Guys, My husband caught me playing with myself and went mad?

Question

Me and my husband have been together 25 years, no cheating as far as I’m aware, atlesst not on my part anyway. We have a decent sex life, and on average have sex 3/4 times a week. I have always masturbated, ever since a teenager, I find it’s a great stress release ontop of feeling great too. Although sex it good, masturbation just hits a spot sometimes that no one else can do for me. My partners never knew of this, not that it was necessarily a secret but just because it’s never actually came up in conversation, and in all our years together he’s never asked me. Last night I was in bed pleasing myself, I heard him pull up and instead of hiding I carried on, as what’s the harm? Anyway he went mad. We had an argument, and he says I don’t need to do that as I have a partner, he was asking who and what I was thinking of, he says he doesn’t want me touching myself without him there. How would you react?

PositiveFlight · Accepted Answer

That’s horrible. I’m completely understanding that at times you just need to relax and let your body cum.

I don’t know what he’s thinking or if it’s a control factor but I’d be so turned on walking in on a girl I like and am with. I’d ask if I can watch and kiss her. I’d probably want to put it inside her after she has had a good and fulfilling climax by her own doing.

It doesn’t have to be a bad experience. Knowing a girl is pleasuring herself makes me turned on, not jealous

DrewJohnson · Accepted Answer

Sorry things went down this way. Maybe when things have cooled down she why you masturbate. Maybe find some middle ground. For example, you could let him know when you masturbate (before or after).

Sorry he reacted so strongly to you masturbating.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

You should say to him, "I'll listen to your argument as soon as you experience me rejecting your request for sex."

ArrowheadSW · Answer

To me, it is more of a "turn on" when a woman is comfortable enough with her sexuality to tell me that she masturbates. It wouldn't bother me at all.

integrale77 · Answer

I'd walk in and say "oh can I give you a hand"

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I Wouldn’t Be MAD I Would JOIN In & tell your husband, Happy Wife, Happy Life!

boggboss · Answer

I would tell my partner no lol

slatyb · Answer

Tell him to go fuck himself. He should be glad you are so sexual.

MementoMori777 · Answer

That seems amutted from his part, he'd rather you cheat? Wtf 😂

AviatorTom · Answer

If my SO was enjoying herself, I certainly wouldn't be mad. I would encourage her, maybe even join her. Actually, we've done that many times.

Kalobus121 · Answer

if that was his reaction, that means hi is insecure about his bed performance, personally if i caught my girl masturbating i would helped her lol

Dargil · Answer

If I walked in on you, I "wouldn't notice", make a U-turn and go out and pour a bourbon.

exitseven · Answer

I bet he does it too

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Kind of a weird reaction, honestly.

VikingWarLord · Answer

Monogamy is not natural for humans.

We are primate mammalian species and 97% of all mammals are poly, with noted incidences of poly in the other 3% as well.

Our closest animal relatives the chimps and bonobos (who share 98% the same DNA as humans) are nowhere close to monogamous.

It's in our DNA to have more than one partner. Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan. Maybe even read it with him.

Sparkie460 · Answer

He was way off base. Even married couples masterbate by themselves.

mommymommymommy · Answer

I would too

In_Trance · Answer

This guy is a douche

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Why it's perfectly natural he should helped you out

Pterodon · Answer

He’s wrong. I would’ve joined you and we could’ve watched each other

bananathunder · Answer

sorry to hear... I know the feeling though. Sometimes you just need that nut that only you can give yourself. Too bad he didn't want to hang out and watch and maybe get himself off too. that's what I would have done...

Masumgunahkar · Answer

he thought she was dreaming of someone else

riverrat3 · Answer

He is not strong enough to handle it

karekaaaa · Answer

Just say sorry it won't happen again.. Sure u will do it but next time care about he dont catch you 👍

tallblondejohm · Answer

Why did he go mad I would of done it with u

Anonymous · Answer

Sorry you got caught that's why I prefer to masturbate in private because if you get caught it can cause some negative reactions. For me I can understand why some woman masturbate especially if you have a guy who cares nothing about foreplay, just want to ejaculate and go about his business. Next time ask him: "Do you prefer me to go and have sex with someone else or masturbate?"