My boyfriend will not wear a condom, what should I do?

My new boyfriend is a really lovely guy from Nigeria and everything is great except that he refuses to wear a condom and I'm really worried about get pregnant. He says it's a like a cultral thing and I should respect that and I don't know what to do?
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  • That's not a cultural thing and if it was he is in America now and needs to adjust to the American lifestyle. Wearing a condom is not just for protecting against unwanted pregnancy but from sti's and aids. Out of everything condoms is still the safest use for protection and doesn't come with a list of possible side effects unless your allergic to latex but there are latex free condoms too. Anyways I would not have sex with him unless he wears one and I would still be Leary with having sex with him because your probably not the first he has had unprotected sex, who knows where his dick as been.

  • No condom= no sex

    It's as simple as that. If you're uncomfortable having sex without a condom then just tell him 'no' until he agrees to wear one. I'm not sure how wearing a condom or not is a "cultural" thing. That just sounds like an excuse to me.

  • "He says it's a cultural thing" *laughs hysterically*

    If you don't use some form of contraception, you'll get pregnant. Get yourself on something asap, if he keeps refusing, you may want to find someone who does use condoms.

  • A cultural thing that has led to the spread of HIV in Africa? Don't do it!

    If he's refusing with you that means he refused with everyone else. No condom no sex. Sorry

    • Ha plus you could as easily say it's a cultural thing for you and to have him wear one. It is t untrue it is standard in the west.

    • Boom! Pretty and intelligent. A dangerous combination.

    • Thanks for MH!

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  • I wonder how many sexual partners he's had and what he's got. There's a fair percentage that are unaware of what diseases that have. I recommend telling him you want him to have an exam. Unfortunately the general blood tests don't test for the two most common diseases.

  • Tell him that it is your culture thing to use one. If he does not have enough respect for you to take some sort of precautions you are much better off without him.

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  • Well you have the vagina you ultimately make the rule on what goes inside of YOU. If you can't respect that you would like to stay protected then he doesn't have to be invited inside.

  • Uh no it's an asshole thing. Tell him to wrap it up or you're dumping him.

  • It's only cultural in so much as the region is the STI capitol of the world. If he won't respect you enough to comply with such a simple request, I would advise avoiding any sexual activity at all until he learns to show you some respect.

  • Dump him. What if he doesn't believe in STD prevention?

  • There is no culture in Nigeria that forbids sex with condom. I don't know what he's up to. But why are you having premarital sex in the first place?

  • He's full of shit. No condom, no sex. It's your body and if he wants sex he'll respect that choice. Not cultural is a big load of bullshit!

  • Don't have sex with him if it makes him feel uncomfortable. Tell him that's the only way you'll have sex because you're not about to be a mother anytime soon and want to be safe.

  • Haha a cultural thing? Nice one 😂
    Seriously, no comdom, no sex - that's how I'd handle it ;)

  • You tell him he's not touching you unless he wears one?
    It's not cultural, he's an irresponsible asshole.

  • You don't want to get pregnant, and He should respect THAT.

    What to do? Easy. It is what you do NOT do. You do NOT have sex without a condom.

    And his cutlural thing to get women pregnant?

  • No sex for Mr Nigeria. You do not want him deciding if/when you get pregnant. Tell him to go fuck his cultural thing.

    • 100% agree!

  • Are so many ways to protect yourself beside condoms, crazy really how many seems to be all about that. Like no condom, no sex.

    Personally I never used condoms, or well I tried, but talk about bloody uncomfortable.

  • Close your legs and tell him it's a cultural thing and he should respect that. It's simple really.

  • You tell him he gets no sex until he will.

  • He should respect you enough to wear a condom. don't do anything with him unless he wears one.

  • Dump him, he does not respect you.

  • So dont do it. Unless he acts responsibily.

  • No boom boom for him.

  • Either don't have sex with him or get on the pill.

  • Probably not have sex with him unless he wears a condom, or find a new boyfriend or actually consider having a thousand kids.

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