My boyfriend practiced prostitution?

He is now 21 and he told me that at 18 he was a drug addict and would do anything for money. What to do next?
The only reason he told me about it, is the fact that sometimes sex makes him sick. Like... He says is a horrible thing and I thought im doing it wrong
Ah... by the way, he offered services for men.
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  • Of course he offered services for men. There are very few male prostitutes that can find work with only women and those tend to not be the ones that are doing it for drug money.

    Hopefully he has been tested and you should be as well.

    So where do you go from here. That depends on how much effort you want to put into things. He is going to need some form of counseling. You are in a position where you can help him because he has already formed a level of trust with you.

    As for sex. You guys should probably back off on the sex until you talk to a councilor. Get in touch with each other other ways. I don't usually say people should try abstinence but I think in this case it might help him reset.

    You obviously care deeply. Reaching out for help is a great first step. Now it is a matter of finding the right help. Look for people that help ex sex workers, He should be doing Narcotics anonymous, they may even have more information on his particular problems, and they may have meetings for close relations as well.

  • Yeah what happened to your boyfriend was emotional trauma and sexual abuse. His body needed chemicals his brain discovered he could get by enduring trauma, and his emotions couldn't overpower that. It would be like a cancelation of his emotions by his mind. He probably felt trapped by his body when he was doing that, and I suggest (seriously) either psychedelic therapy using someone experienced in trauma or therapy because you're going to HAVE to unwind that. A sensitive soul covered with a hard, calused ego can violently... uh... manifest it's healing process. I've seen glazed eyes and combative bahavior. His body repressed his emotions. Get him relaxed before you talk about it with him or the reaction could be powerful. That's what he can't solve.

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  • If he's clean and sober, and that's all in his past, then I don't see the issue.

  • So what are u asking

  • Of course he serviced men. Almost no one can make a living selling sexual services to women. I hope he was tested for STDs before you had sex with him. Sounds like he could benefit from some therapy to get over this. If he can't have sex with you, and you are looking for a sexual relationship, you may have to find a new guy.

  • I'm not sure what you are asking? Are you worried about STDs, or does this revelation mean you are no longer attracted to him or what?

  • You should probably really get tested for disease.

  • And likely he has an STD that he could give to you.

  • He was so hooked on drugs that he sucked dicks and got cum on and fucked up his ass. Now he is humiliated and ashamed of it. But telling you is weird. Maybe he wants you to fuck him in his ass too

  • Good for him but bad for future brides.

  • take him to a therapist if you love him. and if you really do work on it don't give up.

  • I did the same thing like your boyfriend, but it's not affecting my sex life right now, I did this long time ago when I was in need.

  • I'd definitely get tested for STD. Drugs and prostitute activities make that high risk as hell.