My girlfriend got drunk and completely embarrassed me in front of my friends. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

Girl friend of 9 months came with me to meet some of my old friends from high school (we live in North Carolina and they are from New Jersey we grew up together they came down for a week to meet and hang out) anyway we go to a bar to meet the whole group. Now I don’t drink, but my friends do to an extent so I didn't mind meeting at a bar.

any way my girlfriend kept ordering drinks and was smashed. She started saying really sexually inappropriate things about us. Telling them we once did it 8 times in a day (which is private). Then she got all touchy-feely and tried groping me and what not making me very uncomfortable. My friends were looking at me all weird. I kept telling her to please control herself and to stop touching me. After a while she got out of control and literally kissed my best friend’s girlfriend. That was it for me. I walked out completely embarrassed. My friends thought she was really trashy. I was mortified and she keeps trying to call saying she’s sorry and apologizing but I really don’t want to see her for a while.

what do I do. Should I break up with her, how do I try to work this out? Because what she did was not ok!

[hhh13_]

talk to her about it, ask her if she thinks it’s appropriate to be telling your sex life details to everyone. being drunk isn’t an excuse to be a jerk, everyone should know their limit. tell her she embarrassed you and if she cares she should feel bad. it’s all about if she cares and what she does to change inappropriate behaviour. obviously if that continues for a long period of time i would break up. also tell your friends that she was just super drunk, that she’s not usually like that, and that she is a *insert nice adjective here* person. as your friends they should realize that everyone has embarrassing or bad situations while being drunk that they aren’t proud of. maybe they’ve even done a similar thing themselves

[Anonymous]

Talk to her about it and tell her that you felt embarrassed and you didn't appreciate that and tell her and or make sure she limits her alcohol intake because things could've been worse if you wasn't there anything could've happened to her so she needs to be careful. Did she sound sincere when she apologized? I wouldn't say break up with her but do have a serious talk with her

[Asker]

I don’t know she didn’t come to my house or say it in person. So I can’t know it was over a text.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh most definitely meet up and hear her out and tell her how you feel about it and hope she understands and willing to limit her alcohol intake

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Stick to your guns about her behavior being unacceptable. As the man of the relationship, its primarily up to you to enforce standards. But also act in fairness and give her a reasonable chance to explain herself and make amends. Is this a one time incident, or is she a likely repeat offender? I'd probably forgive it the first time, but make it clear you won't stand for repeat incidents. Either way, by the end of that conversation, you should act decisively and let go of any resentful feelings. Resentment is much worse than confrontation.

[Asker]

No this has happened before, but this was the worse time it has.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Well based on experience, if it feels like a red flag, it probably is.

[AdithyaR]

Well honestly it's not anybody else's place to say. Nobody can decide that for you. It all depends on how you feel. Have a proper talk with her about it and decide how you feel about it.

[AdithyaR]

Thanks for the MHO!

[AdithyaR]

And a dislike from someone for telling the guy to follow his instinct?😂😂😂

[Paris13]

Um NO SOCIAL DISTANCING? LOL She wa Drunk , Now both of YOU's go HOME ALONE!!! xxoo

[Socialist]

Yeah, that is embarrassing. But it's cool cause they are your friends. Laugh it away. Maybe cool her down a little, telling her to stop.
And for a next time. Ask her to not drink to much.

We all have done shit that is embarrassing. My mom just said something really embarrassing about me infront of my whole family. It sucks, but the best way to get over it is just by getting hit with it. Let it go and it'll be over soon.

[summiter]

She needs to slow down on her drinking.. Help her with it or get her to drink a glass of water between drinks. Sounds like you have a good sex life however!

[Avicenna]

No ones perfect and everyone's done dumb stuff when drunk. Tell her not to drink so much.

[Asker]

Thanks for the response, I don’t know though because I’m really mad and I’m don’t think I can get over this or forgive for a while. I don’t think merely saying don’t drink so much will change anything.

[theChineseWASP]

I don’t know man I think you’re being a little extreme/unreasonable.

She was drinking and joking around it’s called having a good time maybe you should try it?

[theChineseWASP]

You seem a little uptight/boring if this is something that can tick you off that much.

[Asker]

I disagree and think you didn’t get the point. Having a good time yeah that’s fine and dandy but making a fool of yourself and being really inappropriate and uncomfortable in public. That’s not an idea of a good time. Also the girl who my girlfriend kissed was really angry about that.

[theChineseWASP]

Well I personally don’t judge people for what they are like drunk I judge them for what they are like sober. If she’s like that when she’s sober too than I agree that’s too much drop her. But you guys went to have drinks what do you think that stuff is like tea?

[theChineseWASP]

Anyways up to you if you want to keep with her or not. I feel like there needs to be a pattern of behavior to really drop someone but I guess it's up to you in the end or not.

[NewZion]

Eh, she's a wild one, you guys are all pretending that you don't like hot sweaty sex in bed. Pretending to be proper. Fucking break up so she can move on from your prude ass.

Either that or own like, Like "Yeah, my girl's a babe."

[hellacray]

Women that love alcohol is always a bad mix. Honestly I don't know why women drink so much when they're light weights too.

I think your friends are right your girlfriend does sound pretty trashy. If I were you I'd be both embarrassed and pissed off.

Now comes the decision of what to do. Personally I think you should break up with her. I don't know how old she is but something tells me she's got a few more years of boozing and partying before it's out of her system.

[Dchrls78104]

I would dump instantly. The drunkenness would be the first deal-breaker for us. But you, do you.

[Twalli]

Does she normally drink a lot.

[Asker]

Yeah

[Twalli]

Then she has a drinking problem. If you decide to sta with her, you need to have her work on that. Personally I would make that an absolute if she wants to continue your relationship. Unless she works on her drinking problem, you will break up with her. It won't fix what happened, but it may prevent future problems. On another note, 8 times is impressive I only managed 6 in a day.

[Asker]

Well I had a concussion, and I wasn’t allowed to read a book or watch tv so she just kept on doing it.

[Twalli]

Oh. I guess that makes sense. The one time I was out of comission in our relationship was after my vascetomy and sex was off the table. So we cuddled with my penis inside, just no movement.

[red_knight]

You can act like a fucking man... Go see her and talk it out. Yeah she messed up, moved on already.

Either talk if out, or break up. But you sound a little stuck up around your friends n seem to care about how they view you more than caring for a girlfriend that craves your attention or the fact thatf you failed to look after her when she got drunk..

We look after our women not blame them when we do not take the extra mile to be there for them