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My boyfriend's sex drive is higher than mine. What do I do?

As the title says, my boyfriend overall has a higher libido. Last week, we went four days without sex which is something of a record (I was sick) and he masturbated on day three. We usually have sex almost every day but sometimes I feel I can't catch up with him.
Yesterday, we had sex in the morning and by the nighttime, he was wondering aloud about whether he should masturbate so as to avoid feeling pent up. We ended up having sex because I don't like the idea of him masturbating. We live together, and I perceive it as almost insulting or a failure on my part that he should think of doing this.
I think having sex once a day almost every day is far more than average, and though it is always consensual, I sometimes place his wants above my own and have sex more often than I am fully in the mood for.
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  • Well first thing, the reason that his sex drive is high is because he probably always winds up having an orgasm. Do you, you are more equipped for sexual pleasure than he is. You have the only organ on the human body that serves no other purpose than to provide you with pleasure, your clit and it has far more nerve endings designed to receive pleasure than any part of either gender's body. Since most women orgasm from clit play, esp. oral, he should be making sure you cum at least once, multiple times if you can but at least once. If he does nothing to try to get you off I can see why your sex drive would be less, there would be less reward for you than for him. He was wondering aloud about jerking off because he wanted to guilt you into giving him what he wanted. So I;d make sure that he's the source of sexual pleasure as often as the recipient first. Of course its still possible for a couple to have different sex drives even when everyone is coming merrily. In that case, I'm wondering why it bothers you to have him masturbate,. You have no mandatory role in the process. Many guys in relationships- and many girls in relationships still masturbate even when they both have high sex drives, you can tell him you don't need to hear him announce it and you don't need to always accommodate him. Of course if it eventually gets to the point where you prefer not to whatsoever then you two should probably see a relationship counselor or find some way of restoring a sense of balance.

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  • Guys are usually more sexual than girls and it's better that way, as guys need an enthusiasm more than girls, because guys are the ones who usually do most of the work in sex. Why you can't catch up with him? all you need is to lie on your back. Yes it's insulting and failure on your part if you can't keep your boyfriend satisfied, sometimes you place his wants above your own? like a good girlfriend should, unless you sick, I don't see why your boyfriend would resort to masturbating while you are around.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • He should withhold sometimes and you give in sometimes

    • Relationships only last when you consider eachothers needs

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  • He's normal but so are you. It's not unusual for one partner to have a higher libido and the other doesn't necessarily have to be "fully" in the mood, whatever that means.

    Do you enjoy it consistently, regardless of the starting mood?

  • What you do it tell him he needs to start making it more about you in stead of it always being about him
    What I mean about that is don't just get on and get off he needs to wind your motor up so tight every time that you look forward to having it. And wanting it if a girls not in to it it's because she's not getting any thing out of it

  • Guys at his age tend to have a high drive and yours may kick in at a later date/age. If you plan on staying together, try to do some give and take and ask him to do the same. Understand though that his focus will be a lot on sex for a while. If you want to keep him, try to adapt.

  • Actually he's very normal and masturbating daily is normal. You need to ease up on yourself. One way to satisfy both of you is for you to masturbate him or oral sex this way your satisfying him and he is getting relief!

  • You are not a failure. You are who you are. Everyone is different. Just tell him that you can't keep up to him but are happy to try to help. For example jerk him off while watching TV/porn, or use a sex toy on him, like a fleshlight. If you're not in the mood for that then let him masturbate. He won't be the first guy in a relationship to do it.

  • Try more blowjobs and handjobs, teasing games. Do that in the morning when the man in fully horny and you will be able to finish him 1 time in a day, then it will be less posible for the second one in a day, but not 100%.
    Try to make the days be bussy like, go and make activitis togederes, walk, go to mall, go to a restaurant, see some friends, invite some friends.
    Olso, say thanks God he is doing you 1 time a day, me and my girlfriend whas doing even 2-3 time in a day.

  • Uf you agree to having sex every time then it isn't really a huge deal. If you really don't want to, turn him down. I don't see why you don't like him masturbating, since he doesn't do it instead of sex. If he had the choice you'd have sex

  • It’s been my experience that when I initiate, the sex is so so!
    However when she initiates, it doesn’t get any better than that!

  • That is normal. Guys have a Higher Sex Drive in general. Also, putting your Significant Others wants above your own at times is part of the sacrfice of being in a relationship. I think this is part of that. However, is he worth it to you? If you feel like you can't keep up then I would suggest finding a way to make it work.

  • PM me if you want I went through the same thing with me ex

  • Did you know that, contrary to what is known, men and women have very important differences in terms of sexual behavior and attitudes? In fact, when these differences are known and the sexual behavior resulting from them is understood, sexual harmony can be achieved and full sexual satisfaction can be achieved. Not being aware of the differences can cause the sexual intercourse that begins with the effect of fire and gunpowder to end up with the effect of fire and water and die out. A sexual intercourse in which both partners play on a separate wire, where there is no harmony and one-sided satisfaction is experienced, can make both sides unhappy. So what are the differences in this woman's and men's perception of sexuality?
    It is very important for men to be understanding and patient in this regard.

  • learn to let him masturbate, if you two stay together, you will find as you gat older your libido will increase and his will lessen

  • Ride him 24/7

  • Every man's sex drive and needs are much higher than a woman's. Ask him to go-to yoga and meditation centre.

  • Better keep your legs open for business or he will fuck your bff...

  • Just learn to give a good handy or blowie

  • First you sound like an amazing girlfriend but you will need breaks and stuff. You need to first learn that we will sometimes just need to crank one out by himself. Second that maybe you need to add less strenuous thing to you so maybe you are not truly mood but want to help him so maybe a quick handjob, boob job, blow job, or I knew a guy who's girlfriend wasn't fully In the mood would allow him to do whatever he wanted just not go all the way with her on that day.

  • Yeah it's tough when you don't have equal sex drives my girlfriend ended up cheating because I couldn't keep up and meet her needs

    • Sorry that happened to you. I'm not worried at all that my boyfriend will be unfaithful, however I do feel the same as you in that I can't keep up.

    • I was partly my own fault I wasn't really giving her any sex

    • May I ask where you just not attracted to her?

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