My boyfriend wants me to fuck him in ass with strap on?

Hello, soo.. Me and my boyfriend are together for about 4 years now.. We were always having normal sex, but recently everything changed.. He started asking me to touch area between his penis and a-hole ( some spot where g spot is).. And I sad yes.. After a few times he kept asking me to touch or lick his anus. I said no and explained that I am disgusted by that and that I dont want to do that in any way or form (his anus or mine bcs i find that very disgusting) . But he kept pushing it and eventualy bought a strap on and again asked me to fuck him. After a lot of no's and explanations why I dont want that and that Im very uncomftorable with that, damn Im uncomftorable even when he asks.. But he keeps pushing it and pushing it.. I dont know why does he want it so much and I dont know what to do :'(.. Is this normal? Does this every guy wants? Am I exaggerating? Is he gay? Help me pleasreee
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Most Helpful Girls

  • This question is being asked from time to time in different forms, and I keep seeing answers like “Oh, it’s normal”, or “It’s just curiosity” or “It’s just a phase”. Even though anything is possible in human psychology and there could be some cases where those excuses could be valid, I assure you that in the vast majority of cases, they are not.

    The truth is many men (and women) have tendencies for sex with their own gender, including the acts associated with it. Even though a man can get excited by his prostate, the very act of getting penetrated in the ass has an undeniable connotation to gay sex. So, it’s a not-so-clever excuse to cover the inherent (but suppressed) desire for gay sex through explanations like “If it’s done with a woman, then it’s not gay”.

    The question here is not whether or not sleeping with a woman can be gay sex. If it’s asked this way, then the answer becomes, of course, “not gay”. However, the actual meaning of the question is “Can a man’s initiative to get fucked in the ass by his wife/girlfriend be pointing to any gay/bisexual urges?”. In that case, I think the answer is “yes”, at least in many of the cases involved.

    I’m basing my answer on my own life and the lives of numerous other male friends. In other words, I’ve been there, done that... I wanted to believe I was straight for so long. I even got married once, and pressured my hapless wife with more and more frequent requests of anal penetration on me. She could sense where this would be leading, so could I… But, I thought I was clever enough to explain away my behavior through the kind of reasoning used by man men in this forum and elsewhere.

    At the end, none of my excuses worked. Now, I'm gay and happier than ever before. And, for people who might think I am only one example, I should note that many of my gay friends were also once thought of being straight and denied their impulses throughout their lives with women for so long... only to fool themselves, at the expense of lost time for them and the women in their lives.

    Finally, in your particular case, I think your boyfriend's insistence gives him away. I don't know if he would be willing to discuss the roots of this insistence, but it is likely that you have a gay man in the making in your hands. If you want a relationship with a straight man, you may want to look elsewhere.

  • Definitely do it. He might be bi, which is good. He might just be submissive and you fucking him is how he'd like to be dominated.

    • @susan_in_charge u ever done this to a guy?

    • U look very openminded... admire that!

  • Hell yeah gril put some baby oil the ram that thing like your raping him he be you bitch for life

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  • Does every guy want this?
    No. Most don't. Some do, but most dont'.

    Is it normal?
    I mean normal enough nobody is confused here what he's asking, its a niche thing, but obviously some guys are into it.

    Is he gay?
    It's -possible- he's gay, but I wouldn't assume so especially from this. If there are other things about him making you think so, then i'd be more suspicious.

    Help you …
    It depends if this is something that's bleh but okay for you and you're nervous, or if it's a hard no.
    It depends if it's something he really wants all the time instead of regular sex, or if he wants it regularly as well as regular sex, or if he wants it just once in a while, and whether you can be enthusiastic about whatever sex life he can also be enthusiastic about. If yes, well, have fun. If not, then you two aren't a good match.

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  • Well it likely that he is an closet gay, normal guys don't like that kind of shit.

  • I have never had a guy ask me this.

    • It's kind of a GAG thing. lol

    • @JerryReed LOL...

    • But if someone asked u too, would u fuck him?

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  • Clearly not every guy wants this don't be a idiot for some reason that's what your guy likes is he gay no bi maybe and what u do tell him it's a none negotiable if he don't like it leave

  • He's a freak for sure probably not gay even though it does look that way it's probably a lot more complicated. It's not so much that he's got weird fetishes but that he's willing to push them on you to this point. That's whats odd here.

  • YOU picked him!!!
    Maybe you should PICK another...

  • Lmao sounds like he might be gay

    • It’s not gay sex

    • @NorthwestCD he wants butt sex with a fake penie

    • Every sex between a woman and a man is not gay You are just an idoit who knows nothing about sex 😂😂

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  • ... Males don't have a "g-spot." That's a common misconception. Anyway, no, he's not gay, no, it's not what every guy wants, and if you don't want to then so be it. Don't expect him to be happy with you though. You're allowed to not want to do that just like he's allowed to no longer be sexually pleased with you if you refuse.

    • She’s clueless about reality

  • Fucking a guy in his ass is very fun

    • @naughtysarah have you done this?

    • @manmeat Sometimes I do

    • @naughtysarah did u suggest it to him or he ask for it? whats it like does it ever make u cum? do u use strapon and is that able to stimulate u?

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  • Does not make him gay

    He’s only gay if he’s into men

  • The fact that he doesn't respect your "no" is a red flag.

  • Dude is a homo.

  • someone has some gay tendencies

  • You should do it

    It’s very sexy and fun when a woman fucks a guy in his ass

  • You're not exaggerating and he is not gay.
    It's great that he talked to you about this. Communication is the key to a lasting relationship.
    His only mistake was being pushy about it. Because this way, the feelings you had towards his fetish became worse.
    Make him slow down.
    Tell him what you don't like about his ass and make him come out with solutions to make it more bearable for you. Like washing himself thoroughly in front of you, shaving it in front of you, or taking an enema (Maybe this not in front of you)
    Then restart with the simple touching.

  • girls never truly understand that the g spot, for men, is found by going through the ass

    it's called a prostate orgasm, and it's found by doing anal on him

  • I'm not gay and want this

  • Break up with him. That's sick

    • Says the stupid old prudish blue anon 😂😂😂

    • @HeyThere94 says the closeted gay man

    • @Rissyanne I have no interest in men but thanks for playing old lady 😂😂

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