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My Guide to Spicing Up Your Marriage

Cuddling can be a great way to connect
Cuddling can be a great way to connect

Marriage can get very routine sometimes. It is easy to fall into a rut, especially after having children. It is important to actively find ways to connect romantically and intimately. We have done a lot of things to spice things up, so I thought I would share.

1. Have a regular date night. 4 years ago we decided to have our kids sleep at their grandparents house (alternating maternal and paternal) one Friday a month. We use that opportunity to get dolled up and go out for a nice dinner and usually drinks or coffee or ice cream after. Covid put a damper on it for a while but happy to report it is back in swing.

All little Covid humor LOL
All little Covid humor LOL

2. Schedule a weekly meeting with you and your spouse to talk about what is on your mind. That way if anything is going on between you, you can sort it out before it boils over.

3. Speaking of scheduling, put sex on the calendar. My husband and I like to send each other calendar invites. It is fun and exciting to us. We always get a good laugh out of them and when it is on the calendar we are actually motivated to do it. Some of our calendar invite examples were even published in a book!

My Guide to Spicing Up Your Marriage
My Guide to Spicing Up Your Marriage

4. Sext with your partner. We enjoy reading sexy messages from each other mixed in with the daily grind of work, kids, dishes, meals, etc…

5. Watch a sexy movie or porn together to get in the mood. I recommend the first half of Berlin Syndrome (that one gets me hot and bothered). The second half is quite dark which I also like, but I personally watch the halves separately.

6. Have naked time when the kids aren’t around (or when they are if you are a nudist family). Can be very erotic to do everyday things like cooking and cleaning with your partner while naked. It almost always gets us in the mood.

7. Do intimate things other than sex. Cuddle. Take a shower together. Use manual stimulation or oral sex. There are many ways to be intimate.

I like this one a lot!
I like this one a lot!

8. Try new sex positions regularly! We enjoy looking up new positions and trying them and have found several we both really like. Try looking here: https://sexpositions.club or https://www.kinkly.com/sex-positions.

9. Introduce toys. For him a ribbed sleeve can be fun for her to use on him for manual stimulation and in combination with fellatio. For her a magic wand or a dildo can be a fun addition for prior to sex, during sex or after sex.

10. Try different angles. You may find certain angles hit certain desirable areas on the lady and/or increase the stimulation for the man.

11. Mix it up! Try slow and passionate as well as hard and fast. Try some positions that are close and intimate where you can kiss and feel each others breath as well as others that have you positioned further away from each other.

12. Lose some inhibitions. I made a conscious decision to lose my inhibitions this year and it has been liberating and fun! Try things you never thought you would try. What is the harm in trying it once. Anal sex, anal licking, double penetration with a toy and penis or finger and penis, sex in semi public places, and many more possibilities if you and your partner are open to trying them.

You could always get your man this for valentines day 😂
You could always get your man this for valentines day 😂

Hope this helps some couples out of a rut! I have been there. We had a 4 month dry spell once and it wasn’t fun for either of us. Have fun!

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  • Hey nice I'll have to try these. Niice take!

    • Awesme! Lmk how it goes!

    • Will doo

  • nice myTake. Lots of good ideas. I liked the juxtaposition picture of the mold and the thermometer.

    • Thanks @exitseven! I thought that was funny. 😂

    • and it was. did you take it with your phone? the picture quality was good.

    • Nahhh found the meme and loved it. Glad I found a good place for it.

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  • With, would not be married for almost 30 if we did nothing. We had a date night tonight and got caught by the cops in the park.

    Yes we were being freaky

    • Hellllll yes! Get it you two!

  • Thanks for sharing this. 🤗🤗

    • You are very welcome!

  • Very nice n detailed 👌 😘😘
    How to spice up a prostitute's marriage though lol

    • The non sexual things might be more exciting for you to build anticipation.

    • And thank you! 🥰

    • Non sexual? Really? U know well what k8nd of sex crazy person i am

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  • I call this superb advice!

