My Boyfriend Won't Let Go Of His Racial Fetish?

[hereforashorttimw]

It's been almost two years since he has said " Just let me do it for now and maybe I'll get tired of it" he is not tired of it. He has to call me slurs or be called master to bust a nut. When I tell him I don't like it anymore makes me feel less than, worthless, and how would he feel if the roles were reversed? He ignores it all by saying "it's what I like" the slurs have even traveled outside the bedroom he refers to me as his "n***** girl" his reddit was filled with race play mainly black women and sometimes Asian being "dominated" it is hard to have sex with him knowing what he's thinking or that keeping the word "n*****" behind his lips is so hard to do. I am disgusted that I allowed this to happen and sometimes dread coming home because I know what he wants. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Dump him!

So had to get rid of a few relationships like this. Now I just end it if he hints at it!

Like we have kinks also and wants but men only want their useless desires...

My ex did it and I turned him over sat on his face and I made sure he knew that I was his mistress! Made him obey and he hated it screamed at me after all I said was no different then what he wanted from me!

What is something you feel you need from him if he would let you?

[hereforashorttimw]

I don't need anything from him

[Opinion Owner]

You need something to stay with him? If not you would have dumped him by now!

[Opinion Owner]

Also not a fetish just being a pig 😂🐷.

[hereforashorttimw]

He met me when I was poor suffering so yes kinda

[hereforashorttimw]

He preys on poor black women, simple

[Opinion Owner]

He is trash why not dump him? Your better and deserve better! To be called beautiful and amazing

[hereforashorttimw]

I AM POOR, I live in his house, I work part-time, I receive benefits. I barely have money to be where I want to be

[Opinion Owner]

Aw I'm sorry well there are sugar baby sites why not be someone else's sugar baby girl? Maybe get him into another kink?

[hereforashorttimw]

I can go back to escorting on the side

[Opinion Owner]

Sure just get away from him

[ProbablyClueless]

Well, if he actually has a fetish, that might not be something he has the ability to let go of... I'm not a mental health professional, but my understanding is that fetishes are things you can't just get rid of. You should probably reevaluate whether your boyfriend is someone who can make you comfortable in the long term.

@msc545 knows way more about this stuff than I do. Maybe he has some insight?

[msc545]

I agree with ProbablyClueless in that these kids of fetishes are very persistent and resilient, and quite refractory to treatment. It is not going to go away, and there really is no way to make it better.

[hereforashorttimw]

This is not a fetish he wants to get rid of he's a weak man and this is the only thing that makes him feel strong

[msc545]

A rose by any other name...

[hereforashorttimw]

I'm not understanding?

[msc545]

A fetish by any other name is still a fetish

[bowenw]

I suggest you tell him you want the racial slurs/fetishes/play to stop immediately. If he doesn't respect your wishes it's probably time for you to move on.

[hereforashorttimw]

Trying to move on now

[bowenw]

I wish you all the best.

[hereforashorttimw]

Thank you

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊 Did you move on?

[Billlewis]

Is he hung up on Black women or women of another ethnicity?

[hereforashorttimw]

Majorly black women then Asian women

[Billlewis]

I've dated/served Black women almost exclusively for many years, and they seem to be the most ideal women for me to serve.

[hereforashorttimw]

What? You have a fetish too?

[hereforashorttimw]

Wtf is wrong with some white men I truly don't get it? We are people!!!

[Rorobb]

Can’t believe your even asking, the guy sound racist

[hereforashorttimw]

Yes he is.

[Avicenna]

Tell him he needs to quit it cold turkey or he's gone

[hereforashorttimw]

He won't, I swear to God this is the only thing that makes him feel powerful

[hereforashorttimw]

After I leave he will find another black woman from the ghetto to "save"

[Avicenna]

Then I don't see why you stick around

[hereforashorttimw]

Because he knew I was poor, had potential, was kind, I have a childlike mindset.

[hereforashorttimw]

He knew I would stick around

[Avicenna]

Don't stay in an abusive relationship. They never end well.

[hereforashorttimw]

I'm trying to leave now.

[Avicenna]

Get some emotional support from friends or family if you need it

[Steve7111]

Of this is genuine, why are you still with him?

[LiamJHayden]

You already know you need to dump him.

[hereforashorttimw]

I know 😢

[Alex-Snow]

Dump his ass asap

[AngryCarl2]

If you can't modify his behaviour you will have to leave. In fact that's probably best.

[negrl4a69]

I would not either

[hereforashorttimw]

What?