My friends with benefits says he doesn’t do oral because he knows he sucks at it?

Is this his way of curving me or is he being honest
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  • Only he could answer that. All of these are possibilities, you'd have to get him to clarify.

    1) he just doesn't like doing it but doesn't want to directly say so (this is the least likely case in my opinion, but a possibility)

    2) in his experience (s) with the women he's been with, he hasn't been good (maybe they've told him so) and so he just thinks he is no good so "why bother trying?"

    3) just low self esteem in general, and if #2 has happened, it will only lower the self esteem more.

    But "bad sex" is just a lack of communication and getting to know your partner. Because everyone is different and has different likes/dislikes. But so many people are too shy or scared to talk about it, especially when it comes to sex.

    • the bad sex comment is not completely true. some people are geniunely not wired to do well at certain things, both sexually and non-sexually

  • DUH!! TEACH him how you love it!! It sounds like a BS excuse not to just give you a special joy!!
    Stop giving him BJs, until he at least tries to please you, orally!!
    A lot of guys are just WUSSES, and terrified of going down on a woman, which is strange, as so many porn movies show it!
    Not sure why they are so afraid, and it isn't difficult, or bad, in any way!! I love giving her that special joy, when she tells me how, and guides me to what she needs!

Most Helpful Girls

  • he is avoiding giving you oral...

    guys complain they get hair in their teeth, up their nose, we smell and taste bad..

    and when we O, we try to break their jaws and smother them with our legs tight around their necks.

    This is a great time to Teach him how to pleasure you... watch some videos together.. and then he needs to practice practice practice.

    and if necessary, shave/Nair so you are totally smooth and shower just before you are gonna have fun... will take away his objections.. and show they are just excuses..

    I am sure you give him bjs and don't complain, except maybe you wish he stay harder longer AND shoot a lot more pudding for your tummy... lol

  • Most men suck at eating pussy. I once bet a girl I was better at it that any other guy. She had been with her fair share of guys and she didn’t believe me. Thankfully she agreed. After about 15 mins of showing her my skills she says, “you win”. I’ve had a lot of experience eating pussy, and really enjoy making girls orgasm orally. They trick is to think about a clit as a tiny cock🤪. If a guy says he doesn’t because he’s bad at it it’s because he really doesn’t like doing it. And most men are selfish. Eating a pussy doesn’t benefit him physically so generally they don’t like it.

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  • Tell him you suck at it too and don't return the favor. If he can't suck then you don't either. That is just an excuse. Maybe if you washed your nether region he may be more open to suck on your clit.

  • Uh, I think the problem here is that he DOESN'T suck at it.

  • "Practice makes perfect"
    Especially if he wants you to suck him off.

  • There's no way to know without asking him directly.

  • Haha are you from Michigan l, lol? I had someone say that, not that he did not like it but that he knows he sucked at it. The thing is he would never get me off during sex and he could not cum due to Adderall addiction. So OF COURSE I WANTED IT.
    It could be he is self conscious or that he is just a lazy lover and does not want to. Either way you are 24 too old to but up with a lazy lover that's teenage stuff.

  • Lying ass dude. I say if he doesn’t eat pussy he doesn’t get his dick sucked

    • Completely agree

    • Ahahaha

    • It's only fair

  • Well also stop giving him oral then

  • Tell him you will coach him and tell him exactly what you want.

  • Lazy bastard

  • If he demands to receive oral yeah he looking for excuses

  • Just tell him to eat your pussy once

  • Excuses. Even if he sucks he could at least try to please you and learn. He just don't want to do it. Would love to hear your feedback on my last question :)

  • He probably never done it and he is nervous thats why He said it
    Lets be honest 🙄
    U dont need much to give a pussy good licking and dicking later 😈

  • All men suck at it - at some point, until they learn something about the female anatomy. Teach him !!

  • He's being honest, he'll be down to do it if you insist

  • He's part way there. It's good to suck specially the clit...

  • He's lying tell him oh well, try either way

  • Good chance he's being honest

  • Sounds like an excuse.

  • One of the good things about friends with benefits is that you get to practice, learn and ask questions from your partner without the pressure of the relationship. So, talk to your friends with benefits about it and if he avoids it, then he's lying about it and doesn't want to do it... in which case, if it's important to you, find a new friends with benefits.

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