There is more to a relation than being sexual. Actually there is a lot more and being intimate only represents a minority of time where people are together.
Yet you seem to place so much importance on that detail that you forget all the rest. You know that being sexual represents less than one single percent of the time of your adult life but for you it looks as it is the most important thing. Start thinking with your brain instead.
Don't let your hormones be in the way of happiness and concentrate on the much nicer part of being together and that is all the other aspects. What about just cuddling or holding hands? Even in a long distance relationship, you can just talk and not be sexual. That gives a totally wrong impression that you are together with her just for the sake of a few muscular contractions and spasms.
Women need intimacy, you said it yourself that sometimes she doesn’t join you, it’s because she probably needs more than that.
Now I don’t know what you mean when you say she doesn’t want to help you, does she not contribute in any way, not even texts or she doesn’t want to go the extra mile and send nudes? Also have you two met already?
I’ve been in this situation, women rarely just get aroused by looking at a dick alone... we need to feel touched, teased etc. Imagine one of those times where you’re not in the mood but she’s determined to get it, you’re just there doing it because of her but with 0 passion, that’s exactly how ldr “sex” feels to us.
Also if she’s the sweet and emotional type the last thing that is on her mind is sex. LDRs in general are more for creating a bond and getting to know each other.
Sex is not the answer to all the solutions.
She is having problem in intimacy in order to solve such a problem. you should make a proper dine or candle light dinner sort of thing. Make her feel that you love and care. Once she will be surprise and amazed with your efforts in order to make her feel better then she will be enjoying whateva you will do.
Involve yourself more into foreplay then into actual thing.
Make her feel more and then for the intercourse.
Don't hurry up. Give time and have patience.
ask her what she likes in bed, maybe you are just pleasing yourself and not pleasing her which means she doesn't enjoy it as much which can lead to these results, ask her what she likes and please her good, im sure you'll have her begging for more after that 💯
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