Guys, My girlfriend doesn't feel comfortable giving blow jobs?

Me and my girlfriend pretty much do everything else, we have sex, I eat her out, we take showers together etc etc. But she says she's uncomfortable with the act of sucking a dick.

We're both early 20's and I love her, we've been dating for almost 2 years now, I love her and its not something I would ever contemplate ending it over obviously. Is this just something I have to accept? seems like a tough pill to swallow.
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  • Make it as pleasant as possible. Trim your pubes, make sure you are clean and smell good. Ask her to start with something easy, like maybe just rubbing her face on it, or simple kisses. Then progress to licking and go from there. You have the right to ask her. You also have the right to leave the relationship if you are not happy. You have the right to be satisfied. It isn't fair to make her do something she doesn't like, but it's also unfair to make you go without something you do like. One way or the other, you need to talk to her about it. You need to find out if she has had a previous bad experience from someone else that maybe she needs some professional help with. If she just thinks a penis is disgusting because it's a penis, then this is simply flawed thinking and she needs better exposure and experience with. Then it comes down to how open minded and accepting she is. If she simply puts her foot down and refuses to talk about it and consider any sort of compromise, then she is being closed minded, selfish and controlling. You'll never be 100% happy with her always wondering, "what if?"

    • Good response! Communication and trust with reasonable progressive steps are what you both need. One addition is that she may have a disgust of ejaculate, due to lack of experience or a bad experience. OP, just promise (and keep it) that you won't ejaculate anywhere or time that she isn't prepared for.

    • @I_Leo Yes, great point!

  • Right now, you have to accept it or break up with her. Maybe she'll change her mind. Maybe she won't.

    Personally I would find this difficult to accept, it's a sign of major differences in viewpoint about sex and life. How's the rest of your sex life? Does she enjoy it? Is she generally willing when you are? Do not sign up for a lifetime of sexual frustration. If you decide to accept this, then commit to your decision and don't keep nagging her about it.

    • It's otherwise great sexually and she's never turned down sex in our 2 years.

    • Maybe just deal with it then if it’s ok otherwise. Just talk to her about it

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  • Why does it bother her? Smell? Taste of semen? The idea of swallowing is "icky?" Thinks it's demeaning?

  • You need to find out why she feels that way. Maybe there is a way that her feelings about it would improve. Perhaps get her an account on here so she can explore her feelings about it. Or maybe she has some gal friends she could discuss it with.

  • It sounds like it's tougher for her to swallow.

  • Unfortunately women are more often saying its demeaning for them to suck a guys dick but they have no problem with the guy going down on them. Huge double standard. Dont know if thats what you're dealing with but good luck if you are. Either way i wpuld quit going down on her if she is unwilling to go down on you.

    • I don't know I quite like going down on her, I'd rather continue lol.

    • Trust me i get it, i love it too but i love bjs as well. The question is, whos gonna crack first? Is she gonna give you bjs for reciprocal oral or are you gonna be the only one giving head?

  • Well clearly, you're shoving something she can't chew first down her throat.

    The sight, assumed smell, and even taste is already noodling around up in her head. If she's nit ready for it, then don't try to shove it down her throat even more.

  • Some people just don't like doing it. Simple as that. My girlfriend only does it the odd time

  • You're mature people in a mature relationship right? Just talk.

  • Hmmm

  • I would ask her what she dislikes about it.

  • Try to aks her, if it is ok for her to give you a blowjob in the shower.

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