My boyfriend wants me to put condom on with my mouth. What to do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I are in a inter-national relationship. He is American. I am Asian. He asked me to try to put a condom on with my mouhth. when i said no, i never tried it and i told him this sounds like he is watching too much porn. I also told him that the condom won't be properly put on and for sure there will be air in it and it might break. he was disappointed and told me most American girls know how to do it to spice up things in the bedroom. Is he true? Do most American girls have experiences like this? Should I give a try to what he wants? The disappointment is currently upsetting me and i am scared he will leave me because i am so traditional and he wants more.

[Wonderer89]

Personally I don't really see this as a big request... it's not a porn thing, rarely would you see them putting on a condom in porn. It's easy to do with some practise, and practise ensures it's don't properly.
However on the other hand you don't have to do anything you don't want to. If you're uncomfortable then don't do it. I feel that compromise is important in a relationship so for something that isn't painful, humiliating, gross or freaky I'd give it a go for him

[Asker]

Have you done it? How to get rid of my anxiety? How to do it?

[Wonderer89]

Talk to him about you feeling uncomfortable. Our partners should be able to help alleiviate our fears so if you're anxious about something in particular tell him.
https://youtu.be/pkPZKXvM69k

It's not hard, just takes a little bit of practise

[Kaylyne]

@Wonderer89 Perhaps you would be good enough to explain the procedure in accomplishing such a feat as this. I am truly intrigued in knowing how one can achieve this. Thank You. x

[Wonderer89]

@Kaylyne It's well outlined in the video 😊

[Kaylyne]

@Wonderer89 What video?

[Wonderer89]

@Kaylyne the one in my comment just above yours on my opinion. There are tonnes of how to videos on YouTube on how to do this

[Kaylyne]

@Wonderer89 Whoops! Sorry, my mistake. Thank You. x

[Kaylyne]

@Wonderer89 Well, you certainly learn something new every day! lol :)

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

This is easier than it sounds. As long as you pinch the tip to stop air getting in and leave enough space for him to ejaculate. Just make sure you add some lube to it and don't blow as you hold it in your mouth. Then just roll it over his dick with your mouth. Practice on a banana or something.

[Itsmeyay]

Your name though lol

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

@Itsmeyay 😂😂😂😂😂

[Paris13]

If Joe is Planning on Going anywhere Because you will Not... Be able to Do this Difficult Asinine Task Here, dear.
And by the way, Many a Guy no Matter the Try, has Problems with the Raincoat themselves.
Good Luck. xx

[Anonymous]

When I started university, the health department volunteers literally came around with dildos and condoms and that was one of the things they showed how to do, trying to encourage young people 'use condoms, they can be fun and sexy!'

So yes, it was not a strange porn star move, but a standard thing that many people would have tried at least.

[Asker]

I dont believe in this. If in usa, i think it would be scandalous for your age.

[Opinion Owner]

Canada. Scandalous? Are you joking? There were like free buckets of condoms all over the place, posters about std prevention, etc. Most university age people are having sex. At high school there'd be more pushback from parents, but by university, they're being treated as adults.

[Asker]

If in usa. I said. Because they dont even have proper sex-ed in high school i observed, and there was none over here in usa at university i studied.

[Opinion Owner]

My impression was other u. s. schools were the same as my school. But I suspect it may be very different depending on where school is. I would be surprised if big public schools in the blue states weren't pretty much the same as mine. Note that this wasn't like 'in university class', this was 'in university residences'

[Asker]

Oh dorms. Okay now make sense, i basically thought someone came in class and showed you. Sorry my bad 😂

[Opinion Owner]

It's okay, I realize I wasn't clear. Yeah. And the 'someone' was probably some volunteer from student health services, who was probably like a 21 year old nursing student, who would literally show up and be like yay, here are all birth control types, and my favorite is this one! and here's fun ways to put on condoms! who wants free condoms and lube! be safe!

[Intraluminal]

You hit it right on the head. It does sound like he has been watching too much porn. I agree to some extent that *some* American girls are more sexually adventurous than might be the average in other countries, but that doesn't matter. Why doesn't it matter? Because you are you. He has to take you as you are, not as some fantasy person.

