He's clearly so self centered that it amazes me you've stayed with him this long. Who knows: maybe he can lick his eyebrows and you're not sharing. One of my best tricks for getting a woman off is to put her on top facing me and tell her to rock like she's riding a horse instead of "normal" up and down. I ask her to tell me when she's getting close and when I feel the time is right, I "violently" tilt my hips which throws the shaft against her G-spot and more times than not pulls her trigger. It helps to grab her hips and help move even more forcefully. Once a gal has the first one, it's just a matter of her keeping it going. After a few trips up the mountain with increasingly intense orgasms, she usually squirts, often for the first time.
Have you actually told him "I think I could learn to come without a vibrator, BUT I'd need you to be willing to enthusiastically try some new/different things, and to make a real effort to help me out?"
Like others, I feel like he is selfish, BUT before you take extreme measures, you really need to make sure you've been crystal clear with him about your needs and expectations, and how he can help. After that, if he won't make any effort, then, really, why would you want to build a life with such a selfish man? And why reward him with continuing sex?
Have him give you an orgasm before any penetration, hand jobs or blowjobs. You deserve sexual satisfaction and pleasure too. You can say an orgasm for you is a toll for you to please him. But I think you should talk him about why he doesn't want you to use it. He seems upset that he's not pleasing you but he isn't making an effort either. If he doesn't want to talk to you about it or doesn't want to take the time to please you leave or use your vibrator anyways. It's your body, you shouldn't go without because he's insecure. Stand up for yourself!
He's being very selfish and insecure. Selfish, because he doesn't care about your needs. Insecure, because he probably thinks you prefer using a vibrator over him. If I were you, I'd just pull it out during sex and start using it. That'll show him! Haha.
But in all seriousness, you should probably talk to him about it and try to make him realize just how selfish he's being. Maybe refuse having sex without a vibrator or something. Really put your foot down.
Say this to him: " Hey I really need the vibrator during sex, but you don't want me to use it nor do you take the time to make me orgasm/cum without it. So if you don't care about me cumming then I don't even wanna have sex."
If he breaks up over this then he's doing you a favor.
Its very selfish of him.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Weird, I'd want her to use it if it makes it a better experience for her, especially if she can't orgasm without it. It's not fair he gets off, but doesn't return the favor. Tell him this, it will make it better for the both of you if you use a vibrator. You reaching orgasm should make him happy too, even if it's by using a toy.
Sounds like a 'tahd. Tell him to grow up or get out.
he's selfish and insecure. he is upset because he can't get you off and is of the mindset that if he can't do it nothing else should.
tell him that it's your body and you'll do what you gotta do, especially if he is too lazy and/or selfish not to make the effort
You're an adult. No one allows you or doesn't allow you to do things. You tell him point blank that he has to learn how to get you off, or you'll use the vibrator.
Time to force him to learn I think.
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