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My GaG friends are shitty.

I’m not sure if this rant will help anyone, but I’m in my feelings, so I’m sharing anyway 😂 the second to last paragraph is the most relevant if you’d like to skip down.

Okay, so ya know how on GaG, you can see what your friends have liked? Sometimes I’ll see I’m following someone, and after a while I’ll see that they’ve liked opinions that I find totally gross or wrong. and I don’t mean something that I mildly disagree with, like those stupid questions that ask something like, “do you prefer ass or tits?” I mean other questions. Ones that would, and should, actually matter to someone.

I’m not sure how I feel about it, because obviously it’s not like they have any responsibility to make me happy with which opinions they like. I guess I just assumed they would. I guess what’s upsetting is that it feels as if I’ve had some terrible lapse in judgement.

Sometimes it’ll expose the people I follow and allow to follow me to be sexual predators. They’ll like all of an underage girl’s posts and beg her to DM them. Honestly, I think that’s solicitation of a minor. and it’s disgusting, and it’s scary to see. Especially because these are men that I considered mutual or general friends at one time. It would be enough if it happened only once, but this has happened more than a few times.

It’s worse when I see it coming from people that I’ve allowed myself to trust. There’s only a select group of people that I’ve DMed and become close to. When I see one of them like and reply to things that are out of pocket, I’ll admit, sometimes I’m hurt. I know it isn’t about me, obviously, but it still feels weird and sometimes painful to think that I call these people friends and I’ve allowed them to become close to me.

There’s one guy in particular who I thought I was getting really close to. We’ve had our differences, and our conversations haven’t always been pretty, but I know he cares for me and recently I’ve been doing better to trust him. For a while I’d seen him liking really weird shit, usually sexual. I ignored it for as long as as I could, but recently it’s really been bothering me. I feel like I can’t trust him because it’s like he’s saying one thing to me in private, but turning around and saying and encouraging completely different things in public. Things that he knows I don’t agree with and that would be uncomfortable for me. It makes me feel sick, really. I think about it every time we talk now and it’s something I know I’ll hold against him.

thanks for listening! I’m not quite sure of the validity of my feelings. Maybe it’s been building up for a while and I’m just emotional about it today, who knows? Either way, I’m going to be very careful at viewing as much of a person’s interaction here as I can before I follow them. and from now on, I won’t be shy at all about unfollowing people. I just think it’s good to surround myself with good things, and if that starts with my feed and my followers, so be it.

and to those of you that know who you are...

My GaG friends are shitty.

to everyone else,

Thanks 💖

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  • Hmm grown-ass men who fraternize with minors make me violently ill.

    And I suppose thats the thing about the internet. In some ways a a fantastical escape, in others it's a merciless wilderness.

    In any case I'm assuming I'm still on your good side. For now lol

    • 😂💖 you are. most definitely

    • Sweeeeet

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  • Welcome to Gag Town, Lovely. xxoo

    • 😂😭 time to move

  • Yes, the lesson is learning to slow down in making your judgments about others and to let them earn your trust in small steps. Sometimes, becoming an adult sucks.

    • True

  • I don't know why you invited me to this, I think I'm pretty consistent in my weirdness :D

    But yeah trust is important so if you can't trust someone it's better to stay away :)
    I don't know something about the internet makes it easier for people to hit on minors because it's just a number, even though it's still creepy it's a easier to get away with than if an old guy would hit on someone this young in real life.

    It's good that you point it out.

    • awh honey 🥺 this isn’t about you at all. I just wanted you to read it. 💖💖💖 you aren’t shitty

    • Ok I read it :)

    • right. so as long as you aren’t doing the messed up stuff I mentioned, it isn’t about you. 🌟

  • I totally agree with you

    • Hey you 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩 You aren’t shitty 🥺 you’re one of the only good people I know here lol

    • Thank you 💕🥰💗

  • This can be a dark space. Best to avoid negativity here since we all have our fair share of negativity and challenges outside this app.

    • agreed. thank you

  • I know what you mean, and I think the problem here is the actual difference between the digital world and the face to face world. Here, everything is immediate, what's happening right now, what you're saying and what's being said to you. In the face to face world, everyone and everything has a history. Here, you can have a completely uplifting conversation with someone who turns out to be an axe murderer, while in the face to face world you'd probably end up being their next victim.

