My boyfriend told me my boobs were saggy?

[Anonymous]

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i was on call with my boyfriend of 7 months and explaining that i grew up being told that i shouldn’t let anyone touch or suck on my boobs because it will make them saggy. my boyfriend said “you’re boobs are a little saggy”.

after this i explained to him that it was very disrespectful and that i didn’t appreciate comments like these about my body. he apologized and kept apologizing but it’s still wrapped around my head and i can’t over it. i’ve never been insecure about my boobs, but after this comment that my boyfriend made has made me insecure since he’s been the only guy that has seen/touched my boobs.

he explained to me that he only said it because i have big boobs, and that he meant it as a compliment and not an insult. I feel very confused about the situation because it still made me insecure about the situation.

[Miristheiss]

Yeah, yeah, good luck with the argument with him.

What is with the "shouldn’t let anyone touch or suck on my boobs"? Why would anyone be doing that? That comment seems like he was under the impression others may do that to your boobs? Why? Would you let someone else do that?

Keep in mind, I know if you break up... a future lover could do that but he'd be an ex and he would no longer care and you two wouldn't be in each others lives so while he is actively your boyfriend why was he warning you of letting others have your boobs?

Do you give your boobs to other men?

[PositiveFlight]

It is a natural process to the female body. There should never be a stigma on the way breasts shape out over time. Breasts are beautiful no matter what stage they are in whether it be younger, older, pre or post nursing, etc. I hope you realize that and are OK with it. Its just reality but it never was and is not a bad thing. Its people like your boyfriend, porn, and society that stigmatizes so called “sagging” wrongfully.

[Anonymous]

Boobs come in a lot of different shapes and sizes, it really shouldn’t make you feel insecure there’s nothing wrong, it doesn’t even really go by age, weight or if you have kids either it’s just natural variation. I don’t think he was trying to offend you just men can be too honest or blunt sometimes.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sure he loves your breasts however he describes them.

[Beatrix7]

just means you have big jugs that are to big to stay up if they are hanging a little bit its nothing bad having that

[ohsheeT]

I have a friend I've known her for probably 25 years but 25 years ago she didn't like her best because they were small but every time she takes a shower and gets out she rubs lotion on her breasts and 25 years later her breasts are way bigger they are firm they don't sag that I mean they are firm so I don't know if that'll help you or not I'm sure you'd have to do it every day you know that you take a shower like she it has

[Quackthulu2]

Are they?

[stepyo99]

And just like a man's nutsack, your boobs are only going to get more saggy with age. I'd stop stressing about it, especially since he apologized and said he meant it as a compliment. Big saggy boobs are great.

[Bricealan]

Tell him his penis and testicles a VERY saggy!

[Dargil]

Not going to get wordy here. He does not love or respect you. Time to go.

[Part2603]

You make the assumption that imperfections can not be "sexy".

The reality of life is that nobody is perfect, even the celebrities and models have some sort of flaws, and that's okay. He's your boyfriend. He chooses you, so calm your tits.

[FunkyMonkee]

I'd have to see `em to be able to tell if they are or not.

[dreamstar72]

Maybe he was making a joke because of what you said about why breast became saggy.

[bowenw]

I don't think he should have said that but he has apologized. If that's the only thing he's ever said that has been disrespectful I think you should forgive him. I doubt there is anything wrong with your boobs.

[Mansearching]

Who ever told you that someone touching, grabbing, sucking on your boobs will make them saggy is wrong. Period. No matter who it was.

Its because they're big. So what. You're still young and probably still growing. Obviously girls don't like to be told boobs are saggy. But that's the issues with big boobs. girlfriend has DDD or F cup boobs and sag. So what. I'm not dating her boobs. I'm dating her.

As i said you're still young and growing. Wait a yr or 2 and if they're still growing or sagging to much and can't handle weight and back starts to hurt. Get a reduction and lift. My girlfriend is going through that now. She's looking for dr to get referal so insurance will pay for surgery.

[justJoshua555]

If your boobs are saggy and if they are not, you should not be insecure about them, you should be proud of them and should ignore people who say such things even if it's your boyfriend.

[Iron_Man]

You guys have to work it out that’s between you two to resolve it whats done is done. Just forget it. And make up.

[Sparkie460]

What is your question? I don't know if your boobs are saggy or not

[AydenHazor]

Chances are your boobs are beautiful just as they are and you have nothing to be worried or concerned about.

Also, your family is full of bs

[Wise4myage]

Tell him to STFU.

[TallAnon]

Sounds like he was being stupid, halfway through started realizing it and now feels bad about having been stupid.
You sound quite emotionally mature, he may be behind in this by a bit. You should consider whether that's acceptable to you or not.

[shades777]

then get a boyfriend who appreciates saggy melons

[najekim]

Unless you have breast implants, all boobs will start sagging in time. Some early, some later.

[driven159]

having big boobs is something that should make you happy

[Cheerfull009]

May be you have sagy boobs, if so, you should not be angry