My boyfriend loves blowjobs, I hate it?

[Anonymous]

Though my boyfriend loves intercourse, he likes oral sex especially blowjobs a lot. And I hate it. I find it really disgusting and that swallowing thing makes me want to vomit. I can't swallow semen/sperm and the idea makes me sick. I ve never given a blowjob before mainly because my ex never wanted blowjobs. He found the idea of kissing private parts gross so it was never done. My boyfriend doesn't pressurize me but he did say he likes blowjobs and it would be nice we started giving each other. As much as I love pampering him and doing whatever he wants, this is one area I can't do it. I might do it if he's wearing a condom but swallowing is NO. What do I do?

[hellionthesage]

Try it with a condom then move into without a condom. The fact is the idea disgusts you but that is only your perception of it. What's the difference between the skin on his penis and every where else (other than more nerve endings) it's the same skin (in fact due to it being always covered its actually cleaner then other parts of him like his face/mouth/hands etc. Do really you have patches yourself out of the idea. So start with condom work to bare skin and then decide if you want to try swallowing or not, I had an ex who was against it until she actually tried it and then decided it wasn't so bad. I'm fact with my ex she wanted to be rimmed (analingus) I thought it was a disgusting idea but it was something that would make her happy so I did it (made sure everything was clean obviously) and it turned out not only was it not bad but I actually enjoyed it because she enjoyed it this will probably turn out the same way it's just how you think of it. When kissing him do you think about how good it feels and how intimate and soft it is it how there are sharp slicing things in there designed to cut meat coincidentally the very thing your lips and tongue are made if? Or how bacteria thrives in the mouth thanks to left over food particles or how he most definetly shot semidigested good and hydrochloric acid out into the very thing your putting your tongue? See, the first is nice the others are not but there all true. Hence me stating it's all on your perspective which truth you want to think about at that time (honestly when you really think about it every thing is pretty disgusting I mean every time a guy gives you flowers he is handing you a bundle of plant genitals, he castrated a plant to give you it's reproductive organs, like I said everything is weird and messed up if you bother to look at it that way.) Instead of thinking it's gross think about how soft the skin is the texture of it, look at his face see how much pleasure your giving him and realize he is feeling good because of what your doing (that's the kind of power you have over him) things like that. Once you start thinking like that choosing that perspective you will probably start to enjoy it.

[Asker]

There are so many other ways to give pleasure. What's the big deal about blowjobs though? And ejaculating in the mouth? That's so disgusting.

[hellionthesage]

Because it feels good because your partner would be really happy that you cared enough to think about him that you were willing to try because of him. Everything you do is disgusting so that's not really a good argument I already pointed that out. Why is ejaculate disgusting? If he ejaculated in you isn't it the same exact thing? It's still inside you it's composition has not changed. The fact is you don't want to do yourvthunking of every excuse you can in order to avoid doing it. I mean you do have that right but what happens when he decides he hates buying you flowers or taking you put does that mean your going to let him and not hold it against him? The fact is your in a relationship and that means going out of your way to make your partner happy that means putting forth effort and trying new things (with an open mind) if you don't then you have no right to expect him to do so for you, it's a five and take your suppose to be trying to make each other happy (which is why he isn't

[hellionthesage]

Forcing the issue despite really wanting it he has prioritized your wants over his own) so you should be asking yourself how to get over your disgust rather then how to avoid doing it all together. But again clearly you have decided he is not worth that effort so why ask the question if you have no intention of trying to put aside your feelings and make him happy? He does it for you all the time why is it that in this particular scenario you cannot?

[Asker]

He doesn't go down on me because i don't let him. I just don't like the idea of putting mouths to places from where we pee. And I don't expect him to go down on me because blowjobs or eating pussy is not important to me. Its just dirty to me As far as flowers , those are beautiful and they smell amazing. you can't compare a bunch of red roses to a penis or pussy

[Asker]

And swallowing semen is the worst. That is supposed to go in the vagina not in the mouth. Plus I ve heard the experience of women swallowing and the way they describe the taste it makes me wanna throw up. I am sure men would not swallow the white discharge we women. Its something I can't do. Even if I do try sucking, swallowing is no.

[Asker]

*women have

[Asker]

I would not swallow even if we get married. Love has nothing to do with not performing a specific sex position or fetish.

[hellionthesage]

I didn't say you didn't love him and I am not telling you to swallow or to even to give him oral sex what I am staying are the reasons why you should put forth the effort to try, if you try and can't at least you tried but by not even doing that much it does cause resentment. Wouldn't you like him to try something you want and he doesnt? If course you would it would show you how much he cares that he is willing to at least try to get out of his comfort zone for you, just as you would appreciate the effort so would he it's not necessary (though it would probably be nice for him) to always do it it's just the fact that you tried. And again right now you are arguing why you shouldn't have to rather then trying to figure out how to bring yourself to do it so I find this off did you have a bad experience?

[Asker]

No. I didn't have a bad experience. I ve never tried and the experiences people narrate sound a icky to me. Plus the fact that people demand the girls to swallow makes me want to throw up. So how can I even try when I find this so nauseating?

[hellionthesage]

As I said your psyching yourself out, you have never done it so you have no reason to respond the way you do, everything you do is disgusting like when you kiss him but that hasn't stopped you get why is this? Further more your fixating on one part of it, swallowing which is only one small part that can easily be avoided. That's why I stated you need to stop thinking it's gross and start thinking in other ways like thinking about how soft the skin is imagine what it will sound like when he moans while your doing it, what kind of face will be male how good will it make him feel etc.

[Partywithtom]

Okay, A) a good blowjob comes from the girls whom love to do it. B) A lot of women view it as a "chore". Don't want to or half ass it. We want you all up on that.

Tell him all of this and say it bothers you but (if you're willing) you'll try. Think of it as "how can I make him cum as hard as possible" rather than "yucky yucky" Read up on some dick sucking pamphlets lol. As for swallowing do what your comfortable with. I don't care either way. If you can spit it on and let it drop down you in a sexy way I still find that super hot. May take some time but you should WANT , no not HAVE please your partner. Goes for me too.

[tinyclit]

You are not sexually compatible with your current boyfriend. There are no doubt a few men out there with your same phobias, but they may be difficult to find. If you want to, if you have any motivation at all, even just a little, you can slowly over time work out and get over and lose your phobias. It will be well worth the effort and you will be much happier.

[Anonymous]

Sex is about 50/50. You both have to pleasure each other in ways you like. Especially if you've never done it, it's really not that bad. Why not look online for flavored lubes that you can slather on him, that way it just might taste better for you? And you don't have to swallow semen, he can always just put it on your boob or somewhere else.

[desidoll]

Both of you aren't sexually compatible. This is why I'd have discussion with my future partner before we get more serious. I doubt he wants to wear condom because he barely feel anything from it. Try to talk to him and tell him that you don't like doing it. Let him decide whether he can accept it.

[Asker]

Its not just him. It could be any guy. The idea just grosses me out. I am okay with everything else except swallowing or maybe sucking.

[desidoll]

Thanks for the MHO

[datgirl]

Lol I would prefer not to give blow jobs, but if it's something he really wanted then I would do it. But there no fucking way I'd swallow. Gross.

[AustinMan]

Tell us exactly what it is that you find so aversive about blow jobs, independent of swallowing. We'll get to that.

[Xfitchick]

The use other means to stimulate his penis. You have your hands, fingers, feet. If you are a muscular girl, I can give you another way.

[Jasmin0701]

Get him to drink something delicious a few hours beforehand, e. g. pineapple juice. I also prefer the taste of juice, when my boyfriend cums in my mouth.

[ArrowheadSW]

I have actually got blowjobs while wearing a condom, and it was fine. The woman who first did that with me put some water soluble lube in the tip. It was probably Astroglide. The condom slipped over me with the lube in it just like it was her mouth. It was great and I'd certainly do it again! You might think it is sexy to do that, if you don't want him to ejaculate in your mouth. This is a good alternative.

[ImKervin]

If you are willing to still to do a blowjob despite not liking it because you are more interested in him feeling good then that says a lot (Not a bad thing).

If you do not want to swallow then you can always spit... but again, you dont like blowjobs in general. So speak to him about it. Tell him that, if you are willing to make him feel good then Im positive he is willing to understand your wishes or conditions in giving blowjobs. Its best to confront him on the issue rather then continue and allowing it to prolong and getting you more frustrated or annoyed.

[SoWhAt249]

It's as simple as telling him that you won't do it... I had a girl who did not shave down regularly, and I told her that I won't eat her out until she shaved it... So the amount if head I gave her was a bare minimum... She didn't give me head when I didn't do it for her, but that was OK because I'm not too eager go get a blowjob... If someone doesn't like it, they don't have to give me head... I'd still give them a lot of it if they shave regularly... I love pleasing a girl with my mouth...

[TadCurious]

I don't know but I'm glad he's not pressurizing you. That could make you feel bloated.

[uknaked]

I think you need to reconsider whatever you have been told, or experienced before, semen cannot harm you, in fact is full of protein and actually good for you, having said that, the taste depends on what the guy has been eating, yes it does, the food intake flavours all bodily fluids, including semen.
I suspect that your problem is psychological, as long as the guy is healthy, and clean, there is no physical reason not to give a blow job, and him going down on you is the finest offering of sexual plerasure a guy can give a girl.
If his penis has been in your vagina it will of course taste of your natural lubrication, which is also flavoured by diet!
Maybe take it easy at first, just a few licks, you may be surprised what a turn on it can be for you!

[TripleAce]

Lol... ah well... we're not all meant to be great lovers in bed ya know

[vampireelf]

If you dont like it, just dont do it. He is going to survive even without blowjobs ;)
I hate blowjobs, too.

[archiz]

If you re gonna do it and look disgusted just better off without it honestly.
Enthusiasm is what makes it good even more than swallowing

[spoonman2014]

It is give and take, ask him to go down on you

[Oram52]

I'd honestly break up, its not just having to do it but the enthusiasm. Be with somebody who loves and enjoys giving blowjobs as much as I love eating her pussy. I doubt you'd be happy him not going down on you well majority of girls aren't.

Blow and swallow otherwise we're not compatible. I'd suggest finding a guy who's ok with it or see if you're boyfriend is ok with it if you only do it occasionally and spit it out.

[Asker]

I am not into going down so I don't mind if he doesn't go down on.

[blackcyborg]

Not to sound harsh but... if he forces you to do something, then you may want to ditch him.

He does own you and he should not dictate or force something like this on you

Just my opinion

[COCOCHANEL]

you don't have to swallow.
i never have.

[ThePostMan]

Practice. You've had a pacifier in your mouth. You've eaten a popsicle. You've been training for this your entire life. Now get in there and suck his cock like your drowning in ocean and his balls are full of oxygen.

[Chromekids]

Rent him a hooker who blows like the wind.

[suseel_sushi]

Do you know why flavoured condoms are there? To stop this feeling and stop spreading diseases.

[Deadpool7699]

... suck it up

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[mohamedivv]

Search for another guy who really doesn't like blowjob