My gay friend grabs my boobs what is up with him?

Question

As a joke he touches tme, then runs away laughing. Is this normal or what? How should I react to this?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

There is definitely a subset of gay men who love boobs and love to touch and play with them, and feel that being gay entitles them to free gropes with no danger of being labeled a sexual assaulter (keep in mind that in the gay community, in many social settings, this kind of groping is completely normal among the men and no one complains about it). And there are a subset of women who "love their gays" who don't seem to mind this a bit, and let it happen all the time.

That doesn't mean you have to allow it. You get to choose who touches you and who doesn't, and how. You don't need to throw a huge tantrum about it, but you are certainly well within your rights to pull him aside and tell him that you aren't comfortable with him doing that, and to please stop. He likely will apologize and stop. If he doesn't, you are then cleared to smack him in the face with all your might the next time he does it. Repeat as necessary until the lesson has been learned. It shouldn't take long.

HSalenko · Accepted Answer

It's something some gay men think is funny. They have this weird belief they can grope women because they only want to go to bed with guys and believe they're just horsing around. The truth is it doesn't matter your sexuality, unwanted sexual contact is harassment at best and assault at worst. If you don't think it's funny then you need to say something and set boundaries. Gay men aren't allowed to touch your breasts any more than straight men if you didn't ask.

Robbey · Accepted Answer

Gay or not, guys love touching boobs. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell him to stop. If he’s gay, he probably really is just messing around but if he doesn’t stop, you’re within your rights to give him a slap.