My boyfriend won't eat me out?

My boyfriend of almost four years doesn't eat me out, I've brought up the issue to him and he says that he'll do it next time or come up with "excuses" or explanations as to why he won't.. Like he thinks he's not good and I don't react to what he does.. But I do. I feel like he wants a porn reaction from me which isn't realistic.. I moan here and there and tell him it feels good but he won't do it for more than 5 min. Besides that the sex is really good and I give him head almost every time he wants it. Lately I've been not wanting to bc he never returns the favor. I know some guys have issues bc of hygiene but i wash daily and I have no hair down there so I'm not sure what the problem is. I've become really self conscious about it when he finally decides that finee he'll do it but at that point I don't even want him to.. what could I do to make this problem not be a problem and have both of us be happy?
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Like I said, I've been cutting him off from head recently and he knows why , I told him and I still don't get any. Yet he gets moody when I don't give him any. He knows I have an issue with it so I don't know what else to tell him or what to do so he might enjoy it himself or compromises
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  • First of all, let me tell you that cutting him off from blowjobs is a very bad way of handling this, despite many people in the comments applauding you for it. By doing this, you're just acting this stubborn toddler who wants to get some revenge ("Peter stole my toy, so I'm allowed to hit him over the head with my shovel now!"). Emotionally I understand your reaction but rationally, I advise you to not do that. It will only lead to him resenting you as someone also said and such ways of behaving usually lead to larger problems in the overall relationship.

    Now, one more idea I've had why he might not like to lick you is the taste of your cum. Many girls believe that guys don't like to lick them because they're dirty. This is not quite true. Most girls shower regularly, so hygiene is actually not a big issue. More importantly, your cum can still taste bad even if you've just jumped out of the shower five minutes ago. It's the same as with guys. Some guys' cum taste great and some guys' cum tastes horrible. There is a small amount of genetics in this that you can't change but to the most part, you can influence the taste of your cum with the lifestyle you have. Here are some things one should definitely avoid if he/she wants to have tasty cum:
    - Don't smoke. I can't say this often enough. Do not smoke (no matter what). It completely ruins your cum.
    - Don't drink alcohol (at least not a lot).
    - Don't eat a lot of meat
    - Don't eat fast food
    - Don't eat too much processed food and junk food
    Things that generally help to ameliorate the taste of your cum are veggies and most importantly, fruits. In short: the healthier you live, the better your cum tastes. This is true both for guys and girls.

    However, there is also a possibility that your cum is fine and your boyfriend still doesn't like licking you. While this sucks for you of course, there's unfortunately not a lot you can do about it. People just like different things. In my relationship it's the opposite way. I love to lick my girlfriend but my girlfriend rarely gives me blowjobs. I used to get sad about it but I've come to accept it. There's also a really big sexual phantasy I have that she declined to ever realize with me. Of course I'm super disappointed and sad about it but this is the price I am willing to pay for a relationship and sex life that is otherwise absolutely awesome. This answer might be unsatisfactory but it's the only mature way of looking at it. Yes, relationships are a give-and-take

    • generally speaking but that doesn't mean you can or should count everything you've done and compare it to what you're boyfriend has done. If you truly love somebody, you sometimes have to accept that there's simply things that don't make you happy about that person. If it's so important to you that you just can't take it, you have to look for someone else. But this person will have other sides that you'll not like. There is no Mr. Perfect.

  • I hate to break it to you but some guys just don't get into it. I'm on of them. I do it for her and according to her, I do it well but, as you alluded to, I don't get much if any feedback whereas I moan, groan, twitch, and gasp when she goes down on me. If you won't exaggerate your reaction a bit for his sake, he's probably not gonna do it. Oral sex and sex in general is NOT a tit for tat game, so to speak. The quid pro quo is overall satisfaction and it sounds like he does that.

    If it's really all that important to you, you're probably gonna need to move on and find a superior muff diver.

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  • You need to have an honest conversation with him and why he won't do it. Some guys have it in their head it's dirty and nasty. Some are afraid of an odor. Some think its unmanly... But you won't know until you are honest and talk with him about it, bringing up all the possible problems.

    Try different ways to entice him... Shower together? Let him soap you up, bath you, perfume you... will he go down on you then? Maybe masturbate and ask him to lick your clit while you do it... so he can watch. Maybe his is completely clueless as to what to do or how to do it and feels like a failure - a mans ego can be a strange and fragile thing.

    In the end, you will have to decide if that part of sex is so important that you can't go on the way you are - or you say the heck with it, I can get along without it.

    Talk to him. Be gentle. Be honest. Be kind.

    But talk.

  • You really need to sit down and have a talk with him about why he won't do it. It's not fair that you give him oral, but he refuses to reciprocate. Find out the reason why he won't and don't accept his "next times" or excuses.

  • Well you have to talk with him is the inly way but a real conversation tell him hownyou feel and he tell you really why he doesn't like it

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  • Well then his cock will not be entering your mouth or coming near your lips. He will get the picture real quick.

  • I honestly dont know what his problem is.. my both answers would have been "Do you shave? Maybe he dont like hair" and "do you wash yourself?" and you already killed that questions in your text.. I honestly dont see another reason why he wouldn't do it... maybe he's just lazy.

  • I'd have no problem eating a girl out but have to admit i am freak
    i love hairy vagina's and don't mind taste or smell but you need
    to cut him off from getting oral sex if he won't return the favor.

  • Have you tried sitting on his face?

  • Then stop giving him head! Give him a taste of his own medicine.

  • Some guys are just not into that, it doesn't mean you should try and blackmail him into doing it because as you said it changed nothing.
    It will only lead him to resent you. So just give him head if you both enjoy it and don't pressure him into going down on you.

  • Some people are not into it!! But he should go down on you... Look you sound like you have clean cat...😁

  • LOL I love to "go down" but I'm a hygiene freak, try washing right before you have sex or better yet try to get him in the shower

  • That's very easy to fix, he doesn't eat then you don't suck, if it's for one minute then you suck for one minute, that should take care of the problem I think😉👍

  • eating girls out is my favorite.
    but to answer your question I have to taste. to eat. just to see if the recipe needs some spicy ingredients OR may be it is more spicy.
    many things to be considered.( looks good, smells good, taste good, cums good, sweats good, ... etc... also good)
    these are facts

  • check out my take on it

  • Maybe it's just not his sort of thing. I can't understand why myself because I could do it for hours but that's me everyone has different things they feel comfortable doing. Maybe he feels it's because he's not getting anything from it at the time have you tried the old 69'er?

    • this is a good sugestion

    • Well if you give it a go the better he LICKS the better you suck simple as that

  • he's smart. ...

  • if he doesn't want to do it to you, don't give him any head

  • that's a crime you know, he should be sent to jail, but seriously dump him

  • Then leave him

  • Maybe you kitty smells or he's just not into eating pussy.

    You only wash you pussy once a day?

    • Use Dawn soap It is good

    • Yeah I shower once a day.. if I know I won't be as fresh and I'm seeing him I wash myself but I don't believe that I smell or he's never said that I do

    • I wash mine every time i go to the toilet