My boyfriend sometimes has issues with not lasting long enough in bed and occasionally with not being able to get hard?

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Him not getting hard happened a couple times over 9 months. The first time we had sex, he couldn't get it up. Mostly we do 5-6 different positions, but sometimes he isn't able to hold off long enough. When any of this happens, he apologizes to me. How can I make him feel better about it and what could be the cause? Most of the time he is doing just fine.

bowenw · Accepted Answer

Many guys will cum quickly if they haven't had sex for many days. If you're really making him horny that could also hasten things. Some positions can do it too. For example if you're especially tight that may lead to a quick release. If that's the case, try different positions where you're more open such as missionary with your legs spread wide. If that doesn't help, try some lube so there's less friction. Ask him to try a cock ring to see if it helps him last longer. If you can tell when he's getting close to cumming, take a break for a minute to let him settle down. Also consider doing things to make yourself cum sooner so there is less pressure on him, such as masturbating during intercourse. By the way, how long are you hoping he lasts in one session? Many guys aren't like porn stars that can go for an hour without cumming.

Sparda20xx · Accepted Answer

First how old is he. I hate to say it, but it happens to most guys at some point.
Second has there been any drastic changes in life (e. g. Weight gain or loss, the loss of a job etc.)?
He could try taking L Arginine pills. It should help in a variety of ways

This is a delicate topic for men. So just reassure him that he's doing fine and don't stress over it too much. If the problem persist, it could be something more serious, and he should see a doctor.

micheal727jovanie · Answer

Porn.

Samoht_Sirrom1 · Answer

If you'd like I could give you tips on how to help him last longer... If so pm me, if not I'll just say nothing wrong with it just needs a few things to help him become better at this.

Chiefbenttwig · Answer

He may have a medical condition. Tell him that you are concerned about his health & that he should seek medical treatment

maxdoesss · Answer

Does he watch porn?

Tiff5699 · Answer

How drunk is he when this happens?

roastbeef · Answer

Sometimes those things just happen due to stress etc. Start of more slowly more intimate times cuddling and spending time together not alway in a sexual setting.