My boyfriend likes sexy pics of women on Instagram. Are all men like this?

I’ve already talked to him about how I feel about this. I don’t like it. It feels disrespectful and inappropriate. He stopped doing it for a while, but recently started again. I’ve seen him liking pictures of women in bikinis, in their bras and panties, posing sexually in bed.

I’m very frustrated by this and considering leaving him. Am I just being sensitive? Are these really just “likes” on social media?
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  • It honestly depends on what you derive as sexy, truthfully women like to believe that they are the sun moon and stars and sky. Therefore the guy doesn't need to do any of that and if they do then leaves a woman to question their worth Beauty or validity and his life. It's me totally honest with you it's no more different than when you have your movie star crushes or entertainer crushes the only thing is these individuals on Instagram have no name and somehow you will view them as a threat or it draws out of insecurity because you only one person and can't look like several different ones that perhaps is appealing to your guy. But here's the thing he is with you, if those women mad at so much more and I know granted you're thinking if they don't matter at all he shouldn't like the pictures that's the thing he likes the picture he loves or is infatuated exclusively with you. Do we see the winner

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  • I love sexy pictures but I don't go on Instagram and even look at them I would rather look at a picture of somebody that I know and that I communicate with because that's what makes the whole thing work that's what makes the whole thing come together there's no way I would just go and look at pictures or download pictures I think that's stupid why doesn't he have pictures of you why does he have to go there

Most Helpful Girls

  • I guess I would ask you, do you find men attractive? Or do you no longer find them attractive because you are with a guy? Like a button got pushed that made guys unattractive as soon as you started dating your boyfriend. Humans will always find other humans attractive. He loves you but he is still going to be attracted to women in general. I can only speak from my own personal point of view but if I'm in a relationship I love my boyfriend but I still check out other hot guys. My boyfriend gets to be with me in the end but everyone will always look.

    • I do still find other men attractive but I don’t put any action behind it. I don’t gawk at them in public or like inappropriate pics of them. I get what you’re saying, he’s with me yes. But I think it crosses a line when he’s liking photos that are sexual or of womens bodies.

  • Everyone is different and has different boundaries, but for me it depends who's pictures he's liking. If it's female celebrities who get a lot of attention anyway, that's fine by me. They're attractive so what. But if it's just other random girls who he knows and could get with in real life, that's very disrespectful. And any guy telling you otherwise is trying to get away with the behaviour by gaslighting you

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  • No, most guys like to see them anywhere and everywhere they can... lol

    It's going to be hard to find a guy that doesn't like them in my opinion... just saying

  • I think you made up your mind that you want to break up with him and you are here just to get push or something like that... So you can actually do that... And if you already made up your mind then there is no point asking here... Just do it... Despite you will hurt his feelings and all... But who cares... Right...

  • yep just let them

    • No it is not common I would only take your pics

    • NO, you shouldn't. If the person your with doesn't repect you enough to stop then you shouldn't be with them.

  • No, just losers.

  • My guy definitely don't do that.(he doesn't use any social media) but I see no issue with it tho like there just pics. Same thing as watching porn.

  • I feel like it's one thing to look and another to like. But I guess it depends on what exactly the posts are.

    • These are sexual photos. Women posing sexually in bed, with their asses and titties out.

    • A lot of guys do that and all but personally I always felt like doing that is kinda grimey.

  • I don't 'like' any women on Instagram. I leave that for the simps giving them free validation...

  • It’s very inappropriate. Period.
    I realize guys will be guys but it’s disrespectful towards u an ur feelings. I’d say talk to him but u did. Honestly ……. I think it’s Peeviii…. Probably ends leading to something else. This is jus on girls opinion but that it. 🥰 Good luck hun.

  • I don't even have Instagram... many friends I have, do not use it either...

  • No not all guys, I don't, but there are a lot of guys who do, it's pretty harmless really as they don't know these girls, no different from looking at sexy pictures on Google.

    • But isn’t it bad that he continues to do it even though he knows I don’t like it?

    • Well if he has agreed not to then yes I guess so, but what is it you have against him looking at pictures?

  • It's a shitty thing to do when he knows how it makes you feel 🥴

    • My thoughts exactly. I don’t want to control him, but I also feel that he shouldn’t continue doing it since he knows how I feel.

    • Hey hi Johnny... How's ya today? I hope you had great laugh today. Lol 😂

    • @Sam_The_Savage Helloo Sam 😂 I'm good, my day is going okay. I should be studying but I'm spending time here instead 🤦🏻‍♀️😂 How are you? How is your day going?

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  • I don't browse instragram. No, not all men are like anything, no group is a monolith. If you've let your SO know that his behavior makes you unhappy and it continues, then he is willfully ignoring a boundary you'd set.

    What you do with that is up to you.

  • No not all guys do this but most guys will look to be fair if u don't like it and he won't stop u know what to do

    • You’re absolutely right. We’re in a lease together for the next year, but I want to find a way to get out of this relationship.

    • Then start going towards that

  • Of course we are. How does this affect you? Is he ignoring you to spend time on his computer?

  • It's just a like, nothing more. I don't see a problem with that. I do that all the time and my girlfriend doesn't make an issue of it.

    • Do you like sexual/sexy pics of other women? Or do you mean you like pics of other women? I don’t care about him liking normal pics but not the ones that are sexual. He tells me he does it because he likes the way their bodies look and I just hate hearing that. He didn’t need to tell me that

    • Yes, I do like sexy/sexual pics of other women. Could be friends, colleagues, artists... However, I never feel the need to explain to my girlfriend why I liked a specific picture. I believe one time she noticed that I gave a like to an Instagram post where an artist posted a nude photo of herself (of course with the naughty bits covered with emojis) and I told her I just liked the photo. I would not make it bigger than it is, I would not tell my girlfriend that another girl looks hot or something like that. No need to create or feed any insecurities.

    • Thanks for sharing your opinion. This helps me feel a little better and realize this must be common. I’m really just bothered by the disregard for my feelings on it, whether he agrees or not. And yeah, there’s really no point for him to mention his attraction to what he sees in the picture. I think it also bothers me a little more because we’ve had issues in the past with him blatantly staring at other women while we’re out in public. Not glancing or noticing, but full blown staring. There are times when I’m talking to him and he’s not even listening because he’s staring at another woman. I feel like he just has a wandering eye and I’m not fully comfortable with it. Also, I don’t do these things so it feels very disrespectful. If I can control my eyes and not blatantly gawk at other men in his presence, he should do the same

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  • I have never been on instagram, does he watch porn, if so are you ok with that?
    to me looking is one thing, commenting/likeing may not be the smartest thing for him to do, since you are not happy with it.

  • We like looking at women. It doesn't mean we like you any less.

  • Yes please give him a favour do break up...
    No one deserves headache like you.

    • You sound so single right now. Literally no one's going to want to be in a relationship with you if that's how you think.

    • Do I know you?

  • The amount of men in these comments saying it's just normal and that you're a terrible girlfriend is ridiculous.
    It's completely disrespectful, he shouldn't be actively searching for those kinds of photos let alone liking them. And I'm quite sure he would have a fit if you were doing the same thing. So to answer your question, no not all men do that. I have a boyfriend who's not a piece of shit.
    Do better guys. Seriously.

  • He is being an idiot. He shouldn't really do that. No we all aren't like him. Talk to him, he might have a specific reason we might have failed to notice

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