My Boyfriend of four years is into cuckholding, and submissive men, but I just want a man?

[MusicJunkie89]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years. When we first met, he shared a kinky side of things, like Cuckholding and female domination, it was fun to play and fantasize (we never had any kind of threesome or third member in our relationship)

as our relationship progressed it had become a bigger part of our dynamic. To the point where he asked me to take a construction ring and I playfully chided him with, Oh My! You’re finally going to give me a ring, whatever will I’d do? He’s responded with, pretty seriously, “You know, you could give me a ring” it has come up after that, that I should propose to him, I’ve mentioned that I don’t want a woman, I want to be with a man, sensitive is fine. But if I wanted a woman, I would just be with a woman. I’m frustrated that I’m “the man” in the relationship.

I’ve mentioned that I need a man, and that the cushioning and domination was fun, but I’m not really into it anymore. When he brings it up in bed, it totally ruins the mood.

What should I do?

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well you should have ran the first time it was brought up. This is a fetish, its not going away. I would suggest he seek counciling for it but beyond that your only real options is to tolerate it (which again you have already fed into it, the genie is already out of the bottle and its not going back (thats why you have to be careful with these things)) and accept it OR to tell him he needs to seek counciling and if that doesn't work to leave him.

Never understood how women could tolerate this kind of thing, seems very obvious how its going to end up.

[Chriscunning]

So personally I am into it. But one has to realize it's not a 24/7 thing. You could do it for say a week, but then have a break for a week or 2.

As for proposing, it's definitely the mans job. As much as all this kink is fun, he definitely shouldn't be a 'woman'. He should be a controlled man.

[MusicJunkie89]

Fantastic response. Thank you. I’ve brought a bus up to him. Any advice on how I should approach him on, perhaps, being a more ‘dominant’ man in between our sessions? I don’t mind dominating, I don’t mind playing not the fetishes. But there is a place and a time. Lol

[Chriscunning]

Happy to hear :-) Honestly I wouldn't know. But maybe say you can do a week and then you need a rest for 2 weeks with a dominate man. Maybe explain that you also have your kinks and likes and he needs to keep you happy and that keeping you happy means he needs to take control. Maybe mention that just as much as he enjoys being dominated, that you also do to a lessor degree.

[Chriscunning]

Just a side thought, you could always put him in chastity and tell him his not cumming until he gets a ring. LOL

[MusicJunkie89]

^ this is kind of genius.

[Chriscunning]

Well that is kinda the idea behind control. You honestly can control him. If you go read up the longer you leave us guys the more willing we are you make you happy to "get some". But in reality, I do understand you want him to do it on his own accord and not femdomed into it. Either way you can have a lot of fun.

[Tamera952]

Euwwwee... Yuck, I don't envy you in this position. I know cuckold is a thing, but I can't say I get it, nor do I find it attractive or fun in any way. It's kinda gross (not as gross as say woman who baby talk, cause that's EXTRA foul) ... But I can only imagine what weird situations you're going through.

[Zannika02]

Sounds like u have outgrown that fun and time to move on

[Guffrus]

Break up, you aren't compatible you never really were and you should have realised this sooner but whatever you know now so stop wasting both of your time and feelings.

[RagnarRedbeard]

Unfortunately there's probably not a lot you can do here.

These kinds of guys tend to be addicted to femdom, to the point where it takes over their lives. They think about it obsessively, and no matter how much you try to snap them out of it they'll carry on with it. You might as well be talking to a brick wall most of the time. I've seen this so many times.

[Ripper_E]

A man being a cuckold doesn't mean he isn't a man, nor does it mean he can't be dominant.
That particular fetish ranges because you can cuckold him just by cheating on him. Even if he doesn't know, he is one whether he wants to be or not. It's just a matter of how you both go about it and carry yourselves.
If you aren't interested, then let him know this is not something you want and what you are okay with.

[nudeNhorny]

enjoying cuckolding and female domination in bed is one thing wanting you to actually propose to him and wear the pants in the relationship outside the bedroom is totally another.
the first is acceptable the second no way.

[Anonymous]

I'm in a relationship in which my girl is the dominant one. But we are still equals in the relationship and respect each other. I am not into cuckolding. Try getting him to take charge or maybe give him an ultimatum or something?