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Sexual Health My ex has my nudes and won't delete them, advice?
Anonymous
I broke up with my ex boyfriend a few months ago after a 2 year abusive relationship. At the beginning of my relationship with him he had his ex (from a few months prior) nudes and after me asking him politely to delete them refused due to him not wanting to revisit them to delete them, so of course being my helpful self I offered to do it for him, to this offer he denied and they remained on his phone the entirety of the time I was with him. So stupid me didn't think for a split second when it came to sending stuff myself because I viewed us as long term, now I'm in a situation where I know for a fact he still has them, all 3717482+ of them, I spoke to our mutual close friend who asked my ex to delete them to which my ex replied "she never sent any to me, I don't have any of her" when in reality a solid 30% of his camera roll consists of my peeled potato body. I know he's not the sort to post them online (is hope anyway) but I fear a future girlfriend will see them as I saw his previous girlfriends. I feel massively uncomfortable Him having them, despite I was the one who sent them in the first place, I would consider going to the police but they started being sent to him when I was 15 and until the age of 18 all nude photographs are classed as child pornography and I am therefore in an as equally big shit storm as he is for providing him with 'child pornography', so is there any advice you can give and also from a males perspective if you had indecent photos of your ex and chose not to delete them what would be your reasoning?
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What Girls & Guys Said
13 28My advice is to stop sending nudes. If a guy really loves you he'll deal with it
Thank you
my advice don't send nudes to the guy who refused to delete his ex's, that was just stupid
he shouldn't delete them
Whys that?
That would be stupid
Steal his phone and smash the shit out of it...
Except that he probably has them backed up in multiple places, I was actually thinking the same thing.
Could be a pointless act to get myself in shit tbh but thank you
Very strange. Maybe he looks at them and jerks off
I'd hope not omg 😂😩
Well maybe who knows. Lol. I know I would
Omg 😂 praying he doesn't have the same mindset thinking about it makes me feel so uncomfortable ahha
Lol. Well I probably does
Haha😂
You Westerners are weird.
I've been with my now wife for years and never sent or received any nude picture. It's not that weird to say no and sending nudes is always a Risk. If they don't respect that then they can sit at home alone.
Thank you
That's the risk you take when you send photos like that or allow others to take them. The only thing you can really so is go to his house yourself and find the photos and delete them
If he did abuse you, you could just say that, he obligated you to take those pictures and you were scared of what he might do.
one more reason why having sex with one same man till death is the best choice for me
I'm not going to lie i used to be a total asshole fuckboy except i did the long way. Get in a relationship, use her for, sex and nudes and, when i got bored ditch her. I did it to three girls and i feel terrible, for every one. I kept the nudes (i dont have them anymore i long since deleted them). But i kept them, at least i think, as sort of a trophy. Like yeah i got nudes from her. Not to show anyone, just sort of like a collection. Because honestly as pathetic as i was, thats what i considered my greatest accomplishment. Hope that helps.
He has every right to these photos and can do what he likes with, it is none of your business.
They are her photos 😑😑😑
@Codename_Casper irrelevant
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I took the photos therefore own the content so yes, yes they are mine
Tough shit
Cute
Can you hire someone to hack his phone/computer?
Wouldn't want it to not go to plan and get myself into deeper shit
then maybe you can scare him with a lawyer
That is much worse then what he is doing.
@martinj I disagree
Yes because you are a woman.
asked needs to pay for pics
Never send nudes to guys that ask for them. The ones that fiend for them are the ones you should avoid.
Thank you
I'm a bit extreme, but I'd find a way to get a hold of his phone and then break it and let him think he lost it.
I rather not incase it doesn't go to plan and it puts me in a deeper hole of shit 😬
Haha, well like I said, I'm extreme
Call a lawyer.