  • That ain't right.

  • LMAOOO DONT BREAK UP WITH HIM, it's fine haha just tell him to warn you next time😂😂!

  • if you want to, sure. i think it was wrong for him to do that without your permission

  • He definitely should have asked first

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