My girlfriend likes bra staying on during sex. Do you think that will lessen the passion between us?

What do you think about bra staying on woman during sex?

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  • That is almost for sure a woman who is insecure about her breasts. That's why she wants to keep the bra on. She is self conscious about you staring at her naked breasts while you're having sex.

    Whether it lessens the passion or not... is sorta up to the two of you. Right now, for her, it does not lessen the passion. If anything she would argue that it INCREASES the passion because it allows her to feel comfortable enough to relax and get into it.

    However, for you... it does lessen the passion insofar as... you want to see her tits while you having sex! Which I think is not all that unreasonable.

    So it depends first on how you feel about it. If it's just not a big deal for you; and doesn't really decrease passion on YOUR end... then there is no need to worry about this. If you don't care... she is legitimately more comfortable with the bra on.

    If you do care. And I've been in your situation before... and I cared...

    My suggestion is to try and talk to her. Gently. Very very gently.

    But basically, what you need to get her to come aroound to understanding (not all in one conversation, but over a little time) that for YOU her wearing the bra really does detract from your enjoyment of the sex you two are having.

    She is only doing this in the first place, because she is convinced you're going to be "turned off" by something or other about her (I'm sure, perfectly normal and nice) breasts. She thinks she is ultimately doing it for YOUR sake. Now, she is totally more comfortable with you not seeing whatever it is she's insecure about. SO she does also want to wear the bra... but still... ultimately it's because she's afraid YOU are gonna be turned-off.

    You need to make her understand that... what makes sex "not as good" for you... isn't whateverthefuck she thinks you'll think if she went bra-less... but what's taking away from YOUR enjoyment... IS the bra.

    You need to bring her around to understanding that... she is doing you the exact opposite of the favor she thinks she's doing for YOU by wearing the bra.

    Now, this is a legitimate insecurity of hers. Tread very gently and carefully. Do not always frame this in relation to "what you would enjoy." That's only a part of it. You need to help her to feel secure enough to not feel self-conscious about this... with you in particular (you need to make her feel beautiful and you need to be someone she trusts enough to be vulnerable with. It's a genuine deep insecurity. Do be careful how you handle it).

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Most Helpful Guy

  • No. Grab the back of her bra while you fuck her with a firm hold of it and use it to toss her around a bit, and can put your other hand to hold her arm for most of the leverage you'll want hitting her in doggie, or can put your hand around her neck, and on her shoulder depending on the angel of penetration you want and how much control or not you want over her while you thrust.

    Same thing if in missionary - can grab onto and get more rough with her - especially in the front this can work easier. Or slide your hand up under the front of her bra and keep her held down eith your flat hand while your on top of her.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Kinky but I’m sure it would be nice to see those tits bounce for you!

    I can tell you that when I started I wanted it to be dark so he could not see everything, and he wanted the lights on so he can see everything’s. She might feel self conscious of her boobs or size of nipples.

    Not going to lie but bouncing up and down especially if you have big ones hurts deep with in the Brest so bra might offer more support if you are going to pound town.

    It’s might me a kink so maybe compromise and try a lack time that’s kinda see through. Then try a sheer in where you can see her nips but still gives her that support maybe pasty’s?

  • Is she tiny up top? She might be insecure. I’m barely a 32B more like an A+ lol I have a Victoria secret bombshell and it looks amazing on me I love how my little boobs look in it but like to leave it on during sex especially when my boyfriend first started dating it makes me feel more confident and sexy

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  • There are a variety of reasons why she might feel this way. Providing compliments on her beauty and your enjoyment together will be a good start. It's very enjoyable to receive positive feedback from your significant other or spouse or even someone whom you are randomly engaging with in sexual activity.

  • What should matter is what makes her comfortable. If letting her keep her bra on makes her comfortable having sex with you, then why not let her?
    Making your girlfriend comfortable with you, will increase the passion. - and that should in itself be important to you

  • I would think it would make things a bit awkward

  • How old is she, is she sexually experienced, and is she self-conscious about the appearance of her boobs?

  • NO. I mean its okay, but nothing beats naked sex

  • Does she feel self conscious about her breast size or shape? I could never lol. I love mine being free during sex and even when I’m home from work in the evenings.

    • Freeedom lol

  • Sometimes, sex is hotter with clothes on

  • He must be very self conscious about her boobs. You have some work to do sir.

    • *SHE

  • Nah its fine. She's probably just senstive. I almost always keep some clothing on during sex cuz I don't feel comfortable being fully naked

  • Technically breasts are not needed for sex, but it means that she not fully open with you.

  • If she has smaller breasts, perhaps guys have shamed her before. Maybe ask her why she likes to keep the bra on? She may be very sensitive about her breasts and she needs some reassurance from you she is perfectly fine.

    I think sex can be perfectly fine with the bra on, especially if it looks really sexy on the girl.

  • Probably large nipples when she is aroused. A friend of mine was really self conscious about that. The padding in the bra covers that over a bit.

  • If she prefers it, fine. It doesn’t make a huge difference to things in my opinion. She obviously has a reason.

  • Her nipples may be ultrasensitive so she wants to keep them covered. If she ever delivers a child that she wants to breast feed she will have to overcome her current ideas. Her family may have attached some shame to uncovering them. Foot note: Hebrew law stated that being clothed during sex was defeating the joy and reward for doing God's will,

  • Take it off for her and tell her you want to see those tits , you got to remember a girl doesn’t look at her tits like a guy does , So she is probably just keeping the bra on like it’s no big deal , so unstrap it for her and see what she does , if she wants to please you, she won’t hesitate about her bra coming off , maybe it will teach her the next time you have sex she will know you want to see those
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  • Why should it lessen anything? There are many ways to pleasure her with her bra on.

  • You're the one having sex with her, not us.

    Have the talk with her like a grownup lol

  • Leave your knees high socks on as a result

  • Does she sometimes give you access to uncovered boobs?

  • Could be hot or sexy for some men... Have you asked her why she prefers it that way?

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