My boyfriend wants to have sex with another girl?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend after 4 years dating thinks its okay to bang another girl. Basically I’m very old school and I could never kiss or have sex with anyone apart from him. (Cause that’s what love is right?)

However he is open to idea and have said to me that he could definitely go through with it and actually sleep with another girl (sex is sex right).

So we find a girl who is willing to do it and I said to him he should go for it. So next Saturday when I’m not going to be in the house this girl will come over and they will bang. So I’m just thinking if he goes through with it I’m going to dump his ass 100%. I know it’s a bit twisty for me to say I’m okay with it when I’m not but I want to see if he actually going to do it and if he does is this even love?

My question is how come men can through and actually have sex with another girl while have loving girlfriend!!! How come your are not good enough for them I just don’t understand? (Sorry for ranting )

[simonqq]

Well yikes. It definitely sucks that he is interested in other sex partners but you should have just said no and that you are not cool with it at all because it's actually possible that he cares and loves you still and would respect it. It's so fucking common with swingers and what not and couples that fuck around but staying together forever. This makes me believe it's possible to have feelings for someone and have sex with others. It's not something I personally would want.

Anyway I think you have the right to question your relationship but also I think you made the wrong decision however, you are free to do as you want in the end.

[God_of_Thunder]

I was actually going to suggest you dump his ass before I even got partway through your question.

I would have dumped him as soon as he brought it up. I'm like you, in that I am 100,000% a strictly "one person" partner. They are all I want/need, and have zero desire to be with anyone else.

Your boyfriend is clearly not relationship material, and I wouldn't even let him have the brief moment of enjoyment that he'd get, while he's with her. I'd dump his ass now; he's not worth it.

[Purplemonkey24]

Dump him. That is what love is, being with one person

[nachosaresexy]

Seems like a definite red flag for the relationship.

[boredguy01]

You should just dump him now because even if he chooses not to have sex with this girl he'll probably cheat on you eventually

[Miristheiss]

Yes, definitely dump him. He sounds horrible and selfish. He obviously isn't very devoted to you and doesn't find you special.

[blutwolfe]

Well that's not love honestly

[JosyJosy]

I'd dump him yep, let's see if he follows through

[Ripper_E]

You know women sleep with other men right?
and yes you are pretty trashy for leaving him if you say you are okay with it. You are worse than him.

[chriscdi]

personally i think you should break up with him now, dont let him do that to you and just leave him

[Asker]

Nah I want to see if he actually will do it !!! He could be just all talk.

[chriscdi]

if he had the balls to mention it to his girlfriend then he isn't doing it for no reason, obviously he will proceed with the process mostly after you allowed it, that was the hardest part for him, getting your approval and considering that you gave him permission, its no longer cheating, break it before he does or tell him you dont want him having sex with someone else

[concrete]

Maybe he's not monogomous

[Jamie05rhs]

First of all, he's a douchebag, and you should dump him regardless (in my opinion.) However, you really shouldn't have agreed to let him do it, because now it's on you and it's kind of your fault for giving him the green light. So by you doing that then technically what he's about to do is not cheating. So you pretty much shot yourself in the foot there. Bad strategy. Also, I would recommend never playing games with things like that; it never ends well.

As of now, you still have a chance to call the whole thing off, as does he. If you actually like him and want to preserve your relationship, just tell him that he is NOT ALLOWED to f*ck any other chicks. Period. And if he resigns himself to comply with your wishes, then you have to forgive him for having the thought in the first place, and you both have to just move on and move forward together.

[Bang5luts]

I don't know. Probably an age thing. But when i was younger I only wanted the person i loved and was with. Until I was ghosted, cheated on, and heartbroken. Then I didn't allow myself to totally fall head over heels in love anymore

[lpoots]

once he does it one he will do it again and again

[Jmmmfi4]

Just harmless fun

[Asker]

How is it harmless tho when he thinks he can come and get into bed with me after? I just don’t understand it tbh.

[drake1414]

All guys do. Most girls too.

[Asker]

Really?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I do this all the time (she sleeps with people too). It is only fun. We only love each other but it is such a thrill and very hot.

[Anonymous]

Ditch him!