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My boyfriend masturbates to pictures of me. Is this weird?

As said in the title, my boyfriend masturbates to pictures of me and has been doing so since I was 12 (I'm 14 now so yes we have been dating for almost two year. Off and on though). In the beginning he told and I honestly didn't know what masturbation was so looked it up. After that I was a bit disturbed but I was 12 and he was 15. Who wouldn't be? We never really talked about it and it does but doesn't and does bother me. I think what mostly bothers me is a bad memory tied to these times. When I was still 12 about to turn 13 we were skyping and he asked to plessure himself in front of me through video chat. I made up a story that I had to go to dinner. Anyways I'm 14 now and he's 16 about to turn 17. Is this weird or natural? I'm just curious... Do other people do this? (I've never sent him nudes by the way just normal pics and one of me in a bathing suit. But I could not say that he hasn't asked for nudes)
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  • I wouldn't say it's weird, you don't have to worry about it, guys normally watch porn and I think it's kinda cute that he prefers to masturbate with pics of you than other girls. He's older than you and his sexual desires are definitely more than your fantasies (if you have even one), so it's totally understandable (at least for me) that he has these kind of fantasies about you. You shouldn't feel awkward about this, it's a normal process we all go through, fantasies come with age, when I was 12 I totally knew what masturbation is and I started masturbating since that year, I'm growing up (I'm 16) and my thoughts are even more perverted, I think this could happen to you, (not now, later, it's really admirable that you didn't know, don't become a perv) when it does you'll understand why he did it.

    Take this as a compliment (it's great that he likes you that much), and please be careful honey, he is older than you and for personal experiences I can tell you that older guys want more and more from their girlfriends, what I'm trying to say is that if you are not ready to have sex with him, don't do it. If you already did it, it's on you to start trying new things (most guys never get enough).
    Think about the future, think about how good your husband will feel when he realizes that you waited for him.
    Let your boyfriend know that you make the rules, "no is no".

    • Thank you very much! This actually made me smile. It feels nice that you didn't judge the age difference and you actually made me feel better when you said that you learned at 12 😅 and yeah considering I date a horn dog I'm pretty innocent in the mind... But thank very much

    • You are welcome, honey :) I'm glad this made you feel better :D I don't judge about the age because I love older guys, so I totally understand. It's really cute that you have an innocent mind, in this century not many girls are as innocent as you. Keep doing what you do and what makes you feel comfortable <3 Don't do anything that you don't want to.

    • Hey the whatthellamy is lying to you it’s weird you’re not even a teenager and he was practically legal age. Please be careful it is strange and you should be with someone who is closer in age or at least not someone who was 15 and attracted to 12 year olds. As your older the age gap isn’t as bad but 12 and 15 is completely different stages of maturity and it is gross that he did that to you.

  • Brutal honesty - so don't get upset. Here's the thing. You are young. Very young. He's almost 17 years old and knows better. You are only 14. Your boyfriend (as with many young boys) is slightly sex driven. Due to hormones and puberty, obviously. But he should not be speaking of sex with you. I realize that in today's society, nobody evens makes a big deal about young kids having sex but it is in fact a very big deal. He should not have even told you that he is masturbating to your pictures. Plain and simple. If anyone was to find out, he could get into trouble (for talking sex) because in most states, the legal sexual age for sex is 16 with parental consent. Its wrong on so many different levels. I have two children, ages 4 and 2. If either one of my babies is to be faced with such a thing at your age, I will end up losing it entirely and there would be consequences to be paid. Your boyfriend is in the wrong.

    • I probably need your brutal honesty so thank you

  • If he asks for nudes, don't send. You can never know where they can go. Think about consequences of your behavior. Always.
    He masturbates because he likes you. But more than that the age differences will be on your way. He is too horny because of hormones and his age. If he even suggests you to take this further, don't ever accept. Because you are so young. It can wait. You will have plenty of time to do it.
    You need to live things step by step.
    If he doesn't accept waiting then let him go. Because it means he doesn't really love you. Love is not just for sex. True love waits until you're ready. And true love is afraid of hurting somebody.

    • Thank you very much! Yeah... Him being older has gotten us both in trouble before... And it's been obvious to me before that he wants more then I'm willing to give

    • Always do things because you want first. Especially in the relationship. Not because they want. It is your body. Your choice. Make this rule of your life.

  • Masturbation is natural and something most teens (especially teen boys) engage in. Hormones are running wild and people begin exploring their bodies. Of course, if it makes you uncomfortable then you should tell him that, he should be respectful of you always. Also, it's good that these aren't nude pictures considering your age, I would not recommend sending him nudes either as that could be illegal, depending on where you live.

    • Yeah... I don't plan to send him nudes. But thank you this does make me feel better

    • Good, glad I could help :)

Most Helpful Guys

  • First of all, I'd like to say I'm not sure I'm entirely comfortable with giving 14yo an advice on sexual life :|
    On the other hand I love expressing my opinions to the point of it being a character flaw.

    So here it goes: First of all, I think at that age 2-3 year gap is significant enough for your relationship to be a tad on the weird side. Second, I'm assuming you haven't had sex yet. Which is sorta reassuring.
    As for masturbation part. Well, although he is/should be much more mature (both sexually and mentally) than you, at 16-17 he's way too far from adulthood. And probably is really horny (as it's customary for boys that age). If he doesn't have any other sexual partners (Let's hope for your sake he doesn't) it's natural for him to satisfy himself this way seeing as he has no other sexual outlets.
    On the other hand, this might be his way of reassuring you of his faithfulness and that he's attracted to you.

