My boyfriend's friend told him he wants to have sex with me. my boyfriend thinks it's funny. but is that weird or something guys usually say?

my boyfriend told me his friend (who has girlfriend of 4 years and hasn't had sex with anyone except his girl for 4 years) said that he wants to have sex with me. my boyfriend thought it was funny and told him that he needs to wait and if we break up he can. i think i'm flattered but i also thought it was weird because i'd probably be pissed if my friend said she wanted to have sex with my boyfriend. is that a normal thing guys say to joke with each other or something? lol
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in case anyone is curious, people's comments about my boyfriend being so chill about it made me uncomfortable so I asked my boyfriend about it and he said his friend was super drunk and being stupid and he thinks it was a joke. he also thought it was really weird but they were both drunk when it happened.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • If my friend said that, i would straight up punch him in the face. That is nothing to joke about. And if i were you, i would be pissed about your bfs response that he isn't faithful about your relationship hence the comment "if we break up you can", i mean why would someone mention breaking up like that? Also, the friend has got some explaining to do to his own gf.

    But yeah, i would not let my friend get away with saying something like that, and i definitely wouldn't respond saying "if we break up, you can". They both had better have been pretty damn drunk...

  • Wow... i mean there is a limit to open mindedness.
    I am like wtf now because of your boyfriend's attitude.
    I would have been pissed off in such situation and very irritated because it's just not moral even to think like that.
    I fail to understand white people and their culture.

    • my boyfriend is not white

    • so race has nothing to do with anything

    • Yeah race has nothing to do... hope every girl is smart like you. But culture has to do. An indian girl would have demanded breakup with guy here under such circumstances. She would be like " your friend who knows i am in relationship with you has been objectifying sexual thoughts for me and you won't say anything to him? Wtf? How can you be so cool?"

Most Helpful Girls

  • It's common. In nearly every relationship I've been in, my partner's friends have remarked on my looks saying I'm hot or they show that they really like me and guys being so laid back, just don't care because they know they have you all to themselves. My ex even sent his friends private pictures of me (with my permission), they're just really open with each other and want to show you off. It's probably an ego boost for him that his friends desire his girlfriend just as much as he does. You don't want to know what guys say when they're all together!

    • Wish I was his friend

    • I'm glad you're someone who is chill about it. Everyone's responses are stressing ne out, pointing out problems in my relationship that I didn't know existed! lol

    • I think the biggest concern is the fact his friend now thinks about sleeping with other girls after a four year relationship, that's not a good sign. Your relationship seems perfectly fine. It's just a guy thing.

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  • There's some people who just love for their gf to be oogled by other guys in public as an ego boost. I do not know your bf but depending on his personality he may just be that guy and jist sees you as a trophy. However the fact that his friend did not hold back from saying it infront of him, shows that your bf don't love you sufficiently to put boundaries.

    • Every good friend knows when to step back because they know if their friend is taking the girl seriously. Is he taking you seriously? I don't think so and I would take offense.

  • No no
    Unless it's a 3 some or something.
    guys have hit directly on me at times
    but none that know my guy
    they would absolutely never
    but if they were invited
    then that's a different story

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  • No, friends don't usually tell their friend's girlfriend/boyfriend that they want to have sex with. The fact that your boyfriend thinks it is funny kind of worries me. Seems like he doesn't care or isn't the least protective over you.

  • no its pretty normal and guys love that other guys think their girl is hot! now as long as he does not catch u two doing anything, then he would pro be pissed lol. also i have had plenty of gfs whos friends or cusions say that to them... I've gotten use to it, and its kind of funny when the girl is bragging to her other friends that the others want to fuck me also... girls are weird... ooo wait we pretty much do that also lol

  • Absolutely not! And guys who care for their girls don't think that is funny. And they certainly do not tell them that if you break up he can do it. That would be totally up to you not him! Something wrong with your boyfriend.

    • Being drunk they were even more likely to have been speaking without inhibitions. Not joking. A friend might say "She it hot" or "I would fuck her", but not "I want to fuck her". And the boyfriend might say "You can try if we break up" but not "You can if we break up"

  • My bf wouldn't like it if a friend of him would say this!
    And he wouldn't be so chill about it
    but your update explains a lot :)

  • The update about the being drunk does indeed explain it... after having read the question excluding the update my first though was that it must have been a joke.
    Something like two guys drinking beers in a bar and saying some things they don't take serious.
    And indeed that's what it was. The opposite would have been really weird indeed!

  • I think its a bit weird as well if I was your bf I would have really annoyed if my friend said that.

  • That's.. just.. not cool.

    And I don't think being drunk changes or justifies anything

    • @xobrowneyedbeauty I just want to let you know that by your definition, I'm awesome. haha (get it?)

    • haha yes I dp. thanks friend 😊

    • yes I do*

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  • no they dont

  • Noup, not funny. And the fact that he was drunk increases the chances his friend actually meant it, which is worse.

  • Just have a 3sume

  • I think there's a difference between I would fuck her and I want to fuck her.

    • ah interesting point. i didn't think about that.

    • I think it's safe to assume that most guys WOULD, and that it's almost guaranteed that every guy has thought about having sex with almost every chick he meets, his friends gf/wives included

  • If my friends says that doesn't matter he is drunk or not I would kill him. No one says I want fuck your gf no one

  • Yea I think he was serious properly still wants sounds like he was a little shy wanted to see if it turned you on give it chance ask him yourself if your alone with him sounds like you were thinking about sounds fun good luck

  • Probably wants to watch, lol

  • What race/ethnicity is your bf and his friend?

    • i don't understand why that matters...

    • It can matter. People from different cultures behave differently in certain situations.

    • Unless they don't exist and this whole story is a lie...

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  • guys take that as a sincere compliment from their friend.