My hookup is too scared to talk sexy or do the act. But is possessive. Why?

My hookup is too scared to have sex and never talks dirty. Yet he wants to be the first and the only guy I ever kissed. And he is very possessive of me.

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  • It's difficult to say exactly why your hookup is behaving this way without more information, but it's possible that he may have some underlying issues with intimacy or may not feel comfortable with sexual situations. The possessiveness could be a sign of insecurity or a desire for control.

    It's important to communicate with your hookup and set clear boundaries and expectations for your relationship. If you feel uncomfortable with his possessiveness or lack of sexual communication, it's important to express your concerns and see if there is a way to address them together. At the same time, it's important to respect your hookup's boundaries and limitations, and to make sure that any sexual activity is consensual and safe for both parties. If you feel like the relationship is not meeting your needs or is causing you distress, it may be time to consider ending the relationship and seeking out more fulfilling connections.

    • He keeps asking for sex but when the situation comes, he vanishes, yet wants me to be only his'. Moreover we both have agreed on being hookups but he can barely tolerate any man in my life.

    • It sounds like your hookup may be sending mixed signals and may not be respecting your boundaries or needs. It's important for both partners in a casual hookup to be on the same page and to communicate openly and honestly about their expectations and boundaries. The fact that he's possessive and jealous of other men in your life, despite the fact that you've agreed to a casual hookup, may be a red flag. It's important for each person to prioritize their own well-being and to make sure that their needs and boundaries are being respected in any relationship. If you feel uncomfortable or unsafe in any way, it may be best to end the hookup and find someone who respects and values you. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and to make sure that you're in a relationship or hookup situation that makes you feel safe, respected, and happy.

Most Helpful Guy

  • He sounds like he’s inexperienced and also very emotionally attached to you.


    There’s no reason to be scared to dirty talk or have sex if he’s confident in the bedroom and knows what he’s doing.


    And he won’t be possessive of you if he was emotionally detached.


    It sounds like he 100% will catch feelings (more like his feelings for you will get even stronger) if you two have sex.


    You’re looking for a hookup and he’s looking for a an exclusive girlfriend.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • He has bonded without sex which is rare.

  • how old is he,

  • Ummmmmmmmmmm... I thought it was a hookup only if you have sex. How is that person your "hookup"?

  • He sounds like a mess honestly

    • Let me break it down for you. My hookup is too scared to have sex and never talks dirty. >> Then how's that a hookup? Hookups are a yes and no question lmao. Yet he wants to be the first and the only guy I ever kissed. >> In what universe, honey? And he is very possessive of me. >> Are you in a romantic relationship with him? No? Then he gets no rights!

  • he does not want to be a hookup aka the blatantly obvious.

  • wtf is this?

    A hookup that won't hookup? What the hell is going on here?

  • is he gay?

  • lol if you want dirty talk come pm me haha

  • I've had many hookups and they always fuck me.