Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health My boyfriend went to a strip club, what do I do?
Anonymous
My boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. Something we’ve talked about is that neither of us are to go to strip clubs. We got in a big argument and I didn’t hear from him for 3 days. During this time, he went to a titty bar, a strip club, and downloaded tinder. He didn’t tell me about these things, I found out when I saw it on his phone. I don’t know how to get over it or how to forgive him. His reason is that he didn’t think we would work out after our fight, he was trying to get over me, and planning to break up with me. He said all those things he did just made it worse and made him realize he wanted to be with me. I’m heartbroken. How do I get over this? He told me the strip club was really gross, he didn’t even get turned on, and he wanted to leave the entire night but his friend didn’t want to go. What do I believe? What do I do? If he was going to do all that, I would’ve preferred he just break up with me first. I love him, but I feel betrayed and like trust has been broken. I don’t feel like our relationship is special anymore.
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Also, how is it even possible to not get turned on at a strip club? I mean, does he really think I’d believe that? But he won’t admit it. And please be nice, I’m extremely stressed out and sad 😅
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What Girls & Guys Said
5 27strip clubs are NOT sexy, they are sad... broken girls getting naked for money... unable to make a living doing decent work...
I agree. But apparently men don’t
Well a lot of men *
go with him
Hell no lol
Get over it.
It was entertainment and nothing more.
i dont know
I’d dump him
I believe everything he told you, it all makes perfect sense, that isn't what you should be worrying about.
You should address whatever issues you already had which led to this happening in the first place.
He wants to be with you and he wants to work it out with you so the ball is in your court, you can either try and work it out or go your separate ways.
Sounds like he was telling you the truth about all of it, he got mad and figured that was it , you could just chalk it up as a lapse in judgment and forgive him or break up
Well regardless of anything, you have to focus on the now. Meaning what's done is done. He can't change it now, so you have to decide, can you just let this go and focus on your relationship now? The details don't matter of what happened (like whether he got an erection or not, it's a physical reaction that "means" nothing, just the visual alone is enough to do it, doesn't mean he wants them or they want him or that anything physical even happened between them). And the "special" romantic relationship you have in mind, honestly isn't realistic probably. Now that doesn't mean your feelings aren't important, but you just have to focus on the now. Can you let this go or not? If not, maybe this is the end? If you can, then you have to let it go, and completely 100%. And then not just focus on the present and future with him, but you can also discuss what you'll both do next time you have an argument. How you can both handle it better so this doesn't happen again.