My boyfriend wants to watch me give another guy a blowjob?

[Anonymous]

I have been together with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. Lately he started mentioning that the feels like it would be a huge turn on to watch me with another guy. Specifically watch me give another guy a blowjob. I don't know what to think about it. I consider myself adventurous and open to many kinks but i never thought he would like to share me like that.

Does anyone have experienced this with their significant other before? I am worried he likes it as a fantasy but he will feel different when it actual happens. He told me to pick any guy i like as long as i am honest and open about it with that other guy.

[Bricealan]

The 'anonymous' reply you got below is probably 100% accurate, from my experience. I had a college girlfriend that I met in night school, and after I moved from Ohio to CA, she and I traveled back and forth Ohio/California and had sex here in CA and in Ohio as much as I could afford to travel. We had cybersex and phone sex and she had the same in Ohio, when not here. One time she got a huge penis picture from some guy online, and she wanted to meet and probably fuck him. I told her it was good with me and to go ahead and meet him.

She did meet him alone in her car at one point, and jacked him off and even saved the towel, that she put over his penis to catch the semen and showed it to me on webcam. Kinky? Certainly, but it did get me very hot. She told me that at the time she jacked him off that she thought about: "Kissing it on the head, but I was afraid you would not like it" I told her that idea of her doing it, got me very hot.

Point being? Yes guys do like that and do think and fantasize about it and I got to experience it. She and I were together, for a couple of years and it did not change my feelings towards her one bit. It was very erotic, AND I wish I could have watched her jack him off and if she had sucked him, all the better.

True experience, and not a word of this is fantasy, so talk about it with him and take 'Anonymous's advice too.

Good luck.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing. I feel more and more like it's a common fantasy that would turn a guy on.

[Bricealan]

Well, I would not lie to you or make this up, and for men (depending on the man) it might be very hot for both of you, (If you think it through, and not be jealous of it happening)

[summiter]

It may be a turn on for him. But what will he think once you are finished with the other guy? The big question is would you want to give another guy a bj or hj... it is your body and your decision. Does your boyfriend want to jerk off while he watches you? How is your sex life with him currently?

[Asker]

I don't know, i am worried about that. I could do it if he is okay with me seeing doing that.. He agreed to not do anything and only watch. Our sex life is great to be honest.

[Anonymous]

Back when I worked 12 hour graveyard shifts, I had nothing to do but chat online. I talked to thousands of people.

I believe that 90% of guys fantasize about what your boyfriend is asking about, but only about 1% of guys admit it.

I also know that women are 10,000 times more likely to cheat, then accept the offer from their boyfriend/husband.

These are your main concerns:

1. Will he regret it and hate me?

2. Is this a trick or test of my loyalty?

3. Is he trying to get rid of me?

4. Is this a way for him to get other women?

The biggest mistake people make in this situation, is to try and go from 0 mph to 100 mph. Why not try 2 mph?

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer, makes sense to be honest.. Could be a trick? Makes me confused.

[Opinion Owner]

This is what you do. You and your boyfriend invite a male friend over for beers or something. boyfriend: Todd, Sally and I are planning a little getaway, and bough her a nice yellow bikini. Todd: Sweet! boyfriend: Honey, show Todd your new bikini. Honey: No, he doesn't want to see that. boyfriend: Todd, do you want to see her new bikini? Todd: Sure (You go get it and put it on the coach) boyfriend: No, honey, I meant to put it on and show him. Honey: This is good enough, he can see it. boyfriend: PUT It ON! Honey: Fine! (you come back with it on) boyfriend: Well, Todd, what do you think? Todd: I LOVE it. boyfriend: Isn't she gorgeous? Todd: Fuck, yes! Todd goes home, and you two fuck like minx. You let that digest for a week or so, and decide if you want to up the game. 2 MPH

[Asker]

I will try to do this. You are right, i should test the waters before going 1-100 and not option to go back after I did it for him.

[Opinion Owner]

If all goes well in that scene, then this is the next step: Your boyfriend needs to talk to Todd, and tell him what he has planned. You don't' need to know about that. Todd comes over and all of you are talking. Your boyfriend is rubbing your feet. Your boyfriend says he's going for more beer, and asks Todd to take over rubbing your feet, and he does. When your boyfriend comes back, he starts massaging your shoulders. Now you're in heaven. Todd leaves and you and your boyfriend digest that for a couple of weeks, and decide it you want to up the game.

