My friends with benefits is getting bored of me I think and I’m upset I don’t know what to do?

[Anonymous]

I’ve had this friends with benefits for a year. He’s very attractive and not in a vain way so am I and anyone would feel privelleged to be in my life, except him..

like we have great sex it’s amazing and he always compliments me on how great it is and how I feel and everything in his body language and things he says I know he enjoys it and we even get along great as well and he knows I’d do anything for him and be there for him in terms of a friend.

the last time we had sex was a month ago, he said he didn’t wanna see me anymore but then he came back to me and we had a great time lol. He always asks me to send him nudes and I do even though it dosent always make me feel good because that’s all he wants

Anyways my last message has been not opened for a whole week and he’s been online clubbing messaging, he asked me for a threesome twice but I said no because I don’t wanna share him with a girl it’s just not my thing and I’d feel uncomfortable, I just feel like he’s getting bored of me though and having sex with new girls he rarely messages as much

How can I spice it up WITHOUT the threesome. I don’t know shall I ask to make a sex tape or something. I feel like he only messages when he's feeling like it now, where as it used to be equal and we’d both equally satisfy each other.
I just feel sad that he’s having sex with loads of people and now I’m just his backup.

I know I’m very attractive and I do satisfy him so I don’t get it for him just getting bored of me. He’s just turned 19 and so have I.

[DonkeyDan]

A relationship if you can call it that with a fuck buddy is always going to have a time limit, it's possible he is moving on to other women now because he is looking for a relationship, or maybe it's the 3some thing and that is what he is into right now and it's not something you are comfortable with which is fine, although your wording of I don't want to share him with another woman, sounds more like it him you don't want to share and not your body with another woman present, which leads me believe you have an emotional attachment to him.

Either way you are only friends with benefits and if the relationship is over for either one of you then it's over. But the sounds of it you want him to be more than just a friends with benefits. It is going to be unhealthy for you to become too attached to him as it will end at some point and you're going to get hurt.

[Guffrus]

This what you wanted...

You clearly have a shit ton of options and you decided to go with the guy who was 'best' even though he had no intention what so ever of making a commitment to you and why should he? If you were willing to take this deal why wouldn't other women? And on those terms why would he ever commit to anyone?

If you dont like the choices you are making then make better / different choices.

[Dinklex3]

I recommend you dropping him.
Please don't put all that energy into someone who clearly doesn't care about you.
Even if you find a way to "spice" things up now, it won't last. He'll just get bored again.
I'm sure he has plenty of other attractive females lined up as well.

[cleareyes]

What things do you want to try with him? What do you normally do with him?

[Asker]

We just do the normal like missionary, doggy, all positions etc. But now he’s getting with a lot more girls so I’ve just been pushed to the side and now I’m just the ‘occasional booty call’ or if he’s bored. We used to see each other most weekends.

[cleareyes]

Any fantasies you want to try with him?

[BeenThereLovedIt]

You went from "friends with benefits" down to "booty call", down to "occasional booty call when other booty calls fall through".

Dude is a player and you got attached.

You know what you need to do.

[Asker]

Yes that’s exactly how it’s went! Sadly I know!

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Good luck, I really hope you find a way to put it in your past.

[Igotsomekinks]

I'll just say, don't send nudes, that can be dangerous for you, you never know what one might do. Also ignore him for like a week or two, show him that you cna be a badass and he will come back. He's taking you for granted rn.

[Wise4myage]

Maybe its time to end things, and find a new lover.