My fiancee and I keeping getting into fights whenever I try to study for college?

My fiancee is 26m and I'm a 25f. I currently in med school, and still have a lot more years to go. I am currently working a nightshift job , 10 hrs a day, have a 4 yr old girl. He has a neurological disorder that's crippling him ( stay home dad ). He may end up losing a lot of physical capabilities like driving etc. Im going to college to advance my career so I can support my family , and have scholarship so it's not a financial issue either. I have online classes because of my job. I'm currently only part time student taking minimum classes. I spend one of my day cramming the entire day because I barely have time to the other assignments throughout the week. I am exhausted , stressed and currently crying my eyes out so I can't even focus on my deadlines today. We constantly fight. I love him but I'm trying my hardest and feel like not good enough.
During the week. It usually starts from the morning I get home after work I say good morning to our daughter and the go to sleep? He will go in and wake me up a couple hrs after fall asleep. If I tell I'm tried he gets angry and says he just missed me. I will start my classes and with couple hrs he take away my laptop or tablet while reading my textbook , doing assignments or listening to lectures and try to make out with me , I will kiss him but tell him I am busy and need to focus. He will pin me down , and do this for hrs. I tell him I don't have time, he just slams the door and says you no love me. I though maybe he does this because he is horny or something wants attention which I give him the rest the weekend it's just Friday I have deadlines and very hard to focus. He always watching other girls prance around on TikTok at Nth decimal and it makes hard to read or he watches cartoons and it's extremely loud and or annoying ( and this isn't because of our daughter he has always watched old reruns of johnny test ). Continued below
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I've tried talking to him about how important my classes are or sleep is but he consistently wakes me up throughout the day. Nodding off at my work, my grades are slipping , only get 5hrs asleep a day max. If I tell him I have to sleep or have deadlines he just either says I don't love him, fine I just won't ever giving you attention He makes me feel guilty about not spending enough time with my daughter ( I have split custody ). Even though I cry about missing her.
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  • I’m sorry to hear your going through a hard time. It sounds like he really isn’t supportive of you trying to achieve something that’ll benefit everyone. While he is bored of his mind he wants some fulfillment he wants to have sex with you. I think many times it’s hard for guys not to have sex if your in a relationship. I wouldn’t know being a virgin. But I have heard that women don’t really care much for sex in a relationship while the guy craves it. Sounds like he also has anger issues he needs to work out. He needs to be understanding to your needs as well. It’s not a one sided relationship. It takes 2 people to make something work. he just doesn’t understand how hard it is for you even taking the time out to help with anything just want sex? That’s just selfish. I understand he has a disease. But it doesn’t give him the right to just say forget everything your doing and have sex with me. I don’t care that you are working toward our future I want you here now. That’s literally the energy I feel when I read that. And he Even watches girls prancing around on TikTok? Your ok with that? That’s a red flag.

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  • Have you sat down and had a calm heart to heart with him about how you feel and what can be done to alleviate your worries? Even ideas like sound-proofing seems like it could help.

    • Yes, I I thought we had a conversation about it a while back but nothing changed. He told me he was upset he just wants attention. I told him we could do stuff the rest week like watch movie or go out or play a game. I really just need Friday. But he moops on the days I can spend time with him. I offered to buy him a coop game , or go on a date or even watch an anime. But he gets frustrated because he wants go for a walk with me and can't walk anymore ( plus the snow) and won't try anything else.

    • Yeah, the problem really just seems to be that he is unhappy with his circumstances in general and he is venting his frustrations onto you. He will probably get over it eventually, but it's up to you to decide if you can wait for that. Meanwhile, I think you have to be strict and put your own needs as top priority. He won't like that, but you have to.

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  • Awww sweetheart u r doing soooooo much tbh
    N i m sorry to say but he is acting as moron coz he is not realising ur value ur sacrifice n ur so much hard work n he is being selfish
    Tbh i think u need to decide for ur own gud if u can even go on with him coz to me if a partner can't understand u n ur efforts for relationship its not worth being their partner

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  • Come to a compromise and organize the schedule

    • I don't how to reorganize the schedule. I could try taking in person classes so I can focus. But it would be rather difficult to sleep. If I work 8pm get home at 7am. I have sleep during the day. I given him Saturday and Sunday for dates and such but he can't seem to spare Fridays or let me sleep without waking me up because he missed me 4 times on days I work. If we're able to get full interrupted sleep I might have more free time. But he's impatient and suffocating me I can't even use the bathroom without him barging in.

    • Uninterrupted. Sorry if I am confusing Gboard keep auto correcting my text.

    • It’s OK not a problem you guys are gonna have to do something if not you’re gonna end up breaking up

  • cripping him, is he disabled?

    • *crippling* yes.

    • he uses a cane?

  • That's not good; he's being controlling and displaying behaviour that borders on sexual assault. He doesn't care and sounds like he only wants your body, you can't marry someone like that.