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Sexual Health My boyfriend literally chooses porn over me and I'm about to throw in the towel?
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Im crying my eyes out while writing this. My boyfriend and I are in our early 20s and we have sex everyday sometimes multiple times a day. He constantly masturbates. When I first got with him, we were in our late teens and we didn't live together and I couldn't see him all the time so it was perfectly normal that he would masturbate so much. As the years went on, I have now been living with him for a little over 6 months and this has been a continuous problem since I moved in. It doesn't matter how much I fuck him, as soon as I step out the door, he's on his phone on porn and jerking, as soon as I go to sleep, he turns on porn, as soon as I get in the shower, he turns on porn. He told me that he was trying to stop watching porn because he felt like it was bad for him. I was encouraging and told him that it was a good idea. He lasted without jerking for a whopping 4 days and he couldn't handle it and had to go back to doing it. This has broken me down and made me feel like garbage about myself. I compare myself to people in porn, I've developed body issues, I doubt my sexual abilities all the time, etc. I have sex with him EVERYDAY. Multiple times. And I'm pretty positive that he's cumming. He cums inside me and I feel it drip out. But since he constantly needs porn, i am pretty sure that I just don't satisfy him. I feel ugly and fat and honestly I have started hating myself over this. I keep telling myself that if I was enough for him, he wouldn't need to do this all the time. Tonight was the last straw, I woke up from a nap after I had fucked him earlier in the day and he was masturbating to porn. We started fighting and I was asking why I wasn't good enough and he was telling me that I'm manipulative and that he hates me. He tells me that he doesn't want me anymore after EVERY argument that we have. I'm about to give up and break up with him. I just want to know why I'm not enough sexually. I do everything he asks me to in bed and I fuck him so much.
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I keep threatening to stop having sex with him and he doesn't care. He yells at me and says, "FINE." I have never felt so ugly and undesired in my whole life. Why can't I be enough?
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I guess if I left, he wouldn't have me as a burden anymore and he wouldn't have to worry about bad sex with me. I guess I'm horrible at sex since porn is so very important to him. I give up. He's the love of my life. I don't know if I can keep feeling this way about myself though.
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7 34It’s a tough addiction. Like drugs. Maybe throw in the towel and see if that turns him.
Men have higher sex drive at this age
You are enough your making it about you when it's not at all. It's just his still horny not going wake you so you take care of yourself.
I have a pretty high sex drive as well and he knows I'll have sex with him anytime. But he still. waits until I go to sleep. It's like he's just waiting for. a chance to be alone with his porn. I literally fucked him earlier in the day. Does that mean it wasn't good enough? I've developed severe issues with myself over this.
Also I keep threatening to stop having sex with him and he doesn't care. What could I be doing wrong during sex to make him not care about fucking me and choosing porn over me?
I believe you have yourself worked up you are good enough and I'm sure he happy. Loads guys do this not going wake girl up cos we are horny so just watch porn and play.
Sex isn't something can threaten someone with
I'm just going to have to leave then. This is turning me into a person that I don't like to be.
Why do you have issue with him watching porn. As you say have sex a lot so he clearly in to you
It's the fact that I'm literally in the same room with him. If he's hormy again he knows I'll help him out. Guess I'm just not worth it.
You are asleep
I really like to masturbate to porn too ! Sometimes i wanna do this more than have sex with my girlfriend , but i love her and its just thT porn sometimes takes uou to places ! Maybe you coupd try to explore some fantasy with him ! To turn him on more than the porn :p
1st... his sex drive is 'Out of Control'... 2nd you could Never meet his needs... He needs a scoreboard, not a lover... you can embrace his lifestyle or move on
he is over sexed he needs counseling but if he only masturbates then he's not cheating on you it can be a mental issue and has nothing to do with you having sex with him if he cums then he is getting pleasure from you
What if he's masturbating to porn a couple hours after sex with me? The sex was really good and he came inside me, but when I woke up from a nap a couple hours later, he was masturbating. Was the sex not as good as I thought?
no, it's mental that's happens to men they need to get therapy is a mental disease not you, but he needs help
its like over eaters they can't stop eating or alcoholic's can't stop drinking even if they are drunk
if he was unhappy with sex with you, he won't get hard or cum for you
He has a very unhealthy addiction to porn. It's up to you to decide what you are willing to tolerate and then decide what is best for you.
What if he's masturbating to porn a couple hours after sex with me? The sex was really good and he came inside me, but when I woke up from a nap a couple hours later, he was masturbating. Was the sex not as good as I thought?
It has nothing to do with how good the sex was. He has a porn addiction and either can't or does not want to control it.
you have made the corrdct decision
throw the towell in
Time to dump him and move on. You're obviously uncompatible for the long. He doesn't deserve you and you know you can do better. Good luck girl
That sounds very toxic and unhealthy
I think it is time for you to move on from him
So I most likely don't satisfy him in bed?
You are looking at it all wrong This is clearly a very unhealthy relationship to be in.
