My boyfriend suggested that we wait until marriage to have sex again is this normal (we have sex every week)?

[Anonymous]

I’m so confused what’s going on he had a hard time staying hard during sex so I suggested maybe there’s a disconnect because we’re not married (and have to sneak around) or maybe he’s watching too much porn or nudity in shows and isn’t attracted to me I also let him know that I kind of don’t want to ask for sex anymore because I keep feeling worse afterwards and he responded back saying “If I wasn't attracted to you, I wouldn't get a hard on at all Then we'll just have to wait till we're married I guess“ his response was pretty vague compared to the paragraph that I sent him. I was crying at night because some of the comments I got on here when I asked a question about my boyfriend not staying hard during sex at 24.

[HollyK21]

Maybe he just doesn’t have the same sex drive that he used to, which happens sometimes when people are together for a while. I know it’s easy to overthink and get in your own head, but if you’re genuinely feeling unwanted then maybe you should be asking yourself if he’s the person you want to marry and sign up for more of this with. As the other commenter said, it could be that he has something he’s not telling you but you can’t make yourself sick with stress and feeling ugly that’s so toxic and draining.

[allison368]

If you have already had sex what is the reason for waiting?

[SkipPerk]

Do not marry a 24-year-old who cannot get it up. Your life will be monstrous, in your twenties you should be having sex two or three times a day. He has problems

[Asker]

I don’t care there is no other guy like him I’ll give him horny goat weed if I have to 😂

[IsoUser]

I am going to be brutally honest but you sound like a booty call / friend with benefits aside from that nothing else! I am just being Honest with you.

[Asker]

This isn’t true we’ve been in a committed relationship for years and I guess he said it because I was being annoying and saying that I didn’t want to have sex again because it’s so disappointing. The only reason we’re no married is because we are both in college a saving up money to move out and for our honeymoon

[Asker]

2 years i mean

[Berethor]

It's not normal if you done it already, he just use it as an excuse it seems.

[Wise4myage]

If a girl told me that, she'd get bounced.

[In_Trance]

something is going on that he's not telling you

[Asker]

What do you think it is? I’ve asked him so many times what is going on

[Asker]

He just said nothing and that he’s surprised that I think like that

[In_Trance]

Could be a lot of things tbh. difficult to say. Does he do drugs? Was he abused? Any recent life changes?

[Asker]

No he has never done drugs. And there’s nothing new other than him taking me to work everyday to help me save money

[In_Trance]

Sorry; difficult for me to say exactly. Something is going on for sure.

[Asker]

I think he has lost attraction to me

[In_Trance]

No, that's probably not the case. It's most likely something personal he's not being up front about

[Asker]

Can you give me some examples?

[In_Trance]

It could be stress related; drug related (legal or illegal) alcohol, stress, overall health, past trauma. If he's not sure what it is, he really needs to see a Doctor

[Asker]

I talked to him and probably annoyed the shit out of him asking him what’s going on but he told me that nothing’s going on and that he already told me everything

[In_Trance]

You and I both know that's not true

[Asker]

Gosh I guess I’ll just send you some exhangements of messages so that maybe you could try to figure out what’s up? This is what I said “ Do you really want to wait until marriage to have sex again you sure that it’s not my body” him “ I'm just gonna stop touching myself all together and save it for whenever we have sex No babe it's not your body When we rented that hotel room before you left for DR We went 4 rounds without me having issues “ and then I responded back with “ I just meant that I always want you to be honest with me because that is super important to me” and he said “I’m as honest as I can be”

[In_Trance]

Something's happened to him. That's my guess

[Anonymous]

He's an idiot.

[Anonymous]

That’s a strange answer, must be more to it than that, he is stressed about something it seems