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My boyfriend wants two girlfriends, what should I do?
Nicolemaddie Xper 3
My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of years and I know from the beginning he wouldn't settle down with me because he loves to have sex with people and so we are not "officaly together" he still sleep with other girls every now and then but now He ask me he wants to have 2 girlfriends. What should I do? We are in our 20s.
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If you experience a polyamorous please tell me how it went or cons/pros
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What he wants is to date 2 girls that the we wouldn't have financial problems and so he doesn't have to cheat because ill be there. he wants to grow together and experience new and exciting things.
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61 156If you're not into it (some girls are), find someone else. This is not the guy for you.
Well you could do it in a couple different ways you can say that's fine but I want three boyfriends and see what his eyes tell you then or if you want to experience it then go for it but if you're like it 95% of all the other people in this world you wouldn't want to share him so it's up to you really for me personally I love sex too and if I had a girlfriend and she was going to allow me to have another girlfriend I don't know if I would gain or lose respect for her but I would know down deep that if I can do it she can do it and I wouldn't want that
The respect thing is true too... I wouldn’t want a man who let me be with others. He should want to be my only so I would lose respect if I was him too
If you want to share him, do so. If you don’t, leave him.
Kick him to the curb
He doesn't deserve you
What a selfish prick
you'll find a better guy that will LOVE you and only wants to be with you.
Please don't waist anymore more of your time with this guy.
Dump him! Do you get to have 2 boyfriends. Does he give you great orgasms every time?
So get yourself two guys.
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U are naughty
My man and I started being swingers but we do it together. And it's only about sex. We only love each other. I wouldn't stand for him loving another woman. If you decide to be ok with it you too should be able to date other guys if you want. If you just want a man that will only love you then I suggest you break it off and find a man capable. I doubt you will ever be his one and only. Good luck.
If you think that him having another girlfriend would compromise how he feels about or values you, and/or you don't think it's right for him to have two, then it probably would not be a good idea to keep dating him, just because it's unlikely either of you would want to go to the effort of resolving this issue when it is just dating you would save, if that. If you talk about and you are both up to discussing and working out your opinions and beliefs until you can come to an agreement then I'd say a) go for it, and b) you probably should persue a more serious relationship if you are willing to put in that effort for this guy.
If, on the other hand, you see nothing wrong with him having another girlfriend, and you feel like you can trust him to value and treat both of you equally, then there's no harm in trying. Just make sure the new girl knows what's going on, and have rules in place (just a few, not like a list), like continue no lying. That's the easiest way for the potential situation to explode in your face, so definitely be honest about your concerns and expectations of a three person relationship. Make sure everyone involved knows what limits are in place, if any, and be careful not to treat any of the members as inferior. It will be very hard to have more than two people in any relationship (even with kids and parents, the problem being "favorites") so keep your guard high against this possibility, and good luck if you choose to go this way.
Polyamorous is almost like sexuality -- not something you can just decide overnight. He sounds like he wants to experiment with it. Kudos on him for saying so. The question is whether or not you want to experiment with it yourself, because if it doesn't work for you and does for him or vice versa, your relationship will fail. And don't forget that you being polyamorous might be having more than one boyfriend. Your sexuality can still apply.
Tell him he can have as many as he wants, but if it's gonna be more than one, you won't be one of them.
I mean, come on. Grow some spine.
I documented your post already. Funniest topic of the day
Ummm that’s not okay. Go find someone else
Tell him you need two guys, then see his reaction.
For a while, I was dating two bisexual girls. Whenever we could all get together, it was fantastic.
Most of the time (but not at the moment), I have one long term relationship, one medium term relationship, and one throwaway that I might be seeing going on. It can work, but requires obsessive calendar keeping.
Watch this movie, "Professor Marston and the Wonder Women". Don't take it too literally, just use it to help you think.
That's really not good
Ypu deserve better then that why be withba guy that can't give ypu himself completely and why wpuld. ypu have sex with him knowing he was sleeping with other girls? That is just disrespectful and fowl , you should dump his ass completely and find someone that only wants you and only needs you
No she doesn't. She deserve exactly what she signed up for. She has no self respect so she deserve a man who has no respect for her either.
@BadAssHunter her boyfriend has turned around and tried to change the rules of the relationship.
And she doesn't really care. She still wants a relationship and is obviously open to sharing him with another woman. @Goodwifie
Tell him to fuck off cause you alone are worth 100 girlfriends. And he can't handle 100 % commitment so thats when you know to ditch the guy cause he doesn't value or respect you. You need someone that treats you with a full 200% effort. This guy seems like a duchebag. If he had said that to me. I would be like oh hell no. Something is coming his way when he least expects it or straight up just punch him for disrespecting.
You better protect yourself. What is YOUR definition of love? Would you do the same thing? He doesn't like you at all to try to put himself on other girls skin.
He will be happy to see other girls skin, but the day you'll have a sexual sickness, will you be HAPPY?
Are you ever going to feel COMPLETED with him?
I know its hard, but you have a WORTH. He's trying to manipulate you and unconsciously he's considering you as a FUCKGIRL not a GIRLFRIEND.
Good luck with that. There's a lot of fishes in the sea. Xx
It really depends how you feel about having a polyamorous relationship. Would you be happy to be sexually involved with another girl? Would you want to bring someone into the relationship yourself? Would having group sex make you happy? You need to do what makes YOU happy. Don’t mind what other people think is normal. Just do what feels right to you. If you are open-minded and free spirited and you like that idea, then you can try it.
Just make sure you don’t let him take advantage of the situation. If you’re not happy leave. If you don’t like them, tell him. If you like someone else then maybe you could get them instead. Just follow your heart.