My girlfriend would rather masturbate then have sex with me, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Hi. So my girlfriend openly admitted to me that she “gets more excitement out of fingering herself, then me”. Okay... so im not so innocent when it comes to this, she does anything and everything to make me aroussed, like she will strip off, pull her shirt up and touch herself. Like gets right in the mood and i say “later” or “no”. I've made her wait like 3 days and still haven't paid out, she wanted intercourse last night and waiting at the door until i finished a game. I think she waited like 10 minutes, in the end i heard her walk off and say “i give up. I give up, I actually give up”. I went to her (yes i was annoyed) and she was upset and she said “i give up, honestly. I try everything and you push and push me away, its exhausting. I can't keep trying anymore. Every time i try, you always say ‘no’ and push me away. It hurts”. I did say to her “you don’t understand, i can't just pause a game online”. She said “i get more excitement out of fingering myself, you never do anything. But reject me” i did end up walking into another room, to cool off. Cause that hurt my feelings, then i came back and decided to hug her and when i tried to touch her breasts she made no sound or movement, she just laid there like if she couldnt feel it at all. Not even when i hugged her... she wouldn't even hug me back. I honestly reject pushing her away when she wanted sex, cause now i feel like she won't have it with me anymore. What should i do for her? I know she's been down about it all, i talk to my friends about kids and wanting to be a dad etc. then she says “you talk about children. But never want to do it to try and make one”. Honestly at this point I don't know what to even do

[AustinMan]

Have you thought about just manning up and giving her a hot, hard bare bottom spanking for masturbating without permission? I'm guessing she'd like that.

[Asker]

She loves all that kinda stuff and im scared ill hurt her

[AustinMan]

Are these helpful?

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[msc545]

Instead of getting worried about her masturbating let her do what she needs to do to get yourself aroused and then go ahead and f*** her for as long as she likes. You can make it even better by eating or first

[Cherokeehp]

This issue has a very simple answer. Just fuck your girlfriend.

[memer2020]

without consent? that's rape

[Cherokeehp]

@memer2020 What makes you think I meant rape? She wants to have sex with him. She’s only upset because he did not want to have sex with her. I’m not a advising him to force himself on her. I’m pretty sure anyone with at least one working brain cell could infer that. I simply meant that he should make an attempt to reconcile with her and have consensual sex with her.

[memer2020]

you would be suprised of the level of misinterpretation the human mind can do

[Cherokeehp]

@memer2020 Sometimes I forget how prevalent idiots are in this earth. I’ll remember to dumb everything down next time.

[memer2020]

never mind i didn't read his story i just looked at the responses

[memer2020]

well yea you might have to since there are literal pedophiles who think they should be apart of the LBGTQ community because they are "unfairly oppressed "

[normalice]

Offer butt sex while she masturbates.

[Dragonstarterplus]

Hmmm ok this is a tough one. Have you tried... having sex with her?

[okeydoke]

Dude, you’re the asshole not her. Turn off the fucking game like an adult and fuck your partner.

[In_Trance]

dump her

[Younghungguy17]

Ultimately you need to give her more attention and meet her needs or she’s going tk leave. Maybe talk to her find out what she wants

[Asker]

Like she is a amazing girlfriend, she knows how to cook, she does all the cleaning, we game together, like she does everything for me. We did have a discussion a few weeks back that she does everything around here and never feels appreciated or thanked. Like she does, she is badly OCD and wants everything clean, like we game together and i would love to play on my PC more and game with my mates, she did get upset yesterday and say “come on, follow me (she tried to pull me to the bedroom, but i pulled my arms back and said “later”) youve been gaming all day. Its break time now” but i said “no, i want to play my PC”. She went to bed clearly upset, she was in bed for maybe 10 minutes, walked out a little flushed and sat down to read a book. I asked her what did she do and she said “dont worry about that other thing. I helped myself”. Like she's not cheating on me or chatting up anyone, she is super faithful to me and never hides anything. I do get scared she will leave one day, she's honestly awesome. I wanna keep her happy and my mates, but she's been miserable for weeks now, as this kind of discussion has happened before. She sleeps a lot or reads, mainly sits by herself and i can't seem to keep her happy. I've only seen her happy once (between now and like a few weeks back) it was when i told her i was invited to a Halloween party, i made out i forgot to tell her. But my friends didn't invite her, she got happy and said she would love to go

[Asker]

I have noticed though, she is particularly close to one of my mates, he has a girlfriend too. Like she doesn't flirt with him or flirt over game chat, she always asks him to game and they dont include me, like she basically talks to him like a big brother. I jokingly said to him “sliding into my missus dms to game” she was super excited about this Halloween party, she said she's never been to one and what she's dressing up as (of course its from a anime show I've never heard of). My other friends she doesn't really talk to as much, like she's liked by everyone. It is good to see her have a friend, but its one of my mates i was close too, like im replaced, he always talks about how she's a better gamer then me. Like she is, cheat at mario kart and smash bros... and COD. But sometimes i do catch her staring another guy down, i do get a little jealous and insecure about it. But me and my mates talk about models etc so i guess its fair. I don't know why, but she will only stare at a guy with ginger hair/beard and a few tattoos. I mean she looks at me like im gods gift to her, but the sex stuff is the problem and its my fault i know. I feel like a dick, seeing everyones comments im going to go and give her some time. I know she might feel upset still. But i can only try or i will try later and hopefully she is in a better mood or feeling up to it. she's too good to be off with someone else, cooking them food, cleaning and gaming. I get upset even thinking of them kind of things 😫😫

[memer2020]

well you got no one self to blame but your self , try to win her back by trying to satisfy her sexual needs.
what is it she finds attractive about you?

[Asker]

Sorry for late reply, she thinks im the best gamer ever (although she's better then me), but otherwise i dont really know. She always laughs at me, we drink occasionally together and do stupid stuff or watch stupid stuff, we drank last night and play scary PC games. It was awesome, she basically lost sleep and was very tired at work, just to stay up with me. Weve been pretty good lately, but she started a new job and has become rather busy, especially with work and house work, i know i haven't helped her around the house, she will set chores for me to do, while she's at work and i get distracted by my PC, when she comes home at 3pm, she is straight to cleaning. she's also having trouble from a girl at work, i picked her up the day before and she was in tears. Says she is so stressed out and the girl makes her job worse, she is stressed out. I will admit our sex life has definitely improved. I told her to quit her job and i shit you not, she said “im only there, cause you want a PS5”. she's making money for me, not for us and i kinda hate it. She comes home with muscle aches and is extremely tired. She did tell me a chick i FW is coming back to town in a few weeks i think she is throwing out a hint for me not to have anything to do with her, like the girls trouble and managed to obtain our address, of course my girlfriend doesn't know. i didn't give it to her, she found out off some mates. But its cool to see our bed life has improved, but it sucks she's always stressed and upset, I've been trying to help her so much. I even brought her some boots i thought she would love, of course they haven't arrived and she doesn't know, but i told her about them and she said “omg i will definitely wear them for Halloween”

[Ivanhunter]

Get off the PC and spend time with her before you lose her

[Jack2571]

Get a new girlfriend

[Anonymous]

You muzt have a tiny dick.

[Anonymous]

Give her sex when she wants or else she will find someone who will