My boyfriend was hard and we were kissing a lot and then as soon as I undressed and exposed my sports bra and panties he got soft is this normal?

Does this mean that my body isn’t attractive to him?

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11 mo
He kept saying it’s not you it’s me. He says he doesn’t watch porn and he is also always telling me how pretty I am I don’t know what’s going on. Could he possibly be tired from working yesterday?
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  • This is one of the most beautiful best questions on gag that I have seen in ages I think this is adorable I think this is so flipping funny

    And for sure do not take it the wrong way do not think it's the wrong way I can't stop laughing right now he was so excited and all the sudden you get undressed and as you're getting undressed he's getting more and more turned on until the final piece of clothing comes up and he realizes at that moment oh my God we're going to have sex and I don't know what to do and everything goes downhill from there all that fantasy all those nasty dirty little secret thoughts his desires his passions his fantasies all came to a halt because he realized how beautiful you were in that moment and it scared him it really was nothing to do with you I mean and believe that it really has nothing to do with you it's all in his head and he'll fix it sooner or later I hope but this was a cute cute story I mean I love this story because it happens to every single guy believe me and every single girl goes through the same thing you just went through one time or another it will happen that's what I love about it and you're honestly about it good question

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  • I wouldn't worry about it unless he has trouble getting hard for sex. If he does he should probably discuss it with his doctor. Things like alcohol and drugs can have a negative effect. Cheating or masturbating a lot are other reasons he may have trouble.

    • I doubt he has time for cheating or masterbating but he likes game of thrones and the sopranos very heavily nude shows

    • I wouldn't worry about it unless it's an ongoing issue.

    • He keeps on saying that he thought that he was in the mood but he wasn’t

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  • Honestly he is probably so nervous! Is he new to sex?

    Really the nerves might have got to him. Him trying to make it go up made it worse!

    Next time just love him kiss him and take his mind from his dick!

    Sucking on it helps lmao

    • But we’ve been together for over 3 years.

    • But does sex happen? Was he tired or nervous about something?

    • a lot of girls complain about men with porn dick who can't cum for them...

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  • No idea.. I never had that happen before.. did your touch him and keep going to try and get him hard again or did you just stop?

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  • I am willing to bet it is not you.

    There are so many things that maybe making him soft when it's time to be with you. He may need counseling.

  • When that happened, what did you say or do? Because at that point, he is not feeling so good about himself.

  • I go soft if something bothered me emotionally, if the girl was not happy.

    at a physical level I get hard if I am getting ready for sex, if the girl is undressing for me.

    perhaps something bothered him at that moment. For me if the girl made the mood seductive again, played with my penis I would get hard again.

  • Your lingerie may not have been the reason he lost his erection.

    • What could it be then? Is my body the problem?

    • He told me I don't know I guess maybe I thought I was in the mood but I wasn’t that’s what he said

    • He could have just been having anxiety about performing for you.

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  • it sounds like jsut nerves on his part. Try to help him relax and lower the tension/expectation. Ease into the shared pleasure. Enjoy the adventure. I am sure it is not your body.

  • Not in my world.

  • Has it happened before? If you haven't undressed in front of him before than I would expect him to be excited.

  • Erectile Dysfunction is getting more frequent with younger men. Could also be performance anxiety.

  • It would not happen to me but we all are different. Does he stay hard during a handjob sex?
    I would not worry about it yet. Can you get him hard otherwise? How is the sex life either him?

  • Just try some moves. Take everything off and try some foreplay.

    • He keeps on saying that he thought that he was in the mood but he wasn’t

    • Maybe try teasing his dick and his balls. Get him hard. Most guys can't ignore their boners.

    • He was hard and then when i showed him my sports bra he got soft

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  • Yeah it’s normal

  • Some people have nervous thoughts and that kills the wood. It’s happened to me before even when I found the woman very attractive, sometimes your mind just gets in the way and the more u try to fight it the worse it gets

  • Nervousness

  • There’s lots of reasons it can happen, tiredness or alcohol can be reasons

  • low confidence.

    • Im the one with low confidence

    • @isfpcaramelprincess his dick expressed it clearly.

    • He keeps on saying that he thought that he was in the mood but he wasn’t

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  • So when u touched it did it get hard again?

    • Well I didn’t touch it much after that I just got upset and put my clothes back on.

    • Thats bad tbh!!

    • It just made me feel like I wasn’t attractive to him. I told him look at my new bra and i stood up to show him my underwear and he got soft. That doesn’t really make me feel good about myself.

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  • Fuck no it's not normal

  • Maybe he is not turned on by girls..

  • No that's a bit strange, to get soft immediately like that.

  • 'Well I didn’t touch it much after that I just got upset and put my clothes back on. '

    By doing this, you are creating a mental association with his flaccidity and you being upset. Thereby creating potential performance anxiety and increasing the likelihood of this happening again. Thus if the initial reason had nothing to do with you, it will now be associated with that behavior.

    • We’re okay now but I probably shouldn’t have done that

    • I read a few other things from you. Sex is an act of love and romance between two lovers. Men want love and romance as much as women do. The two of you are new and young to this. You have done some damages to his manhood…based on how you connect with him sexually. You turned him down by telling him you don’t want oral. What are you telling him you like in the bedroom in a sexual way? The mood can be killed instantly and in the back of the guys mind.. he is not good enough.

    • … what are some ways you do/say/sound/tease to encourage him to perform. Sounds like you want your needs med and he is a machine to preform for you. Some men are very sensitive.

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