[DrillBeats]

Great plan.

[Opinion Owner]

@DrillBeats I've talked to a million guys with this fantasy. The first question I ask is: "Please tell me you haven't told her about this." Of course they have, and now it's too late. The damage is done. Now the wives just cheat on them. This is another strategy I suggested to the guys. Wife: Do you have any fantasies? Husband: Hell yes, I'd love to have two women at once. Wife: LOL Do you think you could handle two? Husband: Yes. Wife:What about me? Husband: You would be one of them. Wife: No, I mean why can't I have two guys at once? Husband: Because women don't like stuff like that. Wife: Don't you think that fair is fair? Husband: I'm so confused... lo You now have her asking you for the very same thing you wanted all along.

[DrillBeats]

Lol!

[Bricealan]

Great reply, and your caution to her about 0 to 100 too quickly, is spot on.

[Bricealan]

I'm interested in your comments, especially, that "women are 10,000 times more likely to cheat than to accept the offer from their boyfriend/husband". I have THOUGHT that many times, but never heard another women admit or say that. Thank you for that admission

[Opinion Owner]

@Bricealan It's a horrible reality, but so is the snow I have to drive in. It's there. I'll give you three scenarios that husbands have told me. 1. A guy married the "town pump". She had screwed every guy in town, and had her first of many gangbangs at an age I dare not mention here. He tried to get her into this lifestyle, but she just refused. But she had no problem cheating on him. 2. Another guy begged his wife to get into the lifestyle for 10 years. She refused. But when she returned from a two week business trip, hubby snooped on her phone. Her text messages revealed that she had fucked the same guy everyday for two weeks. He was furious and confronted her. She admitted her guilt. After a long cooling down period, he forgave her. And then he went back to trying to convince her to do the lifestyle he wanted. It took a year, but then she went for it. So it took 11 years, but she didn't mind being a cheating pos. 3. Another guy tried to make this happen for ten years, but his wife wanted no part of it. One day she asked her husband if she could go on a date with her boss. He told her to go for it. Her boss was a dom, and he fucked her on the first date. And for many years, she fucked him and all of his friends. Her husband was a sub, and that just doesn't work. He must have had money, because they had two homes in Florida, but she couldn't bring herself to do what her sub husband wanted. People have no clue what the powers of a dominant man are. They don't understand it. Her husband learned about it, but he couldn't change. I explained it to a guy on this site. Women are in a cage, because society puts them there. It takes a special man to release them from the cage. Her husband couldn't do that. Her boss could. She wanted to be a slut, but she was trapped inside a cage. Her boss opened the door. It all revolves around guilt.

[chrissykerdock]

i gave my girlfriend's husband a blowjob for his birthday... with her request of course and she watched... she wanted to offer me 60$ but i said no way i'd do it for free... it wasn't bad i knew him for awhile and never thought i'd blow him but it was fun which led to more after his birthday.

[giveubukkake]

Soooo hot!!

[JamesDiaz11]

I think he has a very distorted mind from porn addiction. I want to say that he would feel differently if the "kink" were actually played out, but maybe he wouldn't? Maybe he'd actually enjoy it and want you to do it again, perhaps with multiple guys, or at least involving full sex?

If he's actually willing to share you with other men then the protectiveness and territoriality guys should feel over their woman is gone- you need to think hard about what that means.

[Berethor]

Don't agree to that, he is trying to turn you into a ho, better leave that beta male.

[Asker]

We have been together for more than 4 years tho. It can just be a kink no?

[Berethor]

A very sick kink, how can you be 4 years with a guy like that? he want to pimp you.

[mandyfire98]

I've been in a relationship where my boyfriend at the time was into sharing me.

[Asker]

Can you tell me about your experience.. positive and negative?

[mandyfire98]

Honestly at first it was fucking weird haha. But overall It was actually a positive experience. We all had fun.

[MarkyMark77]

@mandyfire98 was it a blowjob or did u fuck another guy? and who was the lucky guy lol?

[mandyfire98]

@MarkyMark77 It was everything really lol. It was a few different guys throughout the relationship.

[MarkyMark77]

@mandyfire98 lol any memorable experiences?

[mandyfire98]

Uh yeah I mean it was all pretty memorable haha considering I'd never done anything like it before. Also did swinging in that same relationship.

