My girlfriend likes the thought of being raped?

We came about the conversation last night about rape because of something in a movie. She said she would like to be raped! We kinda fell out about it because I shouted at her for being stupid! I could have slapped her! I don't understand why she wants to be raped. Im a overreacting? anyone know why she would like to be raped?
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  • Its a rape fantasy. It is SUPER common with women. To the extent that it is more common that they have this one (at some stage of their life that is!) than that they do not.

    You're not overreacting you're just misunderstanding it. She's rather imagining you taking her in a pretend-anonymous situation where she gets to say no even though it means "Oh yes!". She doesn't want to be jumped by someone other than you, and even then only when she actually wants it.

    Now on a side note: Her sharing this took some guts. So even if you don't go through with it (you can have fun with it! Its rather innocent really!) make sure you let her know you liked her trusting you.

    Now, I'd just do it. Always into a chance to practice my deep and scary voice.

    Oh and, play safe. Get a safe-word if it gets too much for either of you. Something to say to just stop then and there.

    Try to see this as the start of your mutual sexual adventures. It can be quite the ride. I bet you got a few hidden away too.

    • I've got no clue what to do with her😂😂😂😂

    • Well the beauty of it is that you can do anything! (Ahem, you can't. But well, you know, almost.) Honestly for now, toy with the idea a bit. Realize she told you this because she wants to play this fantasy out with YOU. When you got an idea or two then strut over to your girlfriend and let her know you checked this a bit and you think that if she wants to play with the fantasy then you want to hear how she imagines it. I am sure she got quite a few stories to help inspire you. Just remember that the attraction to her is that you are COMPLETELY in charge. It is consensual non-consent. So lean on her fantasy then step it up and surprise her a little bit. Oh personal tip. Practice some of the lines before you go through with it. Not laughing is hard.

  • Its a common fantasy... The idea is the person has absolutely no control and is for lack of a better term, a human fuck doll..

    For most the turn on is that theh r being used semi against their will for someone else's pleasure... Dont be alarmed.. If done right it's completely safe and can be fun

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  • No one wants to actually be raped because you can be killed during it, brutally beaten, and critically injured.

    I think she means roleplay which is totally different than how you are taking it.

    She wants to be taken controlled of in the bed.

    She wants to act it out in all fun.

    This is more common than you think.

    • Oh, if only it stopped at "in all fun" and "in the bed". If only.

  • I would say your overreacting. Its probably just a desire to be completely dominated and not be able to do anything about it. doesn't have to be with a stranger. Maybe it was a hint to do some role playing? strap on a mask, wait for her to come home, pop out of nowhere and dominate her on the kitchen floor. It's a thrill.

    • WTF I would have to break up, could never do that. I the middle of it I'll be like bebe you ok? Did i hurt you? Was that too hard?

  • She doesn't want to actually be raped. It's a common misuse of terminology that people do when what they're trying to say is that they want to engage in rape-play, a subculture of BDSM which emphasizes the dominance/submission aspect of relationships.

  • This is way out of your league at the moment, but, sometime when you have at least a few hours, google "rape fantasy" and start reading. And get ready to learn that every single thing you've ever been taught about women is wrong.

    • So she wants me to rape her but not it a proper rape way? If that makes any sense to you

    • Oh, honey dear... Not only does this "make sense" to me, it is pretty much the entire fabric of my sexual being. This isn't gna be some little bitty fantasy that occupies a teeny little corner of her mind every onceinawhile.

    • Soo, your boyfriend/husband does that to you? I'm confused by what you mean

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  • I think it's just the idea of being controlled, a man being dominant. Sort of a BDSM fetish.

  • She wants to be over powered by you like how rape victim feels.. Be at the mercy of someone else... That contradictory feeling turns her on. I think this fantasy is disturbing.

  • She doesn't want to be raped. She's attracted to the fantasy. Big difference. Go apologize and act out a rape FANTASY with her.

  • It's the most common fantasy ever.

  • That's not about rape, it's about role playing.

  • Yes you are over reacting, but @redeyemindtricks has covered where to start, yes she may be on the extreme side but at least after your homework she has given you have someone to talk to about it.

  • Don't do it, it can be dangerous, She seems like she doesn't think deeply enough about it.

  • It's just a fantasy.

    Role-play it. I did. It's fun.

  • Not overreacting, she doesn't want that

  • No means yes to some people

  • She doesn't want literal rape she wants like role playing version and yeah u kinda overreacted

  • cuz she never get raped before

  • I think she is more saying she would like to be dominated. That she wants the feeling of doing someone's wish and not being in control.

    Nobody wants to be raped. Take it from someone who has been. I don't blame you for over reacting.

  • If I simplify... she wants you to be dominant and rough.

  • If my woman told me that I'd put a mini dress on her and get her ass blind drunk and high as fuck, drive her to the hood at 3am and leave her there. I would tape a coin to the bottom of her foot so she could call me from a payphone when her drugged, raped ass wakes the fuck up.
    But I'm sick like that.

    • Don't be a dick. She's telling him her fantasy, that's all.

    • @Intraluminal is that what she said?

  • This is really really common.

    So relax.

    She wants you to pretend to rape her while deep down actually wanting it and also ultimately knowing she's safe.

  • its the domenance and surprise, maybe even being rough, and at the will of someone else, being pinned down etc... etc. thats what she wants not the whole idea of a stranger screwing her.