My friend with benefits is acting weird

My friends with benefits has been acting strange lately. He swears adamantly that he doesn't want more than what we have (its been a year like this) yet he curls up with me on the couch, texts me all the time & calls me at least once a day. When we sleep together, we fall asleep with him holding my stomach, the one part I hate, and he mumbles "I love you " in his sleep. Are these signs that he subconsciously wants more? I've asked about the mumbling part & he says he doesn't remember or some other excuse. What is going on & what should I do? I'd like to take the next step but don't want to ruin this.
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Most Helpful Girl

  • ruin a sexual hookup? its been a whole year and he still doesn't want to make it more than a hook up w u,why are you settling for mr unavailable(emotionally) you are in for a big heart break if you keep this up.You deserve the relationship you want but you have to sacrifice this to get the real thing,dont waste anymore time,u are falling for the wrong dude.So what if he curls up and mumbles things he doesn't remember,u have become his favorite comfy blanket but if he doesn't want more with u,why keep doing him favors?

Most Helpful Guys

  • It seems he does to. Time for a chat on what he is thinking. Of course there is risk on that... He might just be becoming familiar but in his mind not see what he is doing. I doubt it though

    • You doubt he doesn't see what he's doing? That may be, like feeling out what I'm thinking without just asking me.

    • I think he knows exactly what he is doing, which is getting closer to you. I am just saying he could be clueless, but I find that unlikely.

  • maybe he is becoming attached but doesn't want to be.

    • That's what I'm thinking. What sucks is I've become attached when I didn't want to be and wondered if he was too.

    • if you guys are just FWB, then go find another FWB since its not like a relationship or whatever and then ask him again what's going on and tell him how you feel. if this scares him and makes him think your getting attatched when he legitimately doesn't want that, then you can just go to your other FWB.

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  • sounds like you have a boyfriend

    • I'd like that but not really sure that's what he wants. He just completed a divorce a few months ago after nearly a year separation. I've been divorced for 4 years. How do I broach the subject without scaring him off?

    • maybe tell him you found someone and it could get serious and that you may have to stop seeing him. then see how he reacts.