    What I'm thinking is... Let the digital world be what it is. Focus on what's being said to you right now. Let that rise or fall on its own merits. Here, people are who and what they say they are. In the face to face world, people are the sum of everything they've ever said and done. Here, people can compartmentalize the different sides of their personalities, so it becomes possible to communicate with a normal side of an axe murderer's mind. I see that as a plus. It's like a therapist being able to talk to the separate personalities of someone who has multiple personality disorder.

    I guess what I'm saying is... Don't let it get to you when you discover that a GAG friend can be a total freak in other posts, because I think we all can. Just focus on the quality of the post in front of you, and what the means for you.

    You also might want to make a personal rule never to hook up with someone you know from here or any other social media. The face to face world has axe murderers who actually kill people. Here they can have wonderful conversations about raising orchids.

    • Thanks!

  • I think you will run across this on any similar site because Its the nature of the internet to run across all sorts of personalities.

    • I understand this 100%, and I consider myself open to all personalities. But being a pedo or a rape supporter isn’t a “personality”. and I’m choosing from now on not to surround myself with those people. that’s what I’m talking about in the myTake. So my friends white unique personalities definitely aren’t shitty! But those other people are.

    • I agree 100%.

  • That middle finger and sign doesn't suit to someone petite like you 😂 well it's just internet, I guess that will be better if u be less caring about people you are friends with, if u take them too much serious then maybe that can make you upset about them.

    • I’m serious about them because I’m a good person and it gets tiring when others are not. and yes, I’m much too soft for the middle finger but I’m a bit upset right now 😂💖

  • Nice Mytake 🙂🙂

  • First off I love your my take and secondly I totally agree with you and I've distance myself from people that have said and done wird shit on here. You have to do what feels right for you and stick to your guns don't let anybody tell you otherwise

    • thank you 💖

    • Your welcome and I know I play around a lot but if you ever need to talk I'm here for you and I really mean that

    • thanks. I appreciate it.

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  • You know befriending someone, or following them and talking with them to get to know them online is harder than in person. At least here you can see their true colors in their other post as you pointed out. However in person you can at least read their emotions as they talk to you. Here it is easy to misunderstand their intentions by their words. It is easy to deceive for the deceitful.
    I like your My Take because it shows that you are a person of principal. If you have made any point at all here it is that, at least to me, you are an honest person who doesn't mind sharing her feelings whether good or bad. I like that.
    I am sorry that some people aren't whom they portray themselves to be. Just remember that no one is perfect and you can not please everyone even though some people might try... Hold tight to your beliefs.

    • thanks

  • There are many awful people here. It's no different from real life

    • I’m naive, apparently. at least now I know

  • I haven't spoken with many people on here. I'm not even sure if I really have any friends here either. Some have been extremely nice to me, though. Plus I'm still new here. I've had to block a few creepy people and I've also unfollowed some but I never took it personally. I just didn't agree with them. We all have many sides to us and a place like this allows us to show that. I'm not here to judge people. In fact, I'm hoping I can learn more

    • There’s a difference between being judgmental and not allowing myself to interact with people who harass children or joke about rape. These people are disgusting and I have nothing to learn from them.

  • Sure hope I am not one of those shitty friends.

    • not to my knowledge 😂

    • Thank you!

  • Sorry you had to deal with that.

    • it happens

  • Well people are shitty best you can hope for a honest person that been a shitty person maybe

    • yeah I’m beginning to learn that.

  • disappointment in people, unfortunately, is an integral part of our life. It doesn't matter if it is real or online. On the other hand, the situation described by you, especially your attitude towards people, suggests that you are a sincere and sensitive person. You take a lot to heart. If I am entitled to advice, I would say that you should take these situations easier. That being said, just be careful when you interact with people online. I'm talking about digital security. Just take this community (or any other) as fun. With all this, perhaps you will find people here who are close to you in spirit. But these will be a few out of a hundred. And this understanding will come with time, not immediately. Do not be discouraged, and take care of yourself.

    • thank you

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