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My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now and she has never given me a handjob or a blowjob. What should I do?

We have been together almost for the past 3 years and everytime before we have sex we take it slow (we kiss, I finger her for at least 10-30 minutes) with somewhere around 20 minutes of foreplay, yet she never touches my dick intimately, only in showers or somewhere else to tease me and get it up so i know she isn't scared of touching it, but never to give a handjob or a blowjob, even if she is really turned on. I feel like she is not that into the whole "satisfying me" thing, even when i try really hard to plase her. I don't know how to bring it up, and advices?

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  • Oral sex is for a great number of girls something that is disgusting and that for a good reason. A penis is the source of a lot of pathogens and potentially harmful bacteria and I can only understand her for not wanting to perform oral sex. It is something that very few mammals do because they are aware of the potential health risks associated with that act.

    Whatever you do, never attempt to "motivate" her or coerce her into doing something that she abhors. Oral sex is not part of the regular sexual act. It is a perversion that has been propagated by the porn industry to brainwash people into believing that this is something natural. Well, it is not.

    As for the masturbation of your penis, this is also something that is left at the discretion of the partner and should not be forced upon.

    Talk with her and if she does not bring herself to doing those deviant acts, then you better leave it at that. Lack of performing oral sex is definitely not something that is worth ruining a relation for.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Have you heard of the words Communication and Talking? If so, perhaps try using them next time.

    • I asked for the advice on how to bring it up, because i really don't know how to approach it

    • You say you've been together for three years, surely by now you are both very comfortable in talking and discussing anything.

    • Thank you for the MHGirl.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Just ask her.
    You know what I would really enjoy tonight?
    I would love...
    She isn't a mind reader, and she may just think that everything she is doing is just fine.
    And you should be a good sport and ask her what she might really enjoy.
    That is what people do, it's called communication.
    A skill that seems to be slowly eroding away.

  • As you know guys love handjobs! Have you talked to her about what you would like her to do? It is ok to talk about sex after all. Do you give her oral or fingering... maybe ramp that up a bit and see if it helps.

    How often are you two having sex? Any issues otherwise?

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I have to admit, I've never given my husband a full blow job. I'm afraid of him cumming in my mouth. Not sure why.

  • Either settle for what you are getting for find a new girlfriend

  • After three years, it is doubtful that she is going to change this behavior for you, so your options are to either accept her as she is - wth this limitation - or reject her and start looking for someone else.

  • Just talk with her. Tell her you'd like to experience a hand job or blow job with her. Don't force the issue though.

  • @tfan did you just block me?

  • When she asks you what you want for your birthday, say you want a blowjob. Seriously, just let her know you would like one and ask if she has any inhibitions about it. If she doesn’t want to do it with you, you shouldn’t pressure her. You have to decide whether this is a dealbreaker for you in that case.

  • Easy - suggest you two do 69 😉👍.

  • When she starts getting turned on during foreplay, then attempt to guide it to her mouth. Ask her then and tell her you’d like to be taken care of also.

  • Find a new girlfriend

  • Eat her pussy first and then watch how she lets you face fuck her till she’s blue

    • lol do u fr like being face fucked?

  • You should have had a handjob in the first month. If not in the second month, then leave, or at least find another girl to do those things for you. But nothing in 3 years at age 21? I would never let a guy not cum like that, especially if he's touching me. Bad situation.

    • thats nice of u! is that bc u enjoy making him cum or u just being nice or?

    • @MarkyMark77 It's not fair to have a boyfriend for that long and not give him sexual release.

    • makes sense. do u usually give him head or just a hj first?

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  • Id leave.

    • In fact, I would have left a long time ago.

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