My girlfriend doesn't like giving me bj's. What to do?

[Anonymous]

I'm desperate because I really miss it. She says she just doesn't like it. Any advice? Thanks

[Lessyn]

Try and find out why she doesn't like it. I know I didn't for a long time because it made me feel dirty, like I was some hooker. But then I realized it's something that makes my partner feel good, so the end result changed my feelings about it. But if she can't get over her feelings about it, maybe you can find a compromise. Something else kinky that makes you both feel good.

[Asker]

Well, she says she can't stand the smell and the taste, even after a shower. She just thinks it's disgusting putting a dick in her mouth.

[Lessyn]

If she's willing, there are edible lubes and such out there that can rid the "flavor". I understand her feelings, for sure. If she doesn't want to try anything, it may just be something you'll have to accept if you love her. There are products out there that can simulate a mouth, too. :)

[Anonymous]

Personally I’m the same as her, I’ve never given one and don’t intend to unless I’ve dated the guy for some time and we are very serious. It’s just too easy to get an std these days, and people lie all the time to get what the want. Moral of the story is, if she gets in her own head the way that I do, then she probably isn’t the one.

[Asker]

We've been together for over 10 years. She's done it a couple of times but only because I begged. But I don't feel good asking for such things.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh wow, that’s a really long time lol. Well have you talked to her about it? Telling her you miss that? If she’s already done it but just isn’t fond of it, I definitely think she should compromise and do it on occasion.

[Asker]

Yeah of course we talked about it. Her explanation is the smell and taste thing. I was just hoping there is something I could do or tell her to make her hate it a bit less. I really hate begging for such things

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe try changing you’re eating habits. What you eat does affect to smell and taste of spunk.

[Blondie80]

How long have you been together? What do you know about her past? I am not a big fan of bj either, no matter how clean it is. When i am in the mood, i do it, but smell triggers me because my uncle sexually abused me when i was a kid, his dick stinked. So it can trigger me, upset me and make me aggresive sometimes. I only do it when i am super horny and i know it won't trigger me.

[Poppykate]

Wow... 10 years! Poor you! Hmmm.. 🧐 negotiate?

[PinkMichae]

If she doesn't like it then there's not much you can do. You can sit down and have a conversation with her explaining how much you miss it. Ask if she'd be willing to try like flavored lubricants. Ask what about it she doesn't like? It could be fear of you cumming in her mouth and maybe reassuring her you won't might make her comfortable enough to do it.

[Mary_June]

Nothing you can do other than talk to her

[Jesslin412]

Find out her reason. I don’t think I could give one. Don’t know how and would be super embarrassed if the dude had to tell me. You might just have to deal with it.

[Asker]

She just thinks it's disgusting putting a dick in her mouth...

[Jesslin412]

Find other things that will make you both happy

[boochie0]

Some girls don’t like doing it there’s not thing you can do you can’t force her

[Anonymous]

Only thing you can do is find a new girl.

[Anonymous]

There are plenty of decent flavoured condoms for a starter now to gently ease her into it!

[Anonymous]

Get flavored lube.