    • Thank you very much! 🥰

  • Your mytakes are always so informative ❤️ I hope that no one looks at my search history 😂

    • I wish i could save this though for the future if I do get married

    • I wonder if I’ll need toys in the future? I already know that I kind of have this fantasy in which I wish that he would do me in his work clothes but that’s like the only fantasy that I have 😂

    • Uniforms are sexy! You can screen shot this or save the link. :)

  • I LOVE the calendar idea!! 😆

    • Also, GREAT post! Very well done. I agree with everything.

    • Thank you and thank you! 😍

    • You're welcome!

  • Wonderful take 😌

    • Thank you! :)

    • Your welcome 😌

  • What inhibitions did you shed

    • Body insecurity and let him eat my ass and fuck me with toys lol

    • Ohh... So that was something new for u?

    • Yes. This year

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  • Good article. You should teach "how to be a good wife" classes.

    • Ha! Thanks.

    • Welcome.

  • Sure did!

    • I helped spice up your marriage?

    • I’m not married, but this has re-energized my thoughts and ideas as it relates to marriage

    • Fabulous. Glad to hear it.

  • This is really good. Even scheduling sex is fun because you make time for it and the closer it gets, the more exciting it is. But these are all really good tips.

    • So true! I know people say scheduling sex makes it a chore but I disagree. With *those* kind of calendar invites it’s like advanced sexting. Glad you likes the tips. :)

  • I like this.

    • Thank you. I’m glad. :)

    • We do things like this.

  • Sounds good, but won’t scheduling sex be a little routine

    • Do those Google calendar invites look “routine”? 😂😂😂😂

    • It’s like advanced sexting for us. Sexting that sends us a reminder. Lmao

    • 😂😂😂

  • You know, all of those are doable without involving marriage so I don't know what it does have to do with anything.

    • I learned this within the context of my marriage thankyouverymuch. And I don’t know what your comment has to do with anything.

    • The title said "Spicing Up Your Marriage" so you're not talking about yourself. My comment has anything to do with giving an opinion

    • If the take isn’t for you, just scroll on by

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  • Thanks for sharing ghat loves2learn. I'm feeling so horny reading that. I wish I had a partner right now for some sex tonite.😁😁😁

    However soon. I will reach there

    • Normal evolutionary male response.

    • Yep. Its sure is

  • I agree with everything. I the ones that I'm not sure or are 4, 5, 6 and 11.

    3 would be a mixed one as like having things planned out but wouldn't want spontinaity to go. But I like the idea of knowing to be able to get ready with a shower and that.

    4 - I don't know how to do that one nor do I know if I would be able to do so. I maybe to nervous and that.

    5 - again would be nervous but okay to try maybe once. Plus if worry if sharing that could make it weird between me and partner.

    6 - I can see how it could be fun but I can't spend time naked myself. I feel really bad doing so. Also I would he worried about having a constant reaction. Is that the point tho? For both to be you know turned on?

    11 - would be tough as I love the idea of slow and passionate and close and intimate. I don't think I could do hard and fast or positions where I couldntn see my partner or kiss/hold her easily.

    7 is an interesting one, for me I love the look of but I would think that giving oral and hand stuff counts as sex. I'd love the cuddeling, showering/bathing together maybe even normal/erotic massages.

    I love all the ideas tho and think they are brilliant as ways to spice up a relationship.

    Tho at this point I'd love to have someone to cuddle with like shown in your first photo. And somedays like today I'd actually want to be the one in the place the woman is.

    And it would be great to be guy number 5 on the mug.

    Sorry for the long answer and hope maybe they are a little interesting.

    • Sorry u got a little carried away in my reply.

    • Supposed to be I*

    • 😂😂😂😂😂😂 thank you for the in depth assessment sir!

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  • Good stuff Ms Loves

    • Thank you :)

  • Very fun and creative!

    • Yes indeed! Helps to not take life too seriously all the time. 😊

    • sure does - you two seem really great!

    • Awww thanks for saying that. Marriage takes work but we have been together for 20 years so it is worth it.

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