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Sexual Health My boyfriend wants to have sex with other people?
beach_chick Xper 5
My boyfriend told me tonight that he wants to have sex with other people and have an open relationship I guess. I am obviously freaking out and hurt. Does this mean he really is trying to break up with me and this is the way he's doing it? He told me that he wants to be honest about it and let me know before he would do anything. I am ready to just give up. Is this normal for a guy who I've been with for 4 years?
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11 29This is not normal.
If you are not going to go along with his suggestion. I would tell him if he thinks that the grass is greener elsewhere. Go have fun and not come back.
No, it's definitely not normal , I can tell you. It's a load of bs & pity and shame that he is saying this after 4 years of being together. So he found a new sex interest, doesn't mean to mess up your relationship because of that. If you're not ok with it and he insists, break up. No point staying with an ashore like that, really. If he loves you and is committed he would only want to have sex with you, not put others in it. I would break up if I were you & never look back
*asshole
That sounds like it's time to walk away.
Are you not being sexual together or, have things gotten boring in the bedroom? Maybe you two just need to try something different together? I wish you luck. I’ve been there. When it happened to me I went with it but it wound up meaning that she wanted MMF threesomes, she realized she was bi.. so, I accepted it since she was learning about herself. Still hard to feel unhurt at first though so I understand.
At least he is telling you before doing something. It still hurts I am sure, but would have been worse had he lied.
He is going to cheat on you, and it will happen soon. It doesn't matter if you give him permission or not. His eye has already wandered... his dick will follow, I am Sorry
I agree with him
I have a feeling your boyfriend has met someone else that he wants to have sex with it is really constitutes cheating on you even though he told you about it ahead of time. I think you need to tell him that this is it okay with you but if he insists on doing it then probably you and he should break up. If he goes ahead and does it I think you should probably break up with him
Immoral bastard
Dump him and move on before you really get hurt. You're obviously not enough for him and that's not a basis of happiness in a long term relationship
He doesn't deserve you
Say ok, and then let him see what he signed up for. An open relationship. As soon as you start having sex or even giving interest to other men, his opinion will change.
Open relationships are a thing, so I cannot say what is normal or not. However, the approach could've been different. He could've asked your thoughts about it first before dropping the bomb of "I wanna bang other chicks".
PS:
I too am in a relationship and "want" to have sex with other people. It's a "want", a fantasy if you will, but I would never ever act on it nor tell my SO about it.
It's just a fantasy that comes and goes.
While I agree that you need to be honest on you SO, but there are times when suppressing thoughts that you would not dare act on can be a better judgement.
My therapist told me there are no rules to a relationship unless you set the boundaries. Because he wants an open relationship and you want monogamy it's not going to work out and dont try to force it either. Please for you sake and mental health leave him. You're not missing out on much I promise
There is no normal. Some people are into it or it could be a tactic to break up. If you aren't interested in an open relationship, tell him. If it's a deal breaker for him he will have to find a new girlfriend.