My friend 25, says a 40 year old man is interested in her. Does he only want her because she's young?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Yes, but also not exactly.

GENERALLY (and, yes, that means exceptions exist), a younger woman is going to have a lower body count, less emotional damage and baggage, less likely to be jaded, more likely to be cooperative, and is more prepared to compromise. AND, she's likely to be naturally fertile. All of these things are things that men want and highly value, which is why women's Social Market Value curve looks like this:

Average Social Market Value (SMV), by age and sex

Again, there are *some* younger women with sky-high body counts, and *some* women 30+ who have none or very few, and have the other attributes, but the odds are overwhelmingly in favor of finding WIFE MATERIAL in a woman in her early-mid 20s, compared to at older ages.

This is why men - of ALL ages - place the highest value on women between 18-28. And there is very little a woman can do to "make up" for lacking those desirable traits to a man. Feminism teaches women to get educations and focus on careers, and SO many women, when asked what they have that a man might want, will read her resume. Men (those who are actually interested in committed relationships/marriage, anyway) DO NOT CARE about a woman's education, career, or money. Relationship men want a woman who wants to be a wife and a mother, wants to raise the kids right, and build a legacy, and they prioritize attributes that speak to those things, and YOUTH is a good shorthand for many if not most of those attributes.

Men want different things from women than women want from men, and far too many women BECOME the men they wish they could be with, and then wonder why no man is willing to commit to them (yes, plenty of men will be interested in sex, but that's irrelevant - only men willing to commit matter in this context). A woman could be 32 and hot for her age, making $500k a year as a CEO, with 2 PHDs, a paid off house, etc., and most men would - without a moment's hesitation - pick the 22-year-old Starbucks barista making $20,000 a year as a wife instead - and have zero regrets. Women who can't understand this simply refuse to accept that men do not value the same characteristics in women that women want in a man. Many of these "high-powered women" will say "I'm the best I've ever been - I'm way more valuable than I was at 22!", and every man will roll his eyes and say "sure - if I was a woman - but I'm a MAN, and that's not what I want, and not what I've ever wanted!"

Sure, plenty of men just want to bang, but men who would commit want women who are WIFE MATERIAL, and, yeah, that in most cases means "young." But that's a lot less about looks and a lot more about all of those other attributes that are ALSO associated with youth.

Look at the graph. Women in their early-mid 20s are like dating market billionaires - they can "afford" a really great man. I recommend ALL women stay out of the top 10% of men - virtually ALL of those guys will cheat - but there are tons of quality man not far below that. But most women wait to start husband-shopping until they're in their 30s, and are, in relative terms, BROKE, and when MEN now have the money and power. And then they wonder why they have no success at attracting a husband.

AimeeKyle · Accepted Answer

Not enough info to give a good opinion. It could be all about age, body, sexiness…. or it could be that he feels there is some sort of connection based off conversation?

Who really knows though. If she is open to it and they are both single…. try it out. What’s the worst that could happen? It doesn’t work out and they both move on.

Honest-Matt · Answer

yes, of course it's because she's young. This has been the same story for LITERALLY THOUSANDS OF YEARS.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

That is one possible explanation. There are other possible explanations.

Berethor · Answer

Well he almost old enough to be her dad, yea it's most likely mainly because of her youth.

RangerBlue22 · Answer

Well her being young doesn’t hurt. But he might like her for a lot of other reasons too.

Anyway she’s a grown 25 year old woman. Not 19. Not even just 21. She’s 25. She can make her own romance decisions.

mrmonogamous · Answer

Odds are 1000 to 1 that he’s only after her because of her age.

slatyb · Answer

It's possible. If she were my daughter, I would want to know: how did they meet? What's his relationship history? Has he got his life together -- home, career, financially stable?

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Yes. She is just a sex toy to him.

Kabluie · Answer

Nah, I tend to attract mid-20s quite regularly.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Come on, maybe their personalities just clicked and... Lol just kidding... Yes

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

Probably

JPresidente · Answer

Yes and he probably is interested in sex.

Havthrills · Answer

Not always but sometimes. Maybe the guy thinks they have a lot in common. Does he want her for sex or relationship? I have seem married couples that are 22+ years apart. The woman being younger.

Brando10222 · Answer

You are correct 🎊

Surely · Answer

Guess that there is only one way to find out for sure!  She needs to remember if things were to get serious. He will on average pass away twenty years ahead of her.