I feel so inadequate. :( I understand. I've been thinking hard about leaving lately.
You feel insecure, he has an addiction, and nothing seems to be working out. It would be better for you to move on and find another person to be with. I am certain you are amazing! Beautiful! and any man would be lucky to be with you
What could be wrong with me to make him love porn so much? Like he literally would choose it over our relationship I'm pretty sure. Like during every argument he tells me he hates me and doesn't want me in his life. But after the argument, he loves me again and wants me. I've done everything to try and be a good girlfriend. I've done everything to try to be good enough at sex. I don't know what's wrong with me and my vagina.
He sounds very manipulative You need to leave him
Why would he have an addiction to porn in the first place if my pussy is good enough? It's not adding up. :(
I've tried all his kinks and I like them. I switch between being dominant and submissive. I let him cum inside me. I'm loud and enthusiastic during sex. I suck his penis. I kiss him. I let him eat me out. I sit on his face. I let him do multiple positions with me. I try to be good sexually. Maybe the problem is just literally something I can't fix, like my vag being loose or some shit?
Its not for you to worry about It is a to relationship. time to leave it
Please stop :) You are too negative.
I just want to know why I'm not good enough. Sorry. Thanks for the answer. :(
Its okay, if you want someone to talk to I am here Just please stop being so negative
Not for nothing, 4 days is pretty good. I look at porn everyday. Not just to pull it but to keep my blood pumping. It helps keep me focused on life goals. If he's hiding it then I would say it's an addiction, but I'm no professional.
I feel like less of a woman because I can't satisfy my man
Are you hot? I ask because women know if they're hot or not. maybe he is not attracted to you physically? Hope my honesty isn't too harsh.
No I really don't think so. But again, I've had terrible self esteem issues since I was a kid...
What if he's looking at porn and masturbating a couple hours after sex? The sex was really good and he came inside me, but when I woke up from a nap a couple hours later, he was masturbating... was the sex not as good as I thought?
Sounds more like an addiction. On the other hand he could just have a large appetite. Some people have strong libido. Quick recovery, recharge or rejuvenate time. Lol if he's cumming inside of you he's attracted to you.
Yeah but if he's wanting to masturbate after he has sex with me while I'm asleep, was he not satisfied by the sex we had just an hour or two before?
Check out the libido. Find out what I mean.
So it doesn't mean I'm not satisfying him then?
That's not what I'm saying
So am I satisfying him or no? Lol I'm very confused right now.
Your prefect
If you weren't having sex everyday then it would be a big problem but he still is having a lot of sex with you. But if you keep starting arguments that will ruin it. You should try talking to him about it, not starting a fight. If this will never end, then you need to find someone else.
What if he's masturbating to porn a couple hours after sex with me? The sex was really good and he came inside me, but when I woke up from a nap a couple hours later, he was masturbating. Was the sex not as good as I thought?
I'm sure it was good, maybe he just has a very high sex drive.
Does it mean he wasn't satisfied though? Like maybe he didn't cum very hard?
Maybe he just can't be satisfied, it's not you, it's him.
two things. 1. you're boring and lousy in bed 2. he likes seeing other women's boobs and other women not the same ones all the time. Going back to point 1. no communication from either of you's and you suck in bed poor technique and you don't know what the hell you're doing and most likely lay there like a useless bump on a log making him do all the work and possibly your pussy smells bad and he may not like how it smells and you could have big ugly areolas and he may not like them or your tits could be ugly looking weirdly shaped and he may not like that or your breath could smell bad especially if you smoke cigarettes. what positions do you do with him? what techniques? have you ever thought about watching some porn yourself and learning a few things?
You're a fucking ass hole.
@Lliam good i'm an asshole because i speak the truth i tell people what they need to hear not what they want to hear
Masturbation and natural visual fantasy is completely separate than sex...
just like a females natural mental fantasy and masturbation is completely different than sex.
It has absolutely nothing to do with you and whether you satisfy him sexually, he is a porn addict just like a drug addict.
There is nothing you can do if he isn't going to help himself, and you need to stop thinking it's got anything to do with you, he was most likely an addict long before you came along.
Just get out of that relationship and start healing yourself.
He is making your life miserable and making your doubt your own beauty and self worth. Life is too short to go through it feeling this way. It's time for you to move on even if it will hurt in the short term.
Why aren't I enough if I do literally everything he asks in bed and multiple times a day? If it's not multiple times a day, then it's still everyday that I do it with him.
I guess my vagina just isn't capable of satisfying him very well?
He's behaving like a jerk. He will never change. You are going above and beyond the call of duty to satisfy him. If he cums during intercourse it means he is satisfied and there is nothing wrong with your vagina.
If my vagina is good enough tho, why would he need to watch porn everyday?
He is an addict, just like and alcoholic. It's not your fault he has the disease. Only he can fix himself.
Could my vagina be too loose or something?
If he cums during intercourse, you are not too loose.