[MarkyMark77]

@mandyfire98 thats wild. what was ur most memorable experience?

[Reece12345]

Just from the way you tell it, it seems you are not comfortable with this?

If so, I would have serious talk with him and set some boundaries. It's important to let him know about things that you are not comfortable with.

[Asker]

Thank you. I will talk to him when I make up my mind about it. I just can't imagine doing such thing in front of him.. Let alone finish it.

[Reece12345]

It may be difficult, but try to be firm about this.

[SnowedIn]

This is a thing.

[Asker]

Is it?

[SnowedIn]

For some couples, yes. But it has to work for you. You have to be 100% comfortable with it and not do it necessarily just for him. It can also be a "try it once" sort of thing. Maybe you like it or maybe you're revulsed by it. Either is okay. So is not wanting to do it. And, just because he's got the fantasy doesn't mean you have to do it -- and that's okay. It's not for every couple but it is for some.

[Asker]

Thank you..

[Emilyis]

Dump him now! He has no respect for you anymore.

[mrmonogamous]

He’s a piece of shit. If you’re his woman, you’re HIS woman. If this is beyond fantasy and he actually wants it to happen, he cares more for himself than you. This is a huge red flag.

[Paige90]

A lot of guys want to do this with their wife or girlfriend. I did it with my college boyfriend and it was actually very hot but could have easily gone the other way. If you feel comfortable it isn't a big deal and doesn't mean he doesn't care about you.

[QuietRunner]

go the other way how so?

[Summeroflove]

Duplicate reported. See my previous 500 answers and the answers others have given you over and over.

Ylu ask the same question 500 times thinking you’re going to get different answers.

[Asker]

What do you mean? I posted just one question..

[Summeroflove]

Whatever

[Dargil]

You might consider videoing your best effort on him for him.

[DrillBeats]

Good idea.

[RavVid]

I think you should stay away from this. Fantasies might be sexy in the head but often don't work out that well IRL.

Also it is passing you around whatever he might say.

I'd suggest you say you will if he also blowjobs the guy of your choice and swallows.

[bowenw]

If you’re adventurous and comfortable doing it, give it a try provided any one of you can stop it for any reason. Keep in mind your boyfriend may change his mind once he sees it happening in real life. There is also the possibility your boyfriend is testing you in some way. Please feel free to PM.

[Asker]

Thank you. You think he could change his mind and regret it? Can't seem to PM you.

[bowenw]

He may have a fantasy about it but not be able to go though with it in real life. You should be able to PM me. Please try again. If it still doesn't work you may have to follow me first.

[Asker]

That is what worries me. That he changes his mind and feeling about it while i am doing it. And then what..

[JPresidente]

If you’re below Level 3 he would have to message you. Or his settings may be the issue. Now back to our regularly scheduled program. 😂

[bowenw]

If he changes him mind it's not the end of the world. He'll know it wasn't the turn-on he had imagined. If you change your question so you aren't asking it anonymously for a minute and leave another reply to me, I'll be able to see your ID and message you. Then you can change it back to anonymous.

[JPresidente]

Get a Sybian and this will make his request go away.

[Asker]

That looks uhm.. interesting lol

[JPresidente]

They are fun and come with ahhhhh lots of attachments shall we say. 😂

[PetiteMisSmooth546]

Just no

[BarryLiverstone]

My advice is to compromise and give him a show by using a dildo or sex toy and give it the bj. See how he likes that first.

[Asker]

This actually could be a good idea to test out the waters.. thanks

[Sparkie460]

Some guys like seeing their s. o. performing sexual acts on other people. Personally, I'm not sharing my wife with anyone. That doesn't turn me on in the least

[Gloree]

wow. and you referred to him as your boyfriend? you are nuts. I mean, my boyfriend can't even tolerate me looking at another guy talk less of giving another guy head? You must be joking.

[Andres77]

Some guys are into that.

[Gloree]

@Andres77 weird

[Andres77]

takes all kinds.

[orangecherry]

gross

[gorydetails]

If your boyfriend had a pocket pussy he wouldn't share that with his best friend. That should tell you where you rank.

[nawtee_me]

He is grooming you for a threesome with him and another guy. He wants the other guy but wants you to want him too so it is not just him. He hasn't come out of the closet yet...