My Boyfriend of 6 weeks can not achieve an Erection with me, Orally, or Vaginally?

I am a SBF that just turned 47 this month. I am involved with a 52 year old Caucasian Male, that I had met 6 weeks ago, on a dating site. We constantly talk, & text each other everyday. He always tells me: "I am not going anywhere!" The 1st time we had sex, was like a week of knowing each other. He claims that he hadn't been with a woman in like...19 months. For me, it was almost 2 years! He maintained his erection the very 1st time we were intimate. The 2nd time.. not so much. We saw each other again, almost 2 weeks later (but still talking, & texting everyday) the situation was different, he achieved an erection. But the next few times... he wasn't able to achieve one. Our last time on Jan. 9th, he told me that he was on Zythromicin for his Flu, & that the medication had made him limp, & that it wasn't me. I have been with only 2 men in 20 years, & there were no complaints there. This is my 1st experience with a Caucasian Man. I have tried Oral Sex on him, but it appears that he is about to achieve an erection... but then it goes back down. I hear him moan whilst I'm performing, but is he faking it, so not to hurt my feelings? Is it me? He is not Circumcised, but we are always kissing each other passionately when we are together. I go home with Hickeys on my body... What is wrong?
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  • Honestly you are best to talk with him about it. There's SO MANY things that can affect our erection, not just how hot you are or your performance. It could be diet, drugs, mental, age, masturbation habits, I could probably go on and on. Sometimes it's just our body doing what it wants to also and no "reason" for it, but if this happens frequently, then there probably is some reason (and he may not even know himself?). But talk to him and ask him. And if you do think it's you (or your performance) then talk to him about that also? Communication is key to making sex great. Ask him what he likes and doesn't like (and sometimes for us, it can be the slightest "adjustment" that can sometimes make all the difference.
    Just an example, for a bj, it would be night and day for me if I'm getting one where a woman is going slowly, and looks like she's really enjoying it, almost in a teasing way or playful, vs fast and furious like she's trying to get it over with lol, or it's like a "job" vs fun). You can also use the opportunity to tell him what you like and don't like.

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  • older men have a lower testerone level... so erections are less Frequent or Firm, there is medication available, but old age sucks... it's NOT you... its common for us older guys and VERY embarrassing... we feel it emotionally (Strongly) but our bodies rob us of the ability...

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Most Helpful Girl

  • he's defiantly past his prime and for someone in their 40s you should already know about things when you get past a certain age. If your so concerned I would recommend that you get him to see a doctor to see whats up

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  • ED and his doctor can correct the issue!

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  • Sounds like a medical issue he might want to get checked out. It's probably not you.

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  • How fit is he? It's possible he has erectile dysfunction. Has he tried sildenafil (Viagra)?

    • He is 5'10 192lbs he is balding, & he has sort of a "Beer Belly"

    • That's not terribly heavy at 5-10. Is he able to arouse himself?

    • Yes... semi

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  • All you have to do is look in the mirror not everybody's attracted to that person not saying that you're unattractive but maybe he doesn't find you attractive or maybe you don't do enough to make him hard

  • He needs to see a urologist.

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  • It's definitely not you. There's probably something going on with his body. I've heard Viagra helps in situations like this.

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    • No problem.

  • L-arginine or nitric acid can help, Maybe some other supplements, does he smoke?

    • He doesn't smoke

    • Well that’s good. Smoking can cause impotence. So I’d say buy a few pills, they’re not expensive. Horny goat weed and mocca root work too

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  • Sounds like ED. Guys our age get it. He should consult with a urologist... its not younger how he feels about you. It is a legit medical condition.

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  • He should see a doctor.

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  • Could be medical, it could also be age

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  • You never know. Could be you but could be something else. It's very nice how everyone else here who really has no idea say the nice thing, even though they have no idea though

  • needs professional help

  • Does he have a massive Dick? Hard for the blood to circulate?

    • LOL No, he has an average size... maybe 4 1/2 inches? He always asks me: "How do I like his size?" Or "Do you miss me inside you?"

  • Really sad, your boyfriend doesn't satisfy you sexually, he has low testosterone and patient of E. D. Suggest him to get treatment from sex specialist, should not use Viagra because few times he, will get erection but later on, No. More over he has small dick, only 4.5 inches and with Viagra, the length will be decreased more. I am 43 but I am like 25, with 9x5 inches dick

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    • @tiffanylovesjohn welcome

  • You need a young lover

  • He may be jerking off a lot, cheating, drinking a lot of alcohol, or on drugs. He may just be nervous. Encourage him to see his doctor if you can't identify the cause yourself.

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    • I hope you figure it out. 🤗🤗

  • Low testosterone?

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    • You're welcome. Hope that is the problem.