My friends with benefits never let me have sex ever with anyone else but he said he would accept this one time why?

[Anonymous]

[abc3643]

Congratulations!

Your question is today's SECOND Question of the Day illustrating that Friends With Benefits is an illusion because eventually one of them will get emotionally involved as if in a couple.

It's not a question of "if" it's going to happen, but "when".

Here are 3 of countless examples from G@G that illustrates the point:
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Guys, Confusing FwB? ↗
We both started off saying no relationship just friends with benefits and no sharing which means we don't sleep with anyone else. But he cuddles and wishes I could stay the night. Likes to spend time with me outside of bed. Asks how my days go. But yet he will bounce between texting me all day to barely saying a word for days at a time. So im a bit confused, we never set any friends with benefits ground rules like no cuddling or kissing before we say goodbye etc, so those have never been adhered to. He emotionally vents to me and I do the same. I know I'm catching feelings, but is he?
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Is my friends with benefits getting attached? ↗
It’s been two months since I started seeing a guy casually (we kinda stuck with each other because of the lockdown). But I have a feeling we are both attracted to each other more than we want to admit. Now, we stay over every time we meet (about twice a week), and also the next day we leave pretty late in the day. He bought me a vibrator (because he was concerned I am not coming) and he’s always taking care of me, whether it is giving me his hoodie on a cold day or fixing stuff in my room. Every time we spend time with each other he stares at me a lot, and last time I noticed that he was kissing me when he thought I was asleep. Is he falling for me?
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And this one is really good because it is a PAID Friend With Benefits aka Sugar Daddy situation aka prostitution! This is like "Pretty Woman" but I believe that this is going to have a different not so happy ending...

What should I do in this situation? ↗
My sugar daddy four months ago let me move in with him. He said I can stay as long as I want until I find a place because I was living with people that weren't safe to be with. He had two places at that time and he knew that I didn't want to get married. After I moved in with him, the whole coronavirus thing happened and he decided to get rid of his second place. So I moved in with him at his first home. Now he wants to get married and he proposed. I said yes because I dont how to say no. I like hanging out with him but I'm not physically or personality wise attracted to him. What should I do? He said that if I dont stay engaged to him he'll kick me out because he doesn't want us to be "roommates".
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If it is any consolation, in December 1988 just before I turned 26, I was involved in this intense 2.5 week F W B situation (*) with my roommate. I was very emotionally involved, but, for her, I was just a convenient lay between more "serious BFs".

So, was I a stupid fool? Yes and no. I knew better, but I wanted what I got into and paid the price. I learned through The School of Hard Knocks just like you are...

(*) This is long before "Friends With Benefits" became "a thing". No one said that in the 1980s let alone thought it because it would be considered an embarrassment to sink to that level. Apparently, being a slut or manwhore doesn't matter in today's "hook-up culture".

[AustinMan]

Sounds like he has feelings for you. Once may be to throw you off the track.

[Asker]

What do you mean throw me off track?

[AustinMan]

That he's okay with you being with someone else once is something he can live with that maybe you won't see these developing feelings.

[Asker]

You think he's developing feelings?

[AustinMan]

Quite possibly.

[Anonymous]

You’re friends with benefits, not a couple. It shouldn’t matter who else you’re smashing on the side. Sounds like he caught feelings or something. Talk to him about that.

[Asker]

Oh yeah I wonder why he would even say that

[KitKnickKat]

Maybe he found another girl he wants to be friends with benefits with too, so now he’s allowing you to fuck someone else?

[mojj0]

If you really are meant to be friends with benefits then it should not matter who has sex with anyone else as many times as you wish
Is there anything different about this one time you want to have sex with someone else?

[Asker]

I agree he's the one that brings it up especially when I go quiet for a few days

[mojj0]

Sounds like he wants to be exclusive with you and craves/ needs your contact almost daily

[Asker]

Not sure why he said he accepts me sleeping with this one guy tho

[mojj0]

Could be scared of losing you altogether if he asks you to stop sleeping with him and if you were already sleeping with the other guy when you both decided to be friends with benefits then heels he needs to respect that but doesn't want to have any more competition from other guys

[Asker]

No but my current friends with benefits actually wants me to sleep with this one guy I'm talking to?

[mojj0]

Ah okay could be a few reasons then DM me if you'd like we can chat later about it

[izbird]

If you're "friend with benefits" won't let you sleep with other people, then it's not "friends with benefits"... You're in a monogamous relationship.

[Drumlin2001]

He dosen't own you. It makes sense to be exclusive to protect against diseases, i assume he assumes if your asking you may want more with the new guy. Just play safe.

[BoredNwondering]

That sounds like he wants to be more than friends with benefits, that's a guarentee