My boyfriend who is 45 has no sex desire?

I wanted swx but he denied me and said to leave his dick alone

I asked whats wrong

He said he is not in the mood

I said last time we had sex was a mon th ago

Whats wrong with him

Updates:
9 mo
He is not affectionate No kisses unless i start No hugs... so boring
9 mo
Once he said i give peace to him
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  • Having read the thread sounds like has other stresses and problems that is lowering his drive.

    Been there myself and talking it through or removing the cause of anxiety altogether helps. I'm 45 too and as horny as I was when in my 20's. So sounds like mental problems/stress/worry to me.

Most Helpful Guy

  • He might have a medical problem, so it would be good for him to get an exam. Otherwise, a lot of things can lower testosterone levels. He should avoid processed foods, soy products, and make sure he gets enough greens. Exposure to sunlight on bare skin (not enough to burn but regularly) will boost a man’s T level. Strength training is also good for T levels. Also, he should avoid porn completely if he’s having any trouble wanting sex with you.

    • He doesn't watch porn Eats ver small amount of food Very skinny No greens No gym

    • Spends days smoking weed or drink beer No active free time All the time at home No beach no sunlight

    • He probably needs a more robust diet and exercise and to lay off the weed. Needs to eat some red meat as well as the greens. Men’s testosterone levels, especially as they pass 30, are very sensitive to these things.

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  • options:

    - he's cheating

    - has medical issue

    • No and no His cock gets semi hard he just stops me from going further

    • maybe he cannot maintain erection or has pain also can have something on his mind, problems and not be in the mood

    • He Said the same to me About his non stop thinking and bad mood

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  • Try different outfits and give him what he likes fetish and fantasies and watch sexy movies together it may improve

    • Tell me sexy movie to watch

    • Fifty shades of grey are good and romantic

    • Try American pie it's about high school and fun sexy things may be he'll remember his youth and you could take advantage of that

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  • Maybe he was always asexual and he tricked you into dating him or maybe he gets old fast.

    • He was horny all his life He said he fucked his ex eceryday Because she needed it And now can't fuck me once a month

    • He is getting old, once a month is really low.

    • Befire that once in 5 month

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  • He might have a medical condition. He should see a urologist.

  • My sex drive is still through the roof, might need a new boy.

  • If he won't give you nothing, I'll give it to you 😉

  • it may be caused stress related work

    • He said he feels with no energy He doesn't even jerk off

    • what is his job?

  • Men begin sexual decline rapidly beginning at 40 because their body isn't producing the same natural testosterone as it did when they were much younger.

    At his age that can be a factor, but also stress, lack of sleep or he has bad eating habits and doesn't exercise enough.

    As we age we can't no longer get away with things as we did in our 20's.

    • Vigra and hormonal pills

    • He does all of the abowe you said plus add smoke weed everyday and anti anxiexy sleeping pills

    • @Onashir i dont want him take viagra with me What are hormonal pills?

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  • Low testosterone

    • How to improve it

    • Look it up on google.

  • Has he been to a physician? What was the outcome?

  • Remind me, why is he your boyfriend?

    • He is funny , smart He is kind

    • He likes me

    • I think ...

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  • Tell him to see a doctor.. it's probably hormones.. I'm 42 and I'm just as horny as when I was a teenager lol

  • Time to move on! you are going to regret being in this relationship especially if you are loving and affectionate. Believe me you are not going to change him

    • Wvat to do I love him tho

    • You may love him and he may love you but a sexless relationship especially marriage is an unhappy one that will be miserable, even if he says he'll change you can't change that you have to leave. im not saying to forget about him, im saying go on your own, let him work it out by himself and if he does change and comes back to you! then good for you both! but the burden has to be on him!

    • He doesn't want to marry me He said he doeest want anything serious

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  • That's terrible. Unless I'm feeling bad or something I don't turn down sex with a partner.

    • Ok yes This helps me? how

    • Find out why he's stressed and ask if there's anything you can do to help him.

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  • Find a better man

  • Wow you can't be serious!!! Are you an attractive woman

  • He does not want to be with you
    Maybe as a friend or roommate.
    Or he is getting it else where

    • He says no He likes everything about me

    • Why he lies? I asked directly

    • Would be able to just admit Maybe he does not want to hurt ur feelings, Orr if he is getting his dick sucked like never before by a professional

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  • Low testosterone I guess, I’m horny every day and have to masturbate every day because of it and I’m 56 years old so something is wrong with him

    • He needs help or it’s not going to work out for you two

    • He smokes 2 o 3 joints of weed everyday before sleep also takes antidepresant sleepung pills everyday Horrible diet Very skinny Sometimes doesn't even eat, says he doesn't want to But has very sensible stomach Mentally unstable since can get depressions and stress easily Very sensible and takes things to hear also very impulsive, tends to overthing to some giant levels

    • All that is definitely contributing to ED and no interest. I don’t do any of those things so I guess that’s why I’m healthy and horny

  • Id say its time to show him the door.

    • His dicks functions

    • Yes, but apparently his brain doesn't, lol.

    • I know

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