My boyfriend of 2.5 + 1.5 (but broke up for a year) years watches a crap ton of shemales, twinks, and anal porn. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

So, my boyfriend and I have been together for a good amount of time, I’ve legit told him absolutely everything about me, my past partners, any kinks I had or have, I’ve tried almost everything he’s ever asked, then I found out he’s actually super kinky, but I thought it was like small kinks. Come to find out, that he wants to do anal like EVERY time we have sex, & I just can’t it’s too painful, and is a complete turn off. So, I do everything else he wants, like outfits, he wants me to wear garters and stockings every time now, and that’s cool I guess I feel sexy in it. So, then it progressed to toys, for him. & every new one he gets he wants a bigger & different one (he’s only had 3) and then he wanted to try pegging. This was a huge leap to me, & was like what, um yeah, I just want you sexually satisfied, we haven’t done it yet, and I just found out yesterday that he watches twinks, and shemales, like a lot and he does it even after we have sex, and whenever I’m not around. Then when he’s not watching those it’s strictly like anal porn with occasional straight porn. Now, yesterday I was downstairs hanging out, forgot my charger, went up to get it, I walk In and my lingerie underwear that’s part of an outfit is on the ground he he’s putting his pants back on... he was trying them all, now keep in mind I’m much smaller than him and it’s obvious they wouldn’t fit, and when I tried asking about it he got all weird and defensive saying that he was “curious” & “always wondered what underwear felt like compared to men’s” he says this is the first time he’s ever done it, etc. But, I don't know. We had a large discussion about the shemales and twinks, he’s so confused with himself like he doesn’t know the answer to anything expect “idk” would love to be super accepting and understanding and I’m trying so so hard, but it pains me to know that I’m still not enough for him sexually and he resorts to other things to saturate that need.

[kymberz]

ok. re-read what you wrote here. because the answer is in your words. if you have tried to be gentle and comforting and understanding and you feel a little sick? that's your gut instinct kicking in and it is telling you that you are way out of your comfort zone. and knowing exactly where your comfort zone is - that's power. so my advice - move on. there is a man out there who is so going to appreciate all of your special little touches and willingness to try. it's just not this guy. and i hold no judgment about the situation or the details. but when i read what you wrote i thought - see how smart she is? she already answered her own question. i'll be the first one to admit that i really like coming here to this site to read and learn and understand - but don't let anyone tell you what you should or should not do. take suggestions and opinions and advice and then listen to your own gut. it will never lead you astray.

[Kindofweird]

Sorry to say he is weird 😒

[Johnuk15]

Buy a strapon

[Asker]

he wants that, but it’s so out of my comfort zone.

[Johnuk15]

You might find you like the power it gives you

[Asker]

Maybe.

[Johnuk15]

If you don't like it then don't do it again

[Asker]

Yes. But what if all this newfound curiosity leads him to wanting more and more until finally he searches out for another man or someone more accepting. Also, when we tried discussing the whole thing, he freaked out and like kept saying he would kill himself and it was crazy and scary, what if trying it and me not being into It sets him off again? What if my reaction to it is negative and I’m not able to mask that? I would say that sounds ridiculous and I’m blowing it so out of proportion, but this has happened to a very close friend of mine, and she’s experiencing the same thing, but her boyfriend went and found another man during their relationship.

[Johnuk15]

I've tried it but I would only ever let a female do it I have no interest in me

[Asker]

Okay. Thank you. That makes me feel a bit better. He says the same. It’s just the shemales and twinks videos that threw me off, then him trying on my lingerie.

[Johnuk15]

You won't know unless you try

[Asker]

Yes yes. I understand that, I’ll do my best to be more open.

[Johnuk15]

Good luck message anytime if you need any more information

[Asker]

Will do! Thanks so much again.

[Johnuk15]

Your welcome

[abc--123]

Get a strap on and fuck him how he wants

[Anonymous]

If you don't like it, dump him.