My boyfriend said no birth control, no sex?

Okay so I’ve been on birth control since I was 17. I’m now 19 & I live with my boyfriend. I take the shot every 3 months and I absolutely HATE it. I have spotting randomly and sometimes it lasts for 2-3 weeks. I don’t have a normal period anymore & it makes me very hormonal. My parents made me go on birth control and I’ve just been on it since then. My boyfriend told me that if I quit birth control that he won’t have sex with me. We use condoms every single time so it’s not like we aren’t using them. I just don’t think it’s fair for him to tell me that because birth control in general has its side effects and he’s not the one on birth control I am & if something were to occur eventually he wouldn’t be the one dealing with it, I would. I’ve only stayed on it so we can have sex and I’m finally tired of it. What do I do and is this fair?
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*EDIT* my boyfriend told me his concerns about having a child at our age & neither one of us are willing and or wanting a child. I’ve just decided to look into another form of birth control. Now I don’t think he was being unfair because he is looking out for the both of us. Although, I understand why he said no sex because condoms aren’t always effective & I would be fertile once again and he doesn’t want to risk an accident.
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  • Smart man. At least one of you has half a brain.

  • You should look into other forms of BC that don't give you the unpleasant symptoms.

    What your boyfriend is asking is very fair though, especially because if you did get pregnant; you'd come knocking on his door eventually. You would be the one who has to carry the baby, but he'd be paying for it long after you gave birth. Unfortunately that's a tale as old as time; we all know how it goes.

    Your boyfriend is being smart.

  • there are birth control pills and shots he can take

  • Consent is up to him, but you can ask him to get the male birth control shot instead, it is long lasting, reversible, safe, and non-hormonal. Its called the Reversible Inhibition of Sperm Under Guidance or RISUG. If he says no, then he is definitely being unfair and an asshole.

  • It's not fair and he sounds like an asshole.

  • I'm following this to listen and learn. It's a very interesting question.

  • Your boyfriend is right.

  • I've heard that birth control pills are extremely unhealthy for long periods of time. But you use a condom as well. I don't really see why you'd need birth control if you always have protected sex.

  • I am the total opposite of the wanting birth control aspect, so maybe I could be of use to you even though I am almost twice your age?

  • Have you thought about talking to your doctor for another type of birth control. There are options that won't give you those problems and can give you longer protection.

  • See if changing what type you get will be better.

  • You live with your boyfriend, unmarried?

    THIS ISN'T THE NINETY'S!

    • Exactly it’s the 20th century. Times have changed. I am very happy to live with my boyfriend & am very pleased with doing so. Hardly anyone waits to live with their partner post marriage & in my opinion living with someone beforehand is smart because getting married & living with your spouse is two different things & a lot of marriages fail due to the fact that they aren’t able to live with each other.

    • This isn't the ninetys hun PEOPLE DONT LIVE TOGETHER, UNMARRIED! GET OVER IT

    • There’s obviously a reason your user is “asshole_” & I’m not the one with the problem you are so I have nothing to get over by any means. YOU DO.

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  • If you don't like it, don't do it.

  • Not looking into that much I should.

  • first off that is a bluff. guys aren't the ones that withhold sex. second i don't know why it would matter if you always use condoms anyway. if he has such a big problem with find someone who doesn't

    • This is why there's so man unplanned pregnancies and abortions. Condoms break then pregnancies happen. Her boyfriend is exactly how men that aren't ready to have babies need to think. And yes there are men that can say no to sex. Might not be easy but they exist.

  • Smart man.

  • Find a real man who wants to procreate with you.

  • He needs to be more understanding to what your going through. You take a risk everytime you have sex, whether you use protection or not so he should be willing to put your health over his preference to have you on birth control. He can't dictate what you need to do with your body. I took birth control for years because my boyfriend hated using condoms and I suffered with complications and side effects. Dont put yourself through that because of his ignorance. Your partner should want the best for you and should make accommodations to make you comfortable.

  • tell him its affecting your health and if you had to choose between health and sex , it would be health