    • Thank you. I know it's awkward I'm sorry but I'm glad you gave an opinion anyway

  • Do NOT... I repeat, do NOT send him (or ANYONE for that matter) pictures of yourself nude... EVER. Ya can't take it back, they may be leaked, people can (and likely will) get in trouble for it somehow, and it will destroy your innocence. Guard and protect your innocence (including your virginity) with everything that you've got...

    • this ^

    • Thank you... I try my best to do so

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  • It is normal to masturbate to your girlfriends picture what isn't normal is your age difference.

    • Yeah I know the age different is much... But *phew* it's normal!

  • That's a very good thing, it means he's attracted to you! Not weird :)
    He asking you for nudes is normal and okay too, since you are together for a long time and he seems to be a nice guy who you can trust after all this time. But you should wait till you feel ready and comfortable for that. :)

    • Thank you that make me better about it. I honestly trust him with more stuff than anyone else. But thank you so very much ☺️

    • If you talk with him about this I'm sure he'll understand and wait :) You're welcome! Glad I could help :)

  • I think you need to take a step back and think about what YOU want.

    You might not want to hear this, but the truth is that you are young; you are SO young. You don't need to be making adult decisions right now--you should be having fun with friends and concentrating on school. Or hell, getting into some innocent trouble. :)

    In my mind, what he's done and what he's asked for is just plain wrong.

    Is there someone who you trust? Someone you can talk to about this stuff?

    • Not really no... I can't tell my friends because they are too judgey and my family... I really can't talk to them because all they are gonna do is punish me for getting into this stuff and then lecture me all the time

  • he finds u attractive in a sexual way... so...

    • mmk that's a good thing. But the "so.." scares me

    • it shouldn't :(

    • Well no it's not your fault... It's a matter that I don't want to do anything to soon when we are young and stupid

  • You guys are bf/gf, it's normal so don't worry about it.

    • Thanks

    • You're welcome

  • Doesn't that mean he likes your looks? Isn't better than him masturbating over ANOTHER girls pics?

    • Also... (sidenote) how do you not know what masturbating is I'm 13 and I know

    • I was 12 and didn't know then I looked it up and understood what it was at 12 and I guess its beetroot than other girls

    • Don't worry about if he can cum over your looks then he probably likes how you look!! (Duhh)

  • I don't feel too comfortable with that age gap- 14 and 17... But yeah it is normal

    • Most people don't.. Even my mom... It was especially weird when it was 12 and 15.. Everyone at school called me a whore

    • You aren't a whore, but at this stage of your life the 3 year gap looks a little weird that's what's so strange about being a teenager

    • Thanks.. I think your one of the only people who have told me I'm not a whore... And ahh teenage years... Isn't it just weird as a whole

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  • it is normal and one of the down sides of dating an older guy while you are so young his hormones are making him think sex while yours are still rainbows and puppy dogs.

    • Lol. But yes I have realized this. It's seems I say anything innocent it gets misconstrued by him.

  • Whoa. That's unsettling.

    Well, on second thought, I guess it makes sense that he'd be attracted to the body of a twelve year old if he was only three years older.

  • "my boyfriend"
    "I'm 14 now so yes we have been dating for almost two year."

    https://www.reactiongifs.com/r/choofed.gif

    • Yeah thanks ass hole... If you're not gonna help then don't share your opinion

    • Kids these days, think they're so serious and tough. It's cute, and rather annoying.

  • well he likes u.. but maybe he feel shy infront of you to be him self.

  • would you rather have him masturbating to other girls

    • True...

  • yea thats bad !

  • Its normal but the fact that he was 15 masturbating over a 12 year old is weeeird

    • Yeah... Okay I'm not the only that thinks that... But I'm again glad for it to be normal

  • Better than porn, right?

    • I guess.. But I when you say that it makes me concern of the idea of a 15 to 17 has porn

    • There are kids younger than that who watch porn

    • There are kids younger than that, having sex

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  • It is nrmal

  • Nope. Not weird. A lot of people would be flattered... But if you prefer he doesn't do that (or at least doesn't tell you about it) tell him he should put those fantasies to use on you, not pictures of you.

    • Lol nah still only 14

    • Oops. Sorry. Didn't see the age thing. Soooo... Tell him to stop, and you should stop telling strangers about this stuff! Too young!

    • Heh... As long as I remain anonymous I feel safe

  • It's not at all weird for a boyfriend to masturbate to his girlfriends pictures, you should be happy about that. What is disturbing is that you (a little girl) is dating an almost 17 year old boy! What the hell?

    • Yeah...

  • It's totally normal. I do that to my bf's pictures

    • Really? I'm not judging but I find that relieving

  • Your still young so I would avoid anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. But what ur boyfriend is doing is normal for a guy my boyfriend does this too.

    • It's nice to see someone say that their boyfriend does it to because people say it's normal but they fit give examples

    • I'm a very honest person lol and for all the people worried about ur age difference my be is 6 years younger than me if you love each other and keep each other's best interests above everything elas age is just a number

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