My girlfriend wants to sleep with someone else?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been with her about 9 mo and we are in love and we are great together. but she has recently said she wants to explore sex with men, we are a w/w couple, and she has never been with a man before and wants to try it out, which I understand, she says it’s just to have sex and she doesn’t want a relationship with them or to even get to know them, a one night stand if you will, I’m just going back and forth between being okay with it and also being filled with insecurities and jealousy, I don't know what to do.

[Effably]

Unlike the others I wouldn't blame her for this at all.

Should she have tried and figured things out before getting seriois with you? Sure. But life doesn't work that way. Sometimes someone fantastic comes along and you don't wait five years the way you planned it because well, you want them.

As for agreeing or not that is entirely up to you. As is what you two are okay with. Absolutely do not blame her for curiosity though, or for sharing that. As much as it can be a choice of bad and worse for you she still acted the way one would wish about it.

Its up to you though. I could maybe be swayed were I in your position but I know myself well enough to realize that sharing will never be for me. I might be able to be more into it if we're both trying something together.

Talk it over in a non-judgemental way. At the very least try to get a grasp on exactly what she wants to try so you can take an informed stance. Remember that this discussion does not need to lead anywhere. It can be stated beforehand you're just looking for a little more insight.

Good luck. Whatever you two end up doing.

[MementoMori777]

Let her go, for your own mental health, I mean she wants to try a guy and if she likes it better than a woman Where will that leave you?, not to mention it's in our instincts, she says it's only for sex but now she wants to have sex with someone else, if her mind opened up to this then what makes you think her mind won't change if she likes a guy more, after all it's natural instinct for a man and a woman to get attraction and she's attracted to men as well from the sounds of it or she wouldn't have the curiosity now would she, I say it's best to let her go because if you aren't going to stop her from sleeping with someone else, you shouldn't stick around either.

[petitedollbabee]

Break up. If she wanted to sleep with someone else she should’ve done that while she was single. You don’t enter a monogamous relationship and then want to sleep with someone else. She’s asking for permission to cheat. And you’re clearly not okay with that since you’re having some doubts. Don’t agree to it if you’re not comfortable with it, it will inevitably break you up and you’ll be the one being blamed since you agreed to it happening.

[OlderAndWiser]

You can say, "Yes," and hope for the best.

You can say, "Yes, but I want to be there," and hope for the best.

You can say, "Yes, but I want to be there and join in," and hope for the best.

Or you can say, "No," and expect the worst.

[richardcory]

Its 100% up to you if you are OK with it and 100% up to her if she decides to do it anyway.

Its a really tough situation for you. If it were me, I'd tell here that you honestly don't know how you will feel afterwards.

[Berethor]

She not loyal to you and one night stand is bad, but she want to stop being technical virgin.

[GubGubo]

You should really talk to her in-depth about it and be upfront about how you feel about it.

[slatyb]

Do you trust her to practice safe sex?

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Why the f would you agree to share her? It's low for her to even consider itm

[ImalwaysrightOK]

**it

[kellytheman]

Maybe let her do it but you have to be there while she does and maybe you get to pick the guy also. Also maybe compromise with her and gave a threesome with a guy.

[Nightmoon83]

I would say let her do it now if you are not comfortable with it so it with her that way she knows everything is ok if you are nothing doing it. Also set some rules like condoms will be used or no cumming in her or anything like that. Also make sure you both set boundaries and rules to know what’s ok and what’s not

[nawtee_me]

If you don’t let her explore with you then she will without you…

[brandon1122]

Break up! You deserve better

[CubaPirate]

You're obviously not enough for her so I suggest you move on

[tallblondejohm]

Have a threesome

[Anonymous]

Find a weirdo if you go through with that.