[xxAjjxx]

If you are afraid a guy will leave you because you don't feel comfortable putting a condom on him, using your mouth. Then maybe you should consider looking for a new, better, man.

[Adenn]

I've never heard of an American girl doing this. Maybe he just wants a blowjob? I just see so many potential problems with this, cut's, breaking, etc. After all teeth are sharp. I guess fingernails can cause the same problems if you aren't careful.

[Adenn]

I was also going to say, If you are up to trying, why not? But don't do anything you aren't comfortable doing.

[uknaked]

It is actually quite common for a girl to do this to a guy, or a gay guy on a partner, it is not unusual.
Just place it on the head with your fingers, then hold it in your lips and push it down his cock as far as you can, finish off with your hand. Just keep your teeth out of the way as you suck it!
Also tell him to get fruit flavoured tasty condoms first.

[redspoiler111]

that's ridiculous you don't have to do that for him? He can put that on by himself. tell him or ask him are you trying to be a pornstar or a professional adult Entertainer?

[Asker]

That's what i said. I just wonder if this is a common sex practice in USA

[redspoiler111]

I don't believe so. Remember it's always your choice on whether you want to or not. plus he shouldn't not only want to be your boyfriend for sex only or he's not a real man. you want a man who loves you for you.

[abundantlyrich]

if you don't feel comfortable then you shouldn't feel obligated. It looks like he is guilting you into doing it.

Not really the suitable boyfriend for you. I also feel like he is testing to see how a blind submissive you are for him.

[Kaylyne]

This sure has to be a feat of total impossibility.

[Asker]

What do you mean? Sorry my English.

[Kaylyne]

I would not have thought it possible to put a condom on in this way.

[Itsmeyay]

You should not let him force you into anything, he will want more, have you done anal yet? That's next I guess if you haven't already.
Sounds like he is manipulating you.

[Asker]

No we haven't done anal either, i am more into conventional things in sex compared to him i guess but he already told me he wants to do anal.

[Itsmeyay]

Well suddenly all the American woman also do anal I guess lol, then he'll get more kinky like Bondage (tie you up). He's manipulating you he sees you as a love doll, you are Asian. Be careful.

[Asker]

Thanks for insight. So is true that americans watch a lot of japanese/korean porn and sees us as tight vagina love dolls? I am didappointed.

[Itsmeyay]

Yes unfortunately that's true.

[Itsmeyay]

Not saying he is, but it sounds like it, only you know the situation enough to judge inside your own relationship.

[jman46241]

If you are scared of him leaving you than whats the point?

[OfDeath]

I've had this done to me but she pinched the air and rolled the first bit with her hand and then rolled the rest down with her lips.

[Asker]

That one must not be hard. Infact easy to do once you roll a little but he wants me to Put it on with my mouth. Not roll it down.

[OfDeath]

I don't know how you could do it without using at least one hand. Try pinching the air with your teeth and then getting it on the tip with your mouth and then make it look like you're rolling it on with your mouth but it's one hand assisted

[DizzyAster]

"Is he true?"
No, it's not.

[Asker]

That's what i thought because of my American friends and what they said. They are maybe outlier to the right because they so christian. I told my boyfriend maybe he met only overly adventorous American girls. Not average

[DizzyAster]

He just saying crap to get you to do it. Do it if you want.

[Mr-Kabuki]

put a condom in his mouth duh

[Anonymous]

here's what you do.
Step1 open condom
Step two put it on with your mouth.

Lol haven't used a condom since like 2005

[Anonymous]

it is dangerous as u can rip it

[Anonymous]

You mean interracial not inter-national and Becareful media2.giphy.com/media/13Bdgm741B0j4c/200w.gif

[Asker]

Not only interracial. But international. He is white i am Asian. But he is American. I am from a far east Asian country.

[Anonymous]

If he would leave u for something so simple then he's just an asshole. If u want to learn just tell him "hey I've never done this before but I want to learn" and then u can practice how to. Practice makes perfect.

[Anonymous]

first tell him stop watching Japanese porn. babe now u r putting condom next time he may ask you to drink his pee and that's just gross. basically establishing limit to weird stuff is important plus sex is connecting soul kinda shit so try to be happy when u r doing it so he does